Making pregnancy friends

[DanniiM85]

Hi all,

I am 20 + 5 into our unplanned (but very much wanted/loved) pregnancy.

I currently live over an hour away from my partner and I will be moving into his in May.

My concern is that I am moving away from my (small) social circle and further from my family.

Obviously family will travel up to visit and I will visit them, also along with a handful of friends, but I'm concerned that I will be out-casting myself a little.

An hour plus is a long way to drive and to expect others to drive to see me and I'm worried that I will be incredibly lonely.

How can I make new friends when not working or socialising? Are there any classes you can suggest?

I wouldn't say I'm a shy or unfriendly person, but I've never been incredibly sociable and I know i need to snap out of it and start making new friends

Any hints and tips will be greatly appreciated!

D x

 

[scn]

Join ante natal exercise class or aqua natal you don't really need to be into exercise you can just pretend lol but it'll get you meeting other mums. Once baby is here you'll also meet new friends by going to mum and baby groups, go along to as many things as you can manage to get to know people xx be open and honest with the other mums that you've just moved and are feeling a bit isolated and I'm sure they take you under their wings xx

 

[Phoenix85]

Could you get booked onto some antenatal classes in your new area?

I think you'll want to spend most of your time with other new mum friends anyway as after you have a baby you often find you don't have as much to talk about with old friends who don't have babies. Plus it's nice to have people to chat with who are due at the same time as you (or have babies a similar age to yours)

Also if you're planning to breastfeed, the local breastfeeding support group or La Leche League would be good too and you can go along before your due date.

 

[CDx]

I found Daisy classes when my son was 11 weeks old but they do birthing classes. It's different from other baby groups I've been to because every class starts with a chat of how your week has been and you're given the chance to vent or ask questions. This is where I've bonded with people most on my mat leave and a few of the girls did birthing classes together so have went from bump to first birthday with each other. They might be worthwhile looking into.

Cx

 

[Prettypee]

I would book an nct antenatal course in the area you will move to- I had one for baby no.1 and all 8 couples are now great friends. The girls met weekly through the whole mat leave and we still whatsapp everyday. They are now my closest friends and understand exactly what I'm going through

 

[Blueclass]

I found NCT classes alot of money in my area it's 200. However they do free coffee mornings which you can attend. I might do that and see what happens.

 

[Prettypee]

Nct is expensive but I think worth it if you can. The coffee mornings are good also
, I attended with the girls I'd met in my class