Lost my temper

[lauramumof2]

Ive had a shit day. Joe just winged from the start, we were all up early and Jessica has been moany. All ive done all day is change dirty nappies from Joe which he hates (makes it very difficult to do) and put up with madams temper which wasnt too bad bad but at dinner time I just snapped. Joe was winging in one ear and Jessica was in the other saying she wasnt eating anything, I picked the spoon up and she spat it out.

Well (im not proud of this) I slapped her arm hard and shoved the spoon back in her mouth and told her she better bloody well eat it.

What kind of person does this, Im so ashamed of myself and the fear in her eyes spoke volumes. How do I mend this.

No one understands how hard im finding it with the two of them and they arent that bad but I just feel as if I cant cope with them and the winging.
Peopl always say what lovely children they are but they arent the ones up from 6.30 running about like a blue ars fly, trying to feed one that doesnt want to eat and trying to keep up with one that wont stop.

How do I control my temper, im so sad. Basically im a bully and a bad mum.

 

[budge]

Ive had a sh*t day. Joe just winged from the start, we were all up early and Jessica has been moany. All ive done all day is change dirty nappies from Joe which he hates (makes it very difficult to do) and put up with madams temper which wasnt too bad bad but at dinner time I just snapped. Joe was winging in one ear and Jessica was in the other saying she wasnt eating anything, I picked the spoon up and she spat it out.

Well (im not proud of this) I slapped her arm hard and shoved the spoon back in her mouth and told her she better bloody well eat it.

What kind of person does this, Im so ashamed of myself and the fear in her eyes spoke volumes. How do I mend this.

No one understands how hard im finding it with the two of them and they arent that bad but I just feel as if I cant cope with them and the winging.
Peopl always say what lovely children they are but they arent the ones up from 6.30 running about like a blue ars fly, trying to feed one that doesnt want to eat and trying to keep up with one that wont stop.

How do I control my temper, im so sad. Basically im a bully and a bad mum.

i understand how hard it is becasue ive been there and im still there.
It does get better laura. you'll have your bad days when everything pisses you off and you'll have good days.
try to tell yourself you're not wondermum snd odn't try to be. you're only human.
Jessica will get over it and so will you.
go to bed - and tomorrow will be a new day!

 

[mary70]

dont worry about it hun we all have bad days just put it behind you, tomorrow is another day

 

[Nic'n'Keeley]

Hun you are NOT a bad mum... everyone has bad days and you have realised what you have done wrong thats great

Belive me i find it hard sometimes with1 and you have 2 you are doin a amazin job and should be proud i couldn't do it


Is there not a play scheme Jessica could go to for a few hours a week or a family member who can help???

Hope your alrite

 

[budge]

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sometimes when i ve got all mine in bed i go up and look at them and think fook me all ive done is shout at them all day and i want to wake them up and tell them im sorry.

I think this is normal. Its a mothers job to feel guilty all the time

 

[h33]

aww sweetie there must be something in the air today because my 2 have acted up too. Your definatly not a bully just a normal mum, of course they know you love them but everyone has a breaking point.

My 2 are about the same age difference and believe me there are days when i could happily walk away and never come back, just take a few minutes to yourself and then go back to them when they are driving you nuts.

Don't worry she'll of forgotten all about it tomorrow

Heather

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[lauramumof2]

Thanks so much people. The thing is I dont have them all the time. But if im not at work im with them. I work 2 and a half days and Im much calmer at work.

I dont like the temper side of me. I like to think I can walk away calm down then come back in. But kids are unrelenting sometimes, they are pushing all buttons at once. Stuart will be livid when I tell him what I done but he has to know.

Thanks again, you guys are great.

 

[Tiny Sue]

Awww hun

I only have Naomi, who is a quiet little thing most of the time, but there are times when she's been crying non stop for two days it seems and OH is at work and he comes in and wants to go out to the gym so that I'm stuck with her whinging again and I'd just love to scream at her.

