in laws being a nightmare

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  1. SCARED MUM TO BE

    SCARED MUM TO BE Well-Known Member

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    HEY DONT WANNA SEEM LIKE A WE GURN BUT DOES ANYONE ELSE FIND THAT AS SOON AS YOU GET PREGNANT HIS FAMILY SEEM LIKE A NIGHTMARE, OR IS IT COS U KNOW U ARE STUCK WITH THEM NOW, LOL,
    THEY ARE PUTTING ME UNDER SO MUCH STRESS ONE HAS FALLIN OUT WITH ME AND STIRRING THINGS BETWEEN ME AND HER OTHER SISTERS, ITS MAKING THINGS SO HARD BETWEEN ME AND MY BOYFRIEND, HOW DO THE REST OF YOU COPE.
    AND I KNOW MY WE BABINO IS FEELING THE STRESS TOO THE WE PET.
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  2. Tayla J

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    Ignore them, and look after yourself and baby... yous are more important,
    My mother inlaw said some nasty things to me then told my husband and there family that i was lying and she wouldn't say things like that. I told her to get the beep beep out of my house. My husband believe's me in every way, he knows what his mother is like, he said his mother has always been weird...

    His family has moved town and i still don't talk to them, I am still very angry. His family are always asking how i am and if i'm alright.. I think ther're feeling quilty.

    Just please look after yourself and don't stress over imature people

    (Sorry everybody if this seems blunt, but its sort of what i've been through already, and its not worth stressing yourself when your pregnant)

    Pregnant women already have enough to go through GOODLUCK to you, I hope all works out.
     
  3. SCARED MUM TO BE

    SCARED MUM TO BE Well-Known Member

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    hey dear thanks for your advice, i am just going to stay clear of them, most of them are lovely but i know they dont like me so why bother, they all talk about me so i just have to get over it oh and i got to hear my babies heart beat yesturday it was sooooooo brilliant
     
  4. Tayla J

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    Hi scared mum to be

    I hope you are now a happy mum to be, I'm sure once baby is born they will come around... You must have been so happy to hear baby's heartbeat, I can't wait to hear mine...

    Goodluck to you and all the best
    Tayla J
     
  5. SCARED MUM TO BE

    SCARED MUM TO BE Well-Known Member

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    thanks for your advice i am just going to take it really easy and let them come to me.
     
  6. scared 19

    scared 19 Well-Known Member

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    This is a really long story but it shud make you laugh in places but as you can understand i no what you mean!! :

    Well i dont know if i had already told you but me and OH had moved in next door to my mum! we are renting which is shit but it is our own space well sort of! OH sister wanted to move out of her mums house with her BF but couldnt afford it so me being kind or just stupid said that they could rent with us like, so her and her fella agreed to the terms and conditons and we all moved in.

    On the first night me n her were a bit pissed of cuz her fella n OH went down the pub instead of helping us move in! her fella was totally besotted with her and neva left her alone so he kept ringing her to say sorry and he wanted to come home but she had been drinking and couldnt drive obviously it would come down on me then being the preggers one! but she didnt want to get him straight away she wanted to make him wait ok fair enough, so we left it a bit longer and went to get them he was almost in tears saying i just wanted to be with you but no one would give me a lift home!! it made me laugh so much!!

    When he got back he started crying and she dont like guys like that, they were arguing and fighting and she had work at 8 and he wouldnt let her get to sleep so she got up and went downstairs.

    The next day i go to check she is ok at work and she breaks down and tells me that she cant bear to be with him and doesnt want him in the house but is worried how my OH will take it cuz of having to pay extra money, so isaid at the end of the day he is your brother he will be fine she stayed away from the house all night and we had to look aftr him.

    That we were going to a bbq at OH friends house we felt bad leaving him so asked him to come with us. At the party he sat there mopeing about and crying!!! in front of about 15 of our friend how embarrasing hehe no i did feel sorry for him but i just wanted to shake him! it got to the point when ever time me phone rang he would jump up thinking it was her and trying to take the phone off me, when i had to speak to her i had to send a text telling her to answer the phone as it was me not him!

    The worse time that, that happened was when i was thinking that i need to ask her what is going on and see what she is doing tonight so i got my mate to distract him and sneeked off upstairs to ring her i was on the phone a couple of mins and i heard the door handle sqeuk i turn around and he is stood there watching me!!!! creep!!! As soon as she hears his voice she hangs up and i am left to tell him that she dont want to speak to him so again i get the water works.

    About half an hour later i go upstairs to have a wee (TMI i no but you get the picture) and i flush and come out and he is stood at the door that was it then i totally lost it and told him to stop stalking me!!! i rang dana and said enough is enough tell him it is over and to move out!!!

    After all that we became quite close we had been friends for a year n e way, so when we decided to go on holiday to see riccis dad and told her what we were doing she asked to come with us, we didnt really see the problem, so we booked the holiday and arranged everything but then she goes and gets a new boyfriend and slowly starts moving him in, under our noeses we aint stupid we could tell what she was doing but as she was paying rent there werent really much we could say.

