KarolinaMoon
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I am the mother of two lovely little girls aged almost 4 and 1. Following the birth of my second daughter, things got really tough. She would cry (scream!) 24 hours a day and would only sleep for short periods of time. At around 6 months she was eventually diagnosed with reflux and dairy intolerance and has been seeing a specialist at the hospital since. This situation and sleep deprivation has taken its toll on me and I began suffering from anxiety. To make matter worse my husbands work fell through (due to a funding issue) and he is now unemployed.
All this has put a massive strain on our relationship. I wonder if he is even the same man I married, often asking myself has he always been like this only I am just realising now what he is really like.
I feel like he takes me for granted, and doesn't really understand how awful I feel. He switches off when I tell him I'm not feeling well and moans that I go on and on about it. He tells me he knows looking after 2 kids is hard work, but that it's easy enough when you have no other pressures or thing to do during the day. This makes me feel like I'm a failure for feeling at times like i cant cope, that I have no right to feel bad.
He says that he is trying to get work for us both so he can pay for the house etc...but that I'm not trying to get extra money, by going for promotions etc. I have been off on maternity leave and I am currently on sick leave. We can't send our second daughter to nursery and have no family near by to help. So I have no choice to stay at home. I have no interest in going for promotion anyway, but to have that thrown in my face has just left me even more furious at him.
I have no idea what to do anymore. It's getting to the stage now that I can't stand him, that everything about him even how he speaks winds me up (the wrong way!!). He just doesn't isn't the same man I married. When is a this to him, he accuses me of changing him....saying that I have made him this way.
So, I'm at a loss as to what to do. I am still so angry at him, and talking to each other is quite impossible these days.
Anyone else have similar experience...is this just a passing phase? (Though it seems to have been going on too long now!). X
All this has put a massive strain on our relationship. I wonder if he is even the same man I married, often asking myself has he always been like this only I am just realising now what he is really like.
I feel like he takes me for granted, and doesn't really understand how awful I feel. He switches off when I tell him I'm not feeling well and moans that I go on and on about it. He tells me he knows looking after 2 kids is hard work, but that it's easy enough when you have no other pressures or thing to do during the day. This makes me feel like I'm a failure for feeling at times like i cant cope, that I have no right to feel bad.
He says that he is trying to get work for us both so he can pay for the house etc...but that I'm not trying to get extra money, by going for promotions etc. I have been off on maternity leave and I am currently on sick leave. We can't send our second daughter to nursery and have no family near by to help. So I have no choice to stay at home. I have no interest in going for promotion anyway, but to have that thrown in my face has just left me even more furious at him.
I have no idea what to do anymore. It's getting to the stage now that I can't stand him, that everything about him even how he speaks winds me up (the wrong way!!). He just doesn't isn't the same man I married. When is a this to him, he accuses me of changing him....saying that I have made him this way.
So, I'm at a loss as to what to do. I am still so angry at him, and talking to each other is quite impossible these days.
Anyone else have similar experience...is this just a passing phase? (Though it seems to have been going on too long now!). X