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Just seems like nothing can go right, he went to wembley yesterday for the playoff final, the day cost us nearly £200 (money we don't really have with me being on maternity pay now). He left at 6.30am and came home at nearly midnight. He left me with Harrison who's teething and had a roaring temperature, plus our autistic daughter who's 8.

I've tried and tried and tried with him but I feel so hurt in the way that he has treat me. I get no help and he now describes me as being obssessed with football and that I have the problem. (he goes every week as he has a season pass)

I can't see how we can recover from this, I hate him as I struggle to cope with both kids alone, and he hates me because he thinks I'm oppressive.

Today I stood and tried to explain but broke down in tears and he stood and did nothing, I don't think he loves me.
 
Oh hun I really don't know what to say :( I didn't want to read and run but wanted to give you lots of these :hug: :hug: :hug: and to say that I hope you manage to have a proper chat with him soon so he knows exactly how you are feeling at the moment.

xxx
 
:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: I'm not really sure what to say chick, as i stopped my OH from having a season ticket in fear of this happening to me.
I'm sure he doesn't hate you no matter how it feels right now.
Maybe talking to him and explaining how its not fair that you are left to struggle with the kids while he swans about and does has he pleases might help, sorry i can't be much help hun :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
 
have you got somewhere else you could stay and get help with the kids? if so i would suggest a time out for a few weeks, hopefully that would help you both decide waht you want if you do go through situations where you really do 'hate' each other then staying in the same situation may not help.

Sandi
 
aww hun i dont really kno what to say :(

my boyf doesnt like footy but i suppose his equivalent would be computer games. he spends several hours a day on his ps3 on call of duty or grand theft auto 4 with his mates on bluetooth and tbh i dont mind these days as he'd in the living room with me and im here on the laptop on PF or facebook and we're together even tho we doin separate things, BUT... in the old days before his ps3 he would be on his pc upstairs in his computer room and i never saw him, that used to really get me down sometimes- especially when i'd say "are u comin 2 bed?" and he's say yep in 5 minutes- then i'd wait half an hour before fallin asleep alone :(
i think how i felt back then might be how u feel now in some ways- and when i used to discuss it with him he'd often admit the game he played ("eve" it was called) was addictive and he told me once one of his "comrades" had told him he wouldnt be online for a bit as his wife had left him- over the game!!! :eek:

sounds like ur OH may possibly be slightly too into his footy, and needs to prioritise and give u more of his time- i wouldnt be suprised if wives had left husbands over football as well as computer games.

:hug: :hug: :hug:
 
awww Em, i think you know deep down if it's gonna last or not. You need to kick him up the ass and tell him they are his kids too and you need a break once in a while.

I think you have done well lasting this long with the way he is treating you. Do what's best for you all :hug: :hug:
 
awh em! im sure you can work through this, alex has got hard to me crying (as i cry at anything) i dont think men understand the pressure of having the kids for a few hrs.. my suggestion would be to purpously make an appointment to go get ur hair done or something and makesure you go and spend a few hrs away from the house and he has the both kids.. perhaops it will open his eyes and realise all that you have to do.. i would even leave a list of things that need to be done when ur out.. he needs to realise what pressure your under xx
 
:twisted: I'd turn a blind eye to the football and get yourself an interest which doesn't involve him or Paris or Harry and let him look after them for a few hours every week while you enjoy yourself.

my OH needs his 'me time' :roll: and often throws a paddy and tells me I'm trying to control him but as soon as I start going out and having fun without him he seems to want to stay at home a bit more... :think:

:hug: :hug: I hope things get better :hug: :hug:
 
Jade&Evie said:
:twisted: I'd turn a blind eye to the football and get yourself an interest which doesn't involve him or Paris or Harry and let him look after them for a few hours every week while you enjoy yourself.

my OH needs his 'me time' :roll: and often throws a paddy and tells me I'm trying to control him but as soon as I start going out and having fun without him he seems to want to stay at home a bit more... :think:

:hug: :hug: I hope things get better :hug: :hug:

Completely agree with that. Join a self defence class or some other hobby with lots of muscly men: that'll send the frighteners up him so bad you'll be wishing he'd bugger off to a match :wink:

meanwhile :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
 
:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

awww hunny im sorry you having a bad time. here to chat if you need
 
Have a huge hug from me and
Sean, have a kick up the arse from me (and then pass it on to Ian :lol:)

They are complete and utter arse wipes someetimes - tbh I'd say he does still love you hun, but he is a stupid selfish man and doesn't think :hug: :hug:
 

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