Sorry - huge rant I need to get off my chest. I've posted about my in laws before a while ago. My MIL in particular is very overbearing and doesn't listen to a word I say. Over the years I have just got used to it. Last Christmas though we had a huge bust up. She wanted FIL to dress up as santa. I said i didn't think it was a good idea. Next time we went round he was sitting dressed as santa. I was peed off but played along for sake of my son. But then he pulled his beard off and said 'look Santa's really grandad!'. My son was so upset. He was really scared. I knew they were going to do something weird which is why I said no in he first place! My OH was told from the start that santa isn't real. I'd told them that I didn't want them to tell my son that, and was told 'we can't lie to him'. But anyway, I'm getting off topic! So after that my husband had a quiet word and said very calmly 'that wasn't really fair - especially as we'd already said no'. MIL kicked off big time and said as a grandparent she could do what she wanted. She then used loads of emotional blackmail on OH saying he was ungrateful, a nasty son and how they had raised a child so we should respect their wishes. OH being the way he is caved and said how sorry he was and they went straight back to their overbearing ways. Again since then I've just kept a low profile and bite my tongue not wanting to cause arguments. But I can't take it anymore. They have him one day a week while I work. I prep all my son's meals so they don't have to worry about cooking. My son has bad constipation so I like to make sure he has a good range of fruit and veg. The last few weeks my son has come home and told me he's had pizza and chips for tea. God knows what happens to all the handmade food i give them! He also tells me about all the special 'treats' they give him (cakes, biscuits, crisps, ice cream all in one day!). Now I know that grandparents treat their grandkids. I'm fine with the odd treat, but it's just getting ridiculous. If I ask my son if he's had his fruit he'll say no 'nanny gave him biscuits instead'. Consequently he constantly wants biscuits and crisps at home now. But the thing that's upset me most was that we can't mention anything to her in case it upsets her! I asked OH if he can just say can we cut down to just one treat a day as hit constipation is so bad lately (which it is - we've had to up his medicine). OH said 'we can't do that because she'll get upset again'. I feel like she can do anything with my child and I just have to sit and agree with her. Another eg, I asked her to put suncream on my son because it was really hot. She replied 'he's in the shade'. I said 'yes but he burns really easily and doesn't mind having it on'. She said 'he's fine'. I looked at OH for back up and he shook his head as if to say 'don't push it". I'm just sick of it. Especially now I'm pregnant with number 2. I know I'm more hormonal and emotional but it's making me so sad .