Right the situaution was that the father was totally ignoring me, and I thought he didnt want to know, we are not togther. But I bumped in to him, and he told me that we needed a good talk, so I went back to his place so we could talk (finally, ive been trying to make him talk for ages, but to be honest I think ive realised now he needed to come around in his own time) Ne way, we were talking and he said he wanted to be involved as much as possible, as long as I would let him, he was goin on about that if the baby is a boy, he is going to make sure that the he is the biggest football supporter ever (hes football mad, and knows i hate it, lol) he also disagreed with the names i wanted, and even asked me what surname I wanted to give the baby, I said I didnt know, but I think he wants the baby to have his, which I have no problem with. But im confused where i stand with him, because, I was talkin about getting my own place (we both live with our parents) and he was saying thingslike ill come and decorate for you, and dont forget to tell me where your gonna be living so I can come over, then after a while he started sayin when we get OUR house well do this and that etc etc etc. Oh im confused, I wanna know where I stand, didnt wanna push him to much tho, was happy that he spoke to me at all. bec x x oh and sorry for babling.