me, my mum and my OH

[sarah113]

im getting really down latley as my mum and my boyfriend dont get on and im stuck in the middle all the time.
i go round my mums every sunday for dinner just me and the kids but i would like to go as a family, his not allowed in my mums house anymore and my mum wont come round if hes home, i tried talking to my mum but she just seems to get angry everytime i bring it up.
it is partley to do with my bf as he dont speak to my mum very often and if he does its either just quick awnsers like yes or no.
im not going to bore you lot anymore just had to write it down somewhere
i just dont know what to do anymore i feel really low and depressed
sometimes i just feel like running away (me and the kids) and just let everyone get on with it
anyway sorry its long and sorry to bother you all with my problems
take care all
sarahxxxx

 

[sarah113]

sorry if it dont make sense, im stupid

 

[glitzyglamgirl]

It makes perfect sense, and your not stupid.

Have you spoken to them both about how you feel about the whole situation? Im sure if they really knew how it was effecting you, especially being pregnant, they would be embarrassed about thier behaviour.

Its horrible when 2 people you love dont get on, and a real shame. Sometimes nothing can be done to mend the damage between them but the least they could do is be pleasant to eachother for your sake and for your kids sakes.

If you need to chat more please pm me xxxx

 

[sarah113]

thank for your advise hun, im just feeling really low today and everything is getting on top of me, thanx again
sarahxxxx

 

[Hypnorm]

I know how you feel, my previous two boyfriends my mum and dad hated and it was so horrible being in the middle, they always said age doesnt matter in a relationship, but when my first bf was 14 yrs older and the second 13 yrs older they didnt like it at all.
There would always be snide comments, niether were welcome at my mums house, it was even more difficult coz i lived at home, fortunatley no kids were involed.

I just wished they'd been a bit more grown up about things but neither of them would, my parents won in the end and both relationships ended as i was in an impossible situtation, but they get on really well with my OH he is a yr younger than me so they are quite happy - we've had our fall outs but things are going well.

I just hope you can sort things out, not much advice sorry but i know how you feel

 

[nicilou]

im getting really down latley as my mum and my boyfriend dont get on and im stuck in the middle all the time.
i go round my mums every sunday for dinner just me and the kids but i would like to go as a family, his not allowed in my mums house anymore and my mum wont come round if hes home, i tried talking to my mum but she just seems to get angry everytime i bring it up.
it is partley to do with my bf as he dont speak to my mum very often and if he does its either just quick awnsers like yes or no.
im not going to bore you lot anymore just had to write it down somewhere
i just dont know what to do anymore i feel really low and depressed
sometimes i just feel like running away (me and the kids) and just let everyone get on with it
anyway sorry its long and sorry to bother you all with my problems
take care all
sarahxxxx

Hi sarah , First things first ,you have to make urself happy.I know you are going to say that the only thing that would make you happy is if they got on but thats not going to happen, so go for the the next best thing .

My situation for example is that i haven't spoke to my mum for 2 years, i was so unhappy with all the comments and goings on between my mum and oh that i exploded at my mum.
Im not saying that you should do the same cause i miss my mum lots, but my life is so much eaiser and me and my partner get along great now. It got to the point where i had to make meself happy. My prioties are MY own family and if mum won't except that then thats her loss.
Sorry if i haven't been much help.
Hope you get something sorted, and cheer up you got lots to look forward to .x

 

[Cat&Noah]

Well this is where you find out who really cares about you, if either of them do then they will put the effort in for your sake.

Why is it that your mum dislikes your OH so much? has he ever done anythin in particular or is it just his attitude/personality?

Also does your OH like your mum, is he short with her for a reason, or is it just because he is shy or feels akward around her?

It basically seems to me that your mum is being very unfair. Its also unfair on your kids, as when they get older they will start asking questions on why your mum wont let their dad come round for dinner too. The fact is that you have chosen to be with this person and you love them. You have a family together and so you do things together, so if she doesnt want to see you as a family then she doesnt get to see you at all, she cant just cut people out.

 

[sarah113]

thanx everyone, its helped a bit, i will try and talk to my mum over the weekend about it, but if she dont want to know ill have to leave it again because shes all ive got as my dad lives in canada and i have not seen him for 7 years!! thanx again
sarahxxxxx

 

[mummykay]

hi sarah, i hope ur ok - i know exactly wot ur goin thru but it didnt end so pretty for me

i found out i was preggas and at 19, it wasnt wot my mum and stepdad thought id b doin but id been with my OH for 4yrs before bubba so we thought they would accept it.

However, 6mths thru my pregnancy they decided i wasnt to see my OH and baby would have no contact with its dad - WHY????

To cut a long story short, it ended with me bein thrown out, all on my own cos i have never known my dad so had to move in with OH and his parents as they are all the family i have.

since they threw me out iv had no contact with them, theyve never seen Jamie and their house is up for sale and i dunno where they r moving to??

I hope this doesnt happen to u, its horrible bein caught in the middle but i hope everythin works out! plus uv got a lil bubba to look forward to!

pm me if u need to chat hun