We've always put a spoon and fork on the table with his food so that he's always had the choice, he used to just chew random bits of it and throw it on the floor too but we just kept offering him them. I'd just do that, and maybe help her a little bit with scooping. Also don't worry about mess-we give him a spoon with his porridge/yogurt/soup etc and the bowl and we also have a spoon so we give him a bit and he has a go too but it's soooooo messy! Lol xxx she'll get the hang of it xxx