I don't know whether the rest of you ladies have been unlucky enough to have experienced this, but last night I was lucky to have escaped a murder charge! I know ttc is supposed to be about couples, but do you ever feel like all the weight sits on your shoulders whilst men just breeze on by?! I have been through scans, blood tests, gross examinations and even surgery (laparoscopy on saturday which was bloody horrible!) and yet yesterday when I asked my DEAREST OTHER HALF to go for a second sperm test, as his first was low but the doc said it could be a one off, he sighed and said 'if i have to!' and he said he just 'didnt think it was neccessary, and it was embarrassing!' I was FURIOUS!!!! I've just had a man rooting around in my lady parts for almost six months and he can't even have a tug in a cup!!! I tell you ladies, he'll regret turning it down cause that's the only bit of romantic action he's going to be getting for a VERY long time! Sorry for the rant but men can be SUCH selfish pigs! This was the cherry on the cake after i've stopped even drinking socially and he still insists on smoking everyday! Am I wasting my time? He says he wants this just as much as me yet he complains when I bring it up saying i'm obsessed and it just causes arguments! Am I the only one going through this?