And I will admit that I have done that. Twice in the last 18 months, I snapped and screamed. I felt awful too.

I think you need a time out. I don't know if you're on your own, but if OH is there, tell him you need a couple of hours out. Go for a walk, a swim, a sauna. Have a massage. Chant mantras on the bank of a river somewhere. Sketch a bridge. Time away from your little ones will make them appreciate you more (and your OH see what you're going through) and it will make you a calmer mum.

You're not a bully. You're a mother who is at her wits' end with very little support.

*HUG*

Hang in there

Sue

 

[sophie-jordan]

i think you have sent it my way today
all they are doing is argueing with each other, moaning, fightin, i just want to have 5 mintues of peace!!!
x sophie x

 

[lauramumof2]

The next day was lots better. Sorry i sent it your way sophie, i hope by now they have settled down,

Thanks everyone, you always know what to say.

 

[Dee1985]

awww dont feel bad

my mum had 5 of us and at times she just had anough i still love her and never took it to heart

I have smacked Dior twice and i felt sick with guilt after,

nothing Hard but i felt bad, we were in ikea and she dug her nails and peirced my skin and it bled it hurt so much and i was upset she hane done it, i just reacted straight away with out thinking and smaked her sholder it left a red mark for 5mins and she cryed for hours
made it worse that she kept saying "mummy i sowie" for ages after

your not a bad mum, just wanted to let you know that it does happen sometimes

your not a bully

 

[Nic'n'Keeley]

Awwww at Doir sayin" Mummy i sowie" thats soo cute

 

[alschafr]

your not a bad mum, sometimes it just happens, your only human

 

[x-kirsty-x]

sometimes when i ve got all mine in bed i go up and look at them and think fook me all ive done is shout at them all day and i want to wake them up and tell them im sorry.

Thats how I feel with Josh, sometimes it seems that all I've done is snap at him all day and when I see him asleep (I know its stupid ) I think to myself what if he never woke up and the last thing Id done was have a go at him.

I feel like a terrible mother and a bully 24/7. I keep telling myself that my kids deserve better and Im probably right

 

[foxymum]

sometimes when i ve got all mine in bed i go up and look at them and think fook me all ive done is shout at them all day and i want to wake them up and tell them im sorry.

Thats how I feel with Josh, sometimes it seems that all I've done is snap at him all day and when I see him asleep (I know its stupid ) I think to myself what if he never woke up and the last thing Id done was have a go at him.

I feel like a terrible mother and a bully 24/7. I keep telling myself that my kids deserve better and Im probably right

kirsty hun are you ok? i have seen a few posts from you where you say you are a crap mum & you're sooo not, you have 2 gorgeous boys & from piccies i have seen also a good looking OH sorry!!!
you are a fab mummy & really nees to believe i yourself hun, i wish i could give you a hug

 

[terri73]

We all have off days and yes its allowed!!!
My 5 yrs old daughter pushes her luck now and sometimes she goes to bed upset because i've shouted at her.
I too have wanted to wake her and apologise but i've left it.
Next morning she wakes up with a big smile and everything is forgotton. She loves me just the same.

 

[Tiny Sue]

Hi girls.

Hey Laura *HUG* glad you feeling better hun.

Kirsty, I agree with foxymum, you need to believe in yourself hunny. I have PMed you.

Sue

 

[x-kirsty-x]

Oh bloody hell, I forgot Id posted that last night

I just related so much to what the post was about and I actually sat and cried as I replied. It was late and I was tired and thats when I find myself sitting there and thinking about things.

Thanks foxy for the words of encouragement, Sue Im going to PM you back later when Ryan is settled

 

[foxymum]

Oh bloody hell, I forgot Id posted that last night

I just related so much to what the post was about and I actually sat and cried as I replied. It was late and I was tired and thats when I find myself sitting there and thinking about things.

Thanks foxy for the words of encouragement, Sue Im going to PM you back later when Ryan is settled