I can only base it on my experience....
Same as Tweety I never saw the same MW twice.
I felt as though my appointments were a bit of a conveyor belt to be honest but I was low risk and apart from needing a trace at 38w it was always BP, dip stick and listen to babies HB.
My sister is with a different hospital (same as SIL) and they had the same MW all the way through who is also a community MW - she came out to see me and James.
"Consistency" was my point here. Although I have no complaints about any of the MW's I saw. I would have preferred to build a rapport with someone but it wasn't the biggest problem.
On the day of giving birth I had the most amazing MW in the birthing centre. She was gentle, kind, supportive (came in and gave me a good old rub if OH nipped out). She just kind of 'got me'.... She was exactly what I would expect to find in a non medical environment.
Sadly I had to be transferred to labour ward but my MW (Bissie) came down to see me when her shift finished. She was off the next day but tracked me down to the MW station via phone to find out what we'd had and as we were still in when she came back on shift she came to visit us. It was such a personal touch and made me feel very special. I wish I'd taken her surname from my notes so I could have sent her a massive thank you.
So I think the personal touches are important.
My experience in labour ward was totally different. I had a student and a teacher - didn't know this until afterwards - and I felt the really didn't respect my wishes. I didn't want to labour on my back but they ended up losing babies trace every time they tried so I had to have the clip fitted. I understand this was for the babies safety and I was fine with I just felt very submissive and ganged up on???
When I was actually pushing the MW's were literally shouting at me "You must do better", "those pushes aren't good enough", "Come on, the Dr's are just about to intervene". It was tough love I know and they did allow me to have my wish and deliver James naturally but I had a horrible experience with these MW's. I didn't get any reassurance from them, they were all about the baby (rightly so) but there was no compassion or sympathy. I guess they weighed up the situation and saw that I would benefit more from the tough approach???
I also found the aftercare crap!
I know on the day the MW's have to do whatever they need to keep Mum and baby safe. I just wish when I'd been a bit more lucid they'd have said something to me to tell me they may have to get a bit forceful with me to get bub here safely.
I have no regrets, my labour was horrid but delivery and post delivery actually was fine.
I guess my point is I just wish there had been a bit kinder and softer?? I'd been in labour for so many hours I was very vulnerable.
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