How is it that some people just know that you're pregnant?

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  1. Debh09

    Debh09 Active Member

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    A few weeks back I was put with family. A few over the evening came up to me and asked if I was pregnant. One kept looking in my eyes and said "are you pregnant?" I said know and she said are you sure. Another also commented on how my hair and complexion was. I seriously just thought. What? To me I look the same in the mirror. I didn't think it would seriously be that noticeable even at just under 7 weeks at the time. Anyone else had that?
     
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    I just had one person who really freaked me out... a woman I sing with... I was only 5 weeks when she asked if I was pregnant o_O I'd only just done the test lol - although she's had twins and a singleton, so should be an expert, I guess! Bloody psychic or something...
     
  3. Rubyredslipper

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    I met two mates for coffee to tell them when I was 14 weeks and as soon as one sat down she said I looked flushed and am I pregnant. Was well annoyed as it totally ruined my surprise lol she said I just had a pregnant look about me!
     
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    I went for lunch with my friend at about 6 weeks and she knew straight away. Like what! I dont even see her that often but she just jnew! Ive no clue my mum didn't even pick up and she practically sees me daily.

    Oh and shes an only child and has no kids or even friends except me thats having a baby!
     
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    PeanutButter Well-Known Member

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    I've only ever gotten 8 weeks far, but my dad new both times i was preg... he says it's something to do with my eyes, the same thing my moms did. Weird :p
     
  6. russellmuscle

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    I've had vibes from a couple people but then I am quite an intuitive person.

    One of my good friends I sat in the car looked at her and says immediately what's up? Are you ill? She's like what you mean? I says pregnant? And they had just found out the day prior.

    When I announced my pregnancy at a works night out everyone was clapping and my friend Jen was smiling and clapping but something in her eyes I just knew she was or at the very least trying. Like a wee twinkle, then a few days later she announced lol.

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  7. Summergurl

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    I don't think anybody knows you're pregnant apart from you (if you've tested) and who ever you tell. People just love to guess.

    I had lots of people guessing but when I announced it after the 12 week scan I made sure those that told me "I knew it" "I so guessed" I made sure they knew that is the worst thing to say to somebody who is having their moment of happiness, just congratulate them, and I made sure they all knew that even if you think somebody is pregnant, don't ask them! It's hard enough keeping it a secret and the worries you go through in the first tri and there's something special about only you and your partner knowing for that little time.

    But, there will always be somebody who "just knew"!
     
  8. Debh09

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    I totally agree! I feel like a person is going to tell when they are ready. Some seem to either tell the world early on or wait until atleast 2nd trimester. I just don't feel right announcing or telling just yet. I just feel it's too early.
     
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    Yep, everybody is different. Just enjoy your moment :)
     
  10. russellmuscle

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    I don't tend to wait about for people who might be pregnant to spoil their announcement :rofl: some people do actually get vibes, and feelings that someone may be pregnant. Like I've says I get vibes from people so I tend to sense when a number of things are wrong with people. Its an emphathists job to soak up emotions and vibes being projected by the other person consciously or subconsciously.

    A bit rude to ask a stranger or work mate someone your not close to but in my case where I guessed she was going to tell me like I tell her everything. We are best friends. The work mate I sensed I waited for her announcement.

    Not everyone is taking away someones moment by asking a question? :shock: Or having a suspicion, also some people make it totally obvious and sorry if people are openly saying their not drinking, their being sick, tired and other pregnancy hints then I'd ask. Millions of people do the minute people don't drink. It only gets annoying for those who are the ones not drinking and they aren't pregnant IMO. I personally quite enjoyed acting coy when people asked why I wasn't drinking.

    I'm not a rude or bad person and certainly not out to steal any moments :lol: no one has a gun to your head if your asked then reply no if your not ready. If someone says they "knew it" if it bothers you so much then reply so did I when I took the test. No biggie?

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  11. Summergurl

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    All the experiences I had of people asking me etc were from people that barely knew me & loved to comment after we had announced it that they "knew" I struggled to see that they knew when we barely even spoke more than a hello in the work place. I didn't suffer with sickness or anything so no obvious signs. They're the ones I'm on about. Of course, my closest friends had guessed but knew not to say anything. In fact, we hadn't even told anybody we were trying & still to this day close friends and family are shocked as we always said we were never having any!
     
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    Lmao but there is no rules? As someone who picks up and feels these vibes it is kind of hard to ignore a sense or feeling that you have. Its called your intuition and in my case I get message from spirit which sometimes can repeat them self if I don't give or ask that thing.

    I think each to their own beliefs certainly but don't really think it's fair to tell some one they didn't know because you didn't say anything. Words aren't everything and I don't go about making up feelings or vibes that I get from people.

    If you don't have those feelings or vibes from someone great you don't need to worry about "potentially annoying someone or taking their moment" then but just know that some people don't go about for a laugh telling people they knew or guessed they were pregnant.

    Everyone works differently and I don't take pleasure in knowing a lot of things that I know and wish I shouldnt. Whether I choose to speak on my feelings or vibes doesn't mean I've broken any rules or am a bad person!
     
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    I just don't think you should go around asking somebody if they're pregnant regardless of whether you get a feeling or sign. I just think you should wait & let them tell you & then don't spoil their excitement by telling them you knew.
     
  14. Debh09

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    I totally agree.
     
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    Perhaps someone should release a book on pregnancy etiquette :rofl:
     
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    Yes, my cousin who I literally don't see for years on end, we were at a wedding last September, I was only 6 weeks pregnant and I sat down to chat to him and he mentioned about the fact I was pregnant - nobody knew only my husband and I! I was going to deny it but then he said as a doctor he spots these thing early! (He is a doctor lol)

    This time round I haven't seen him haha, nobody has guessed this time and asked out right, but my close baby friend said she knew as my boobs had doubled in size!!! (Very true!!)
     

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