I have 3 boys, everytime I found out and was disappointed. I love my boys but always wanted at least 1 girl. I don't mind if she grows up into a tomboy and hates pink, but I would still really love a girl. I decided not to find out to avoid disappointment. But I am equally concerned at the idea of 20 weeks not knowing, 20 weeks hoping it may be something it is not. I tried to ignore my disappointment in the past and pretend I was happy. The disapppointment has always felt worse with each pregnancy which is why I am thinking of waiting. However I am 11 weeks and already out of my mind wondering if it is a girl or boy.