i had the worst evening ever

[YoungMummy]

,

sorry if this is long i gotta get this off my chest

well last night i couldnt sleep, and my ex called me sayin he wanted 2 pop round (my ex is my babys farther & my 1st lover),
well i didnt tell him that the baby was his cause we havent met face to face since we made him, well i thought ok 2nights the night...well he came in and sat down in my front room and i was thinking how am i gonna tell him so i walked in the room and he goes 'wooow ur pregnant, my ex girlfriend gav birth to my son last month' my heart sunk, he then asked if i was with the dad i was like noo, then he started sayin how he misses me and askin where he stands in my life...his son so cute hes mixed race with blue eyes, i didnt tell him in the end it was his i jus went to bed and told him i was tierd.

so u think i should call him and tell him im having his baby? how do i tell him? am i right to feel upset and angry?

help me please

 

[debecca]

Oh my goodness I feel for you

However I feel he has a right to know that he's the father of your baby. In fact, I'm surprised he hasn't suspected by the dates!

Do you want him to have anything to do with your baby when it comes along?

 

[YoungMummy]

he does not no my exact dates i didnt tell him, i dont mind him seeing his son i know he'll be there for him, im jus upset and dunno how to tell him...he told me hes not with his ex but hes looking after his son...i think the fact that my feelings for him are so strong i wanna tell him but im angry he never told me he was gonna hav a baby. i jus dont kno how to tell him

 

[muppetmummy]

I think you should tell him and then give him some time for it to sink in. Maybe invite him around again one evening and do it then.

If he says he misses you he might be quite positive about it, and then it's up to you if you want him back in your life. Good luck hun

 

[YoungMummy]

I think you should tell him and then give him some time for it to sink in. Maybe invite him around again one evening and do it then.

If he says he misses you he might be quite positive about it, and then it's up to you if you want him back in your life. Good luck hun

Thnxz Hun I'll Try That

 

[Happybunny]

Aww, what a tricky situation, I can understand why you feel upset. However, your ex does have a right to know that the baby is his. It is best to tell him sooner rather than later and then you two can come to some arrangements about your child. I hope you are ok

 

[loz]

I think it would be better for you to tell him asap if possible. Could you meet him somewhere neutral and let him know face to face? It sounds positive if he wants to be in your life again. Do you want him back?

If he is happy about his new son, he might be happy about your baby too. He needs to help you with finances and to be involved in your baby's life too. Hope it goes well, better to do it now before you get too near your due date.

 

[YoungMummy]

Im not sure if i want him back i do care for him and hav love for him, but im still hurting, im upset he never told me his ex was pregnant when me and him concived baba.. im happy and sad i want this to work but i jus dunno... i think imma call him to pop over lata then tell him.

 

[muppetmummy]

Even if he does want to get back with you I wouldn't rush into anything relationship wise whilst your still hurting. Focus on the baby for now and if it's meant to be things will develop naturally

 

[Geordie&Bairn]

Even if he does want to get back with you I wouldn't rush into anything relationship wise whilst your still hurting. Focus on the baby for now and if it's meant to be things will develop naturally

I agree with muppetmummy
let him know about the baby and involve him in you childs life
he and your baby should be given the chance to know about each other.
but put the relationship on a cool down for now focus on the baby
if your ment to be with the dad then im sure he can give you time
let the news sink in hes to be a daddy agian and see how he feels about you and him and the baby.
you need time to feel ok with the news hes got another son so give your self time to sort out those feelings.


sarah

 

[kalia]

You've got lots of good advice from everyone so I'll just give some hugs

 

[Urchin]

,

sorry if this is long i gotta get this off my chest

well last night i couldnt sleep, and my ex called me sayin he wanted 2 pop round (my ex is my babys farther & my 1st lover),
well i didnt tell him that the baby was his cause we havent met face to face since we made him, well i thought ok 2nights the night...well he came in and sat down in my front room and i was thinking how am i gonna tell him so i walked in the room and he goes 'wooow ur pregnant, my ex girlfriend gav birth to my son last month' my heart sunk, he then asked if i was with the dad i was like noo, then he started sayin how he misses me and askin where he stands in my life...his son so cute hes mixed race with blue eyes, i didnt tell him in the end it was his i jus went to bed and told him i was tierd.

so u think i should call him and tell him im having his baby? how do i tell him? am i right to feel upset and angry?

help me please

I'm confused.