    Slowly but surely she starts trying to cause trouble between me and ricci by stirring things that aint really there, like the thing with her fella as we were going away for 2 weeks she asked me if he could stay in our house house for two weeks on his own!!! she had known him 3 weeks!!! so i told her no but she said she was still going to ask my OH i told her to carry on as i knew he wud say the same as me, so the next day she rings OH at work and said "can Jay stay at ours while we are away liann said it was ok" yer right ricci went made and said i put him in a right postion which if i had of done that it wud have put him in a postion but i wudnt do that so we told her no and that was that a downward spiral!!!

    When we got on holiday things were hard me and OH wanted to be close but felt like we were leaving her out and felt guilty so we didnt flaunt our relationship if you like..... we got half way through the holiday and she had decided she was going to see her mate who had not long moved out to spain, and while she was away we made some other friends and went round theres for a party we BORROWED her CDs to put on while we were there and accidently left them there but we could have got them at any time they were practicly next door so didnt think anything of it and thought we will get them tommorrow.....

    She comes back from seeing her friend and is as moody as hell!!! so me and OH got on with our own thing that day half way thru the day we both had got tired so went for a lie down, OH has already fallen asleep and i am drifting then all of a sudden bang in she burst thru the door scaring the hell out of me but OH didnt wake up amazingly she starts shouting RICCI OY so i said dana he is a slepp meaning talk to me if you want something so she gets closer to him and starts shouting even louder OH had got servely pi55ed off by this and took her to get lost but she just keep shputing asking for her CDs so i said to OH i will go and get them you stay here.

    BORED YET

    I popped over and picked up her CDs and by the time i have got back ricci is in the shower cuz he wants to go out no he dont want to be near her which i could totally understand after she spoke to us like that do you no what i mean! and by now i have had enough of her constant moaning and having to get things her own way! so i am about ready to snap but i calm myself down whilst getting the CD case and come back in walk into her room where she is sat on the bed listening to her headphones anyway and flicking thru a magazine, i walk in and pass the CDs by throwing them (only about and inch and not aggresivly) on to the bed, and walk out with out saying a word remember she has her head phones on and isnt even looking at me so why should i make the effort??

    Me and OH go out on our own that night as we wanted to get out of there and didnt want to be near her to be quite honest, and had a great time i wud like to add as she werent there! Then the next morning OH is still annoyed with her the same as i am so didnt bother asking her if she wanted to come to the pool with us plus she hadnt even got up by then!!!

    When we get home she is still in her room so i go and sit on the balcony and OH jumps in the shower i am sat reading the paper and can hear that she has come out of her room and is sat in the front room as i no i will have to walk past her, i decided that i would say something to sue OH dads girlfriend so i didnt have to talk to her so i get up and walk past and say to sue did ricci tell you that we are going out, i said it slowly so i had time to get to my room without speaking to her but slyly hehe

    I get to my room and i hear "am i actually sat her sue hay or am i F***** invisble" so i said to her "was that aimed at me dana!!" and then she lost it yer it was at you rar rar rar so i calmly said "you could of said hello to me mate!" and as she knew i was right she turned around n said "shut the f*** up or i will put my fist in your face and shut you up" ricci heard this and went mad he got right up to her and said who do you think you are talking to if you wanna go and try and hit my pregnant mrs go ahead and see what you get!!! so she says no but starts saying loads of stuff bout me so i walk out and say have you got something to say dana and she turns round n said "i F***** hate you and you are going to be the reason me and my brother have a big fall out cuz as long as he is with you i aint going to speak to him!!!" so i calmly said "If thats how you feel move out!" and it was a case of i aint going no where i only use one room so i will just pay less rent you cant make me move out but i turned round and said "its my name on the contract so you are missing the point i am telling you to move out!!!" then we got seperated and things got left unsaid.

    In the next couple of days things got worse we didnt talk to one another or anything, Colin (OH dad) and sue had to come back to england so the three of us were left there on our own big mistake!

    on afternoon me and OH are hungry so decide we are going to walk down the shop even tho we aint speaking me and ric ask her if she wants n e thing she says no so we leave it at that and go to the shop, wen we are down there i said to ricci we better get smething just incase she cant say n e thing to colin then! so when we get back ric makes his stuff and i start making my soup from a tin! werent taking n e chances over there it was heinze to so i knew i couldnt get ill hehe....

