Interesting Times article this morning. Scary the costs these days. Wondered what other peoples opinions, experiences and so on have been with regards to weddings, their own or someone elses 
Has other people's experiences changed your views on getting married?
Cut the costs of getting married
With wedding costs running into thousands of pounds, keeping to a budget is vital, says James Charles..... Wedding costs article here
I found it interesting as I know a fair few people who have spent well into the tens of thousands of pounds for a wedding. Others who have done it on a far smaller budget. I'm not sure who had the better day overall. I remember the bigger wedding brides being in a total panic in the run up to the wedding, trying to make sure it was all pefect and having last minute problems to solve and dress alterations etc. A couple of women were so focused on the event they kind of lost sight about the actual marriage and their partner. One guy commented he wished he could have a quieter smaller wedding but his wife to be insisted on the full works so he went along with it, even though it wasn't what he really wanted. It seems to be seen as the womans day and sometimes I wonder what the man really wants.
My hubby would have been mortified at a big wedding, as would I, so we were happy with very small scale and it just being us pretty much. We got married in a registrars office infront of my parents and two close friends, we went home and had a wedding brunch with the friends and gooey homemade chocolate wedding cake, then took the dogs out for a walk on the hills. In the evening we all met up in a local restuarant and had a wonderful meal, the six of us. And that was it.
We had a lie in on the day, drove ourselves to the registrars, were laughing and joking and even got caught in a torrential downpour walking along the street that ended in me using the hand dryer at the registrars to dry my skirt and boots off with
We all saw the funny side of it and it just added to the day.
I wore an outfit I already owned, a pink shirt, purple checked skirt, grey cashmere cardi and Doc Marten boots. Hubby wore his favourite suit
We didn't exchange rings and have no plans to. One of our friends took the pics
Our honeymoon we took a few months later in April and went to the south of France to a place called Carcassonne for a long weekend.
Total cost? Less than £1000 all up.
Maybe it was my age when marrying, I was 36. I maybe felt differently about weddings and marriages than many women younger than me. My values and expectations of it were different to what I had considered in my 20's. What I felt important at 36 was maybe a world apart to what a woman of 26 would think. It was about the person not the day at that point, hence keeping it so small. Had we gone larger it would have then begun to detract as it would have meant more people, more organising, more everything, even on a budget and so we opted for the very bare bones. It worked for us and without the pressure of a bigger event wedding we simply said our vows and got on with life as if nothing had really changed. Without expectations of 'married life' after the wedding I found the transition much easier. There was no come down after a big wedding and honeymoon when back in the real world, no trying to practise signing my new surname as I kept my own, just life ticking on and we were and still are content
Has other people's experiences changed your views on getting married?Cut the costs of getting married
With wedding costs running into thousands of pounds, keeping to a budget is vital, says James Charles..... Wedding costs article here
I found it interesting as I know a fair few people who have spent well into the tens of thousands of pounds for a wedding. Others who have done it on a far smaller budget. I'm not sure who had the better day overall. I remember the bigger wedding brides being in a total panic in the run up to the wedding, trying to make sure it was all pefect and having last minute problems to solve and dress alterations etc. A couple of women were so focused on the event they kind of lost sight about the actual marriage and their partner. One guy commented he wished he could have a quieter smaller wedding but his wife to be insisted on the full works so he went along with it, even though it wasn't what he really wanted. It seems to be seen as the womans day and sometimes I wonder what the man really wants.
My hubby would have been mortified at a big wedding, as would I, so we were happy with very small scale and it just being us pretty much. We got married in a registrars office infront of my parents and two close friends, we went home and had a wedding brunch with the friends and gooey homemade chocolate wedding cake, then took the dogs out for a walk on the hills. In the evening we all met up in a local restuarant and had a wonderful meal, the six of us. And that was it.
We had a lie in on the day, drove ourselves to the registrars, were laughing and joking and even got caught in a torrential downpour walking along the street that ended in me using the hand dryer at the registrars to dry my skirt and boots off with
We all saw the funny side of it and it just added to the day. I wore an outfit I already owned, a pink shirt, purple checked skirt, grey cashmere cardi and Doc Marten boots. Hubby wore his favourite suit
We didn't exchange rings and have no plans to. One of our friends took the pics
Total cost? Less than £1000 all up.
Maybe it was my age when marrying, I was 36. I maybe felt differently about weddings and marriages than many women younger than me. My values and expectations of it were different to what I had considered in my 20's. What I felt important at 36 was maybe a world apart to what a woman of 26 would think. It was about the person not the day at that point, hence keeping it so small. Had we gone larger it would have then begun to detract as it would have meant more people, more organising, more everything, even on a budget and so we opted for the very bare bones. It worked for us and without the pressure of a bigger event wedding we simply said our vows and got on with life as if nothing had really changed. Without expectations of 'married life' after the wedding I found the transition much easier. There was no come down after a big wedding and honeymoon when back in the real world, no trying to practise signing my new surname as I kept my own, just life ticking on and we were and still are content
