I made a deal with my OH that if he gets up and makes a bottle, I will change the nappies and give the bottle - during the night and during the day. This means I'm still doing plenty and not being "lazy" but I get to put my feet up and rest and not have to jump up and down from my seat or get out of bed at night. I think this is very fair, and have always defended this as our way of doing things. However I'm feeling a bit taken for granted. I'm more than happy for my OH to go straight back to sleep when he returns with the freshly made milk, because I'd rather have him rested.. I just feel like he's not rested and is taking it out on me. I feel like every day he keeps making snidey digs (or "jokes" as he calls them) about how he's let me get an extra hour or twos sleep (if you can call it that) by getting up with Isaac to give him his breakfast and leaving me in bed for a bit longer. But I'm the one spending at least 3 hours a night sitting up, exhausted, back killing me, feeding Hamish and changing his nappies. I got full on pooped on last night! Projectile pooped onto my BOOBS. All the while listening to my darling OH snore beside me. But yet in the morning, because I get to stay in bed for upto 2 hours more he makes digs How do you divide the load? Any better ways of doing things?