In many other posts you talked about your boyfriend, you said he was the first person you told, you said he was looking for a place for you to live together,

My Names Yvonne im 18 years old and have just found out im pregnant Cheer

i am currently living with my mum but my babydaddy is trying to get us our own place Dance

i am a student studying beauty therapy and i am also a part-time model.

this is a really good idea

Age: 18

Due date: 23rd June 2008

Pregnancy number: 1

Hoping for which gender: Boy

Symptoms so far: tired, constipation , moodiness

How long were you TTC: was nt ttcing surprise pregnancy

Who knows: my family, boyfriends family & close friends

Pregnancy fears: painful birth

well me & my hubby been thinkin of names he h8s my fav & i h8 his fav so mum suggest we do a poll n who ever gets the most will gett to keep there name as ab option. so which name u think is a better unisex name.

at your scan:

boyfriend, mum & my 2 sisters came with me but only boyfriend n mum where in the room and all i been sayin since is omg its gta willy

Quote:
Your name: Yvonne

Best bits of pregnancy so far: feeling baby move

Worst bits so far: new years eve n christmas eve spent tym in hospital, breast leak at college.

How did you find out?: took a test as a joke

Who you told first: The Dad

 

[sarah2807]

OMG!

I'm confused!!

 

[Suzie and Faith]

another one?

 

[YoungMummy]

,

sorry if this is long i gotta get this off my chest

well last night i couldnt sleep, and my ex called me sayin he wanted 2 pop round (my ex is my babys farther & my 1st lover),
well i didnt tell him that the baby was his cause we havent met face to face since we made him, well i thought ok 2nights the night...well he came in and sat down in my front room and i was thinking how am i gonna tell him so i walked in the room and he goes 'wooow ur pregnant, my ex girlfriend gav birth to my son last month' my heart sunk, he then asked if i was with the dad i was like noo, then he started sayin how he misses me and askin where he stands in my life...his son so cute hes mixed race with blue eyes, i didnt tell him in the end it was his i jus went to bed and told him i was tierd.

so u think i should call him and tell him im having his baby? how do i tell him? am i right to feel upset and angry?

help me please

I'm confused.

In many other posts you talked about your boyfriend, you said he was the first person you told, you said he was looking for a place for you to live together,

My Names Yvonne im 18 years old and have just found out im pregnant Cheer

i am currently living with my mum but my babydaddy is trying to get us our own place Dance

i am a student studying beauty therapy and i am also a part-time model.

[quote:2grjaqk5]
this is a really good idea

Age: 18

Due date: 23rd June 2008

Pregnancy number: 1

Hoping for which gender: Boy

Symptoms so far: tired, constipation , moodiness

How long were you TTC: was nt ttcing surprise pregnancy

Who knows: my family, boyfriends family & close friends

Pregnancy fears: painful birth

well me & my hubby been thinkin of names he h8s my fav & i h8 his fav so mum suggest we do a poll n who ever gets the most will gett to keep there name as ab option. so which name u think is a better unisex name.

at your scan:

boyfriend, mum & my 2 sisters came with me but only boyfriend n mum where in the room and all i been sayin since is omg its gta willy

Quote:
Your name: Yvonne

Best bits of pregnancy so far: feeling baby move

Worst bits so far: new years eve n christmas eve spent tym in hospital, breast leak at college.

How did you find out?: took a test as a joke

Who you told first: The Dad

[/quote:2grjaqk5]

Long story short my ex is my babys dad we had a 1 night stand b4 i got with my boyfriend then when i had recent scan i found out my dates and realised it was my exs not my partners

 

[Urchin]

Your dates only changed by a week didn't they?
I wouldn't be so sure that changes who the dad could be.

 

[YoungMummy]

Your dates only changed by a week didn't they?
I wouldn't be so sure that changes who the dad could be.

i got wit my ex a week b4 partner so according to my conception date it points to my ex

 

[Sophie1102]

But if you don't know when you ovulate - as it was a surprise pregnancy then how can you tell who's sperm conceived the baby???

 

[Suzie and Faith]

But if you don't know when you ovulate - as it was a surprise pregnancy then how can you tell who's sperm conceived the baby???

ditto, plus im confused as i thought u were married?

 

[sarah2807]

What's going on?...I find all this a bit scary!!! Am I just been over sensitive.