How long did you stay at home with the baby?

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To all of the working/student mothers- How long did you stay at home? I am probably having my at the beginning of my summer break and I am considering just taking those three months and then going back to classes. I don't have many hours, but I am scared that won't feel like enough time at all! But, if I take the year off, I may not be able to get back into it- it's a pretty difficult course- and I NEED to finish this degree, especially with family now a reality. I wish summer holidays were six months long!
 
Hi

Sounds like your making a good decision your doing whats best for you and your family! Good luck with everything
Katrina
 
With Lydia I went back to uni when she was 12 months old.
With Alex, he'll be 13 months when I go back to uni.

I couldn't imagine going back after just 3 months, but everybody is different.
 
i'd wait until your baby is born and see how you feel. If its not that many hours you maybe ok. If you can get next years books etc in advance and make a start before your baby is born it will give you a better chance. Uni should be willing to help you out a bit with getting ahead.

From the amount of hours i went to uni for i think its possible!!! If i were you i'd plan to and then see what happens xxx
 
I was planning on going back to school to finish my probation year in august (baby would be about 3months old) but I have changed my mind and I am now going back next Jan.

Means I am away from school for longer but I have 3 years to complete so I'm not so worried. Plus if I do the rest in Jan I will be employed till the summer and then start full time job in the august so it works out better.
 
my first was 9 months olds and i hated putting her into a nursery, it was awful! :( my second will be 12 months when i go bk to uni in september and im not looking forward to putting her into nursery either but i cant have another gap yr on my course as only 1 yr is allowed. i think personally i would wait to see how you feel because three months goes by soo quick and you may not feel like you have had enough time but also you dnt want to wait too long to go bk as it could harm your work.

i think i would be ok about going bk in september when she is 12 months if i wasnt going bk full time as my uni course means i will be on placement from nov - july and its full time hours so i will not see much of her and it does affect you, however if you are just going for a couple of hours a day its totally different and it will probably be nice for you to have that time to do something for you.

good luck with whatever you choose and as long as it is right for you and your family, that is all that matters.

xxxxx
 
I went back when willow was 5 months old :) It was either that or do AS levels next year and that would have been horrible
 
I went back to work part time when James was 6 months old. I only worked mornings, so my mum would have him until I finished work at 1.30pm and I had him in the afternoons.
He started going to my employers on site nursery when a place became available when he was 18 months old. I felt ready to go back and enjoyed the adult company. It was nice having James in the afternoons and feeling really pleased to see him, I think being at work and having a break from being a mum did me the world of good.

I wouldn't have liked to have worked full time though. I went back to full time when James was 3 and a half, but ended up going back to part time after 6 months cos I didn't feel I was spending enough time with him.

I plan on going back to work part time when this one is around 8 months old in Jan 2009. This one will be going straight to nursery cos I don't live near my parents anymore. I think it will be a lot harder leaving a young baby with a nursery than it was leaving James with my mum.
I do think as he got older, James got a lot more socially and development wise from being at nursery than he would have got from being at home with my mum.
 
back full time when paris was 2 1/2 months old and I regret it now. We had no money so I didn't have a choice.

Taking 6 months off this time to enjoy my baby :)
 
i really dont know what im going to do.. i dont have anyone i trust to look after our baby while i went out to work. my parents are seperated, my mum drinks and smokes alot, and my dad works full time.

i think we will try surviving on my partners wage for a while and see what happens, i just dont know how you mothers manage it. Do you have a lot of help from your family? or put them into nurseries?
 
I've put the new baby down to start nursery already and paid a deposit! (only £20). I got lots of help from tax credits to cover some of the child care costs for James, so I'm hoping we'll get the financial help again this time
 
with my 1st, i wet back to work when she was around 14months, this time ryan will be about 9 months old :hug:
 
Have had just about 12 months off, baby was overdue so had a rest before he was born! He'll be almost 11 months when I go back in a few weeks .
 
I can only tell you what I plan to do as this is my first, hope it helps - I'm going to be a single mum and will get 9 months maternity pay.

I've always like the idea of putting my child in a nursery when they hit 18 months (maybe 2 yrs) for a few reason ie so they can mingle with other children and gain more stimulation, learn to share etc...

...I would want a good bit of time to enjoy my baby and settle with him/her until I need to work.

It's a bugger, but don't think I'll have much choice other than work within the 1st year.

xx
 
I'm also contemplating whether to go back to uni straight after the baby is born, at the moment i plann to have the 3 months after he's born to be with him and see how i feel after, i'll only have 8 hours at uni a week but i really dont want to put my baby in uni day care (even if it is for a few hours a week) i plan to scrap together every penny i have to give him to a friend whos also a trianed childminder who would look after him for the week hours. having said that i may decide to take a year out though i dont want to do that! It'll just add another year on until i get a decent job :( i wanna do teacher training after next year so i've got to do it really.
I'll also have 6 months off work getting maternity pay and i intend to take every day i can of it to be with him
 
I went back to Uni to do teacher training when Shannon was 18 months old but she had been in nursery since she was 13 weeks old as I wanted her to get used to other children and try to get over all the illnesses earlier, chickenpox etc.

Next baby will be about 11 months when I return to work but only intend doing about 4 - 6 hours a week (which in teaching time is usually double). :shakehead:

I would just think wisely before returning to Uni as you may be able to cover the hours you are at Uni but what about the workload, reading time etc which will add onto your week and not spending time with your baby. I tend to do my work when Shannon goes to bed at about 7.15pm (she is nearly 3) and don't move until I can hardly open my eyes which is about 11pm. :sleep: And if you have had some bad nights or your child is ill then this will all inhibit your abilities too.

sorry to sound pessimistic but all real things when you have babies. I'm personally not looking forward to going back after baby number 2 but I think you will do whatever you think is best for you and your baby. :hug:
 
From talking ot people who've had babies whilst at uni, thy seem to say that it's easier to try and get owrk done around when a little baby is sleeping compared to when i 1 year old is sleeping, so thats why i thinkit may be better to jsut go striaght bk, plus im not very motivated with learning so if i dont go back now i never will lol
 

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