Just need a bit of a moan...

[saralou5]

Apologies ladies, but seeing as none of my friends are pregnant and none have been, I just feel like I can vent a little on here.
Just got back from the final performance of one of my 3rd year pieces and feeling a little left out and down (again). Everybody else is off to a big after-show after-party thing and were all chatting away and organising stuff like a booze run and who's sleeping at whose house etc etc and I was just sat there like...great..! I probably wouldn't have gone, but they all just didn't even consider me and I ended up just sort of slinking out of the room unnoticed. One of the girls in my group did text me after making sure I was ok and didn't feel left out, of course I just said I'm fine even though I felt a little lonely and down.
Apologies again for the rant, but it's just so difficult not being included in stuff anymore .
At least I can focus on my baba and just think of the little tiny person that's relying on me inside my tum .

 

[katie_lou]

Awwww big hug hun x

 

[winnie89]

i know how you feel Hun, my two best friends we used to go out all together stopped including me after i got pg. (they weren't too bad because i gave up drinking first so i still went out with them it was just it was a cheaper night for me! lol) but i felt like i couldn't do anything with them cuz they were out getting smashed and having fights etc, but i now realise that the health of my unborn baby is more important. so now we meet for coffee and have a chat instead of drinking which is nicer i think.

dont be too down hun xx

 

[Kirsty.Y.84]

I get this. When people at work are arranging nights out, they say to me 'oh by the way, we're going out on sat but didn't invite you because you're pregnant!' like as if pregnant women can't go out! Fair enough, I wouldn't go to every night out, but id still like the invite, and I still go out sometimes! x

 

[Loula]

im in the same boat, i actually fell out with some freinds because they said i was boring for not going out. I replied with the im not risking getting bumped into by drunks in a little dingy night club.

 

[winnie89]

I get this. When people at work are arranging nights out, they say to me 'oh by the way, we're going out on sat but didn't invite you because you're pregnant!' like as if pregnant women can't go out! Fair enough, I wouldn't go to every night out, but id still like the invite, and I still go out sometimes! x

i got a disgusted look from my manager when i told him i wouldn't be coming on the staff night out (which was on a beer bus) and then round all the clubs, i'd feel really frumpy being surrounded by skinny girls in those little dresses

 

[Bee7]

Bless you hun, i've been there too. Being the first one out of my group of friends to fall pregnant its not been easy seeing them carry on as normal and doing all the things we used to, while i've had to change my life completely. To start with it really depressed me and i felt very left out. They've even booked a summer holiday this year which obviously i cant go on. But over time i've come to terms with it more and i know this is how it's going to be from now on. Baby is the most important thing and to be honest, i think ive grown out of going out and getting smashed every weekend. I actually prefer to be at home now lol. Sure it'll get better for you, just gently remind them that even thought you're pregnant you can still socialise to some degree lol xxx

 

[coruscating17]

I think I must be very lucky with my friends, or maybe it's just because we all feel too old to do the clubbing thing anymore! I'll be 30 this year and we have all changed how we feel about socialising in the past few years. We now much prefer going out for dinner and a few drinks in a pub or restaurant or having dinner parties at home, and me not drinking doesn't impact on any of that! Have absolutely no desire to go out clubbing any more and I didn't for a year or so before I fell pg. In fact my best mate suggested today that before baby is born the 4 of us who are very close go away for a girly weekend to Bath or somewhere I'm the first of my friends to have a baby too. Maybe it'd be a good idea to tell your closest friends how you're felling and suggest meeting up for dinner or something at the weekend where they can have a few drinks if they want but it won't matter that you aren't? If that doesn't work they aren't really worth it, as friends should be happy to do new things with you if you can't do what you normally do. Joining a group with other expectant mums might be the way forward as they'll be in the same situation... xx

 

[Loula]

Im also the first to have a baby out of all my friends and it is hard but you get on with it really, I think for me some days are more of a downer then others but i feel baby kick and all is prefect again xxx

 

[saralou5]

Bless you hun, i've been there too. Being the first one out of my group of friends to fall pregnant its not been easy seeing them carry on as normal and doing all the things we used to, while i've had to change my life completely. To start with it really depressed me and i felt very left out. They've even booked a summer holiday this year which obviously i cant go on. But over time i've come to terms with it more and i know this is how it's going to be from now on. Baby is the most important thing and to be honest, i think ive grown out of going out and getting smashed every weekend. I actually prefer to be at home now lol. Sure it'll get better for you, just gently remind them that even thought you're pregnant you can still socialise to some degree lol xxx

A few of us were supposed to be going to Tunisia in July but babs is due then. Tbh I'm thinking I'd much rather have this baby than go on a holiday. I'm SO excited to be able to meet this little person . You're totally right, baby is number 1! xx