    I have near made mine and ric has started to eat his he is sat there and she looks over at hima and gives him a filthy look he said whats up with you the reply was "you two do you ever see dad and sue doing that making something and not asking if n e 1 else wants n e thing!!!!" so ricci went mad and said we asked you if you wanted something to eat and you said no!! and i had had it up to here so i said dana we did actuallyu get you something its up here if you want it and she said but i ask you to but in i dont want n e thing from you so i lost it n said stop F***** moaning then so up she got and started coming towards me saying she was going to hit me and ricci grabbed her and threw her on the sofa and said that is my pregnant mrs you aint touching her!!! she turns round n said "she aint pregnant in her face is she!!!" now as ricci grabbed her he grabbed her round the throat as her arms were going everywhere she said see what you have just to me i am going to do to her so ricci said you think you are going to grab her round the throat n she obviously said yeah i am and got up and ran at me and grabbed me round the back of my throat she was there for a second and ricci grabbed her from behind and threw her on the floor!

    after half an hour of arguing she said how much she hated me and i told her it was mutual, we decided that we had to be civil for the last three days we got home i took her key and she has gone back to her mums, so it was a totally shit holiday but me and ricci couldnt be closer and love one another more than we do now!

    And if that werent enough now i have got home i have found out my dog has got a tumor and its inoperable unless it is done by a specialist but it will cost loads so we are trying to get the money for that and i have found out last night that my mum and her boyfriend of 8 years are spliting up and my mum has taken it really bad!!! so all in all it has been absolut bag of shit! but atleast baby is fine and doesnt no about n e of it!! i have probably bored you to death now n e way but i hope you found some of it funny

    so i no what you mean.

    Liann and Sweetpea
     
  7. Tayla J

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    Hi Liann and sweetpea

    I'm so glad you and baby are okay, You have such a good man protecting and looking after you like that, He loves you very much, I hope yous have the most happiest life together...God Bless

    as for flatmates, family is the worse....
     
  8. scared 19

    scared 19 Well-Known Member

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    Thank you so much babe you are definatly right!! Hows things with you??

    Luv

    Liann and Sweetpea
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  9. Tayla J

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    I actually feel good today, so far no morning sickness...woooohoooooo

    better not get too excited...so far just breast tenderness and insomnia but thats about it, oh and and carpel tunnels which i get operation on monday 29th august, I can't wait!!!

    I'm already showing, well thats probably coz i'm only 5ft tall and on my 5th pregnancy, well 1 live and 3 miscarriages and one on the way...
    I hope everything goes well this time..

    How about you?
     
  10. scared 19

    scared 19 Well-Known Member

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    Oh babe you have been through it aint ya, i no what one miscarrage is like i couldnt imagine anymore it has scared me this time i dont think i actually moved till i hit 12 weeks! lol i just hope evrything goes well for us this time hay babe, how far gone are you then the ticker isnt working ?
     
  11. Tayla J

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    Sorry I've been out of touch but went for carpel tunnel operation on right arm...So very sore...and i can't seem to get my ticker working...oh well
    anyway i'm 9 weeks today so very very happy i've made it this far, nearly into the safe zone, things are going great with this pregnancy so far even morning sickness seems to be easing...About time...

    How are you going?
     
  12. scared 19

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    Thats great babe i am really pleased everything is going well for you, i feel so poorly i have been in hospital over the weekend and am having a scan today to check everything is ok with littlen might even find out what it is how exciting is that!!!my work are being such shit*ters excuse the language but they are being really horrible to me!!! have you experienced this??
     
  13. Tayla J

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    Sorry i haven't experienced any of that, I'm a stay home mum at the moment till my arms get better...
     
  14. scared 19

    scared 19 Well-Known Member

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    I would say lucky you but it doesnt seem appropriate wen you have bad arms but i wud love to do that i want my maternity leave now hehe
     
  15. Tayla J

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    Hi Happy mum to be....

    Hows your pregnancy going, I can't wait till my scan another 3 weeks to go woooohoooo!!!

    Had a bit of vomiting and headaches last night and a bit a nausea this morning but otherwise i'm fine today...

    How about you?
     
  16. SCARED MUM TO BE

    SCARED MUM TO BE Well-Known Member

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    HEY ONLY GETTING TO READ AL THE POSTS NOW WAS MOVING HOUSE WHAT A NIGHMARE AND SCARED I DONT KNOW HOW U DIDNT SMACK THE B*TCH I MEAN U LET HER INTO YOUR HOME THEY THINK THAT JUST BECAUSE YOU ARE GOING OUT WUTH THEIR BROTHER THAT U SHOULD BE TREATED LIKE CRAP, I HAVE HAD ENOUGH OF THEM INTERFERING THAT THEY CAN AL GO TO F*K FOR AL I CARE, I HAVE MY OWN FAMILY AND FRIENDS AND TO ME THATS ALL THAT MATTERS NOT STUPID OPINIONS OF STUPID PEOPLE THAT DONT MATTER ANY WAY,
    GLAD YOU ARE ALL DOING WELL IM 14 WEEKS NOW HAVE BEEN IN A BIT OF PAIN BUT HOPEFULLY EVERYTHING WILL BE OK WHEN I GO FOR MY CHECK UP IN TWO WEEKS SO EXCITED FOR THAT.

    WISH YOU ALL THE BEST AND HOPE YOUR PERGNANCYS ARE AND BABYS ARE HEALTHY
     

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