hello me again, queen of this section of the forum **UPDATE*

[Tori]

hello again,

well id had a pretty good week so far, i realised that i didnt want rob back after what happened bout leah at hosp etc. But last night i started thinking silly thing to do! I am still totally inlove with him still and REALLY want him back. We'v both done things in the past and i realised that he prob felt trapped and he justs wanted to do what a normal 21 yr old bloke does. Even thou Leah is his responsability i can imagine that its pretty scary suddenly having a kid. I admit that yea i sumtimes would want to do things a normal 21 girl does but now i have Leah iv totally changed. Im happy to stay in with her etc. This prob really doesnt make sense but i really wanna tell him how i feel but scared incase he has sum1 else - i know at the mo we are better off apart but in the future things could and would be better.

1/2 me wants to tell him how i feel but then the other 1/2 thinks i should just shut up n get along with stuff. Im so confuzzled but so inlove with him. Its been 6 weeks since we split and i just cant stop thinking bout it

What should i do?

 

[Nic'n'Keeley]

Hiya hun....


If you told him do you think it would do more harm than good?
I mean if you are gettin on better apart do you really wanna spoil that just yet?

I always think if you love someone let them go if they come back it was meant to be...

But i am not in your situation and only you know whats for the best i think you have been really strong i just don't want you to get hurt

 

[Tori]

thanks hun,i guess ur right i just cant function in the day i just keep thinking bout him n how happy we could be etc. i cant eat now - just feel sick Men!!

 

[Charlotte & Emily]

aw hun
first of all, im sending you lots of

At the end of the day, its totally up to you what you choose to do
but if it was me, i wouldnt have anything more to do with him.
You are making scarifices for little leah and he should learn to do that too, shes his responsibility too!

You can do alot better than him hun, and if he has found someone else, then he's even more of a tw*t (sorry) because he hasnt even given your relationship a chance.

Maybe in the future, things will change, but dont chase him hun!
Sorry if this is blunt, its just my opinion and you can choose to ignore it if you want!

Hope you are ok

 

[Tori]

nah thanks hun , i know u are both right but i think id die if he got sum1 else The past 6 weeks have made me think that actually i do really want him n i just want to let him know
Im so messed up

 

[MissGobby]

sorry hun but i agree with Charl - when you had Leah you BOTH have to make sacrifices - having a child is a big responsibility and he should know that, you have had the make sacrifices hun - and if he cant, then i would leave him be, you and Leah may be better off without him!!!

i know it must be hard, letting go of him and its only been 6 weeks since you have split so you are bound to feel like this for some time, but i think you should let go and just concentrate on you and Leah - and if, in the future he does want you back, then great, if not, try to be friends - for Leah's sake???

sorry for babbling on hunni i know im not much help!!

 

[trixipaws]

i really dont know whats best im sorry but wanna give u a hug

 

[glitzyglamgirl]

aww babe

Your going through that stage everyone in your situation does.....nostalgia.

In an ideal world you would get back together and all your problems from the past would magically disapear, he would be the man and father you want him to be, and you would be as happy as you were in the early days.

But realistically, how likely is that to happen?

You have a beautiful baby, your beautiful, and your strong. You can and will get through this babe, as a strong beautiful independant woman!

Concentrate on you, find something else to do with your daughter during the day that takes your mind off him, and put yourself in a postition where you dont miss him so much anymore.

Maybe you will get back together in the future, or maybe he will find someone else, maybe you will too, who knows? But you cant live your life waiting for him to change, you'll waste too much of it if it never happens

 

[Tori]

well he came round last night, and i really needed to say it so i waited til we put leah down and i just said, look i dont want this to end up in another argument, or effect tomorrow (hes coming swimming with me n leah today) but i really need to tell u sumthing - he thought i was gunna say i was preg again LOL anyway, i just told him and he didnt really know what to say, which i expected but he said he really appriciated me telling him and that obv things arent just gunna be the same again. I actually felt ok after i told him, n i didnt cry! So i told him n then we had a glass of wine n a chinese - was a really good night n im just gunna prove that this can happen and show him im ok with everything - i know u prob think im really silly but im so inlove with him and i cant honestly see myself without him
So im just gunna see how we/i get on n i guess if it happens it happens.
I feel alot more happier now
Thank u for all ur support - even if u do wanna lol

Love ya all lots x x x

 

[Sabrina]

I don't know all your story coz I'm only just reading this latest post... but I think as you have a child together it is worth "another try". (So long as your OH isn't violent or abusive to you or the child of course )

There's obviously a lot of history between you both and maybe you need to be really honest with each other to start over again.

I wish you all the best for the future. Like you say if it happens, it happens. If not at least you can say you had "one more try".

 

[nicki]

I'm glad things are sorting themselves out for you hun but please be careful. Be very casual with him, if he does want to give it another go then you backing off is the fastest way to get him to come running.

I know its hard with a baby but try & get out & have a good flirt & maybe a snog with someone else, this will make sure that you do want your ex back 100% and may make him see what he's missing.
When I split from an ex I wallowed for a year then I started flying, went on a trip & a sexy pilot seduced me (drifts off for a bit!!!!) and it was that liason that made me realise that I needed to get out there & see what else was on offer & more importantly I got over my ex quickly after that!

Good luck & be sure to keep us posted

 

[Tori]

Be very casual with him, if he does want to give it another go then you backing off is the fastest way to get him to come running.

Yea thats what im gunna do, just play it cool n see what happens

 

[tracey 2]

well good luck hun i really do hope it all works out for you but remember what i have said ok dont take anymore crap ok.

here if you need to chat ok anytime

 

[frangelle]

If he was that bad I would just leave it, you split up for a reason. It gets better each day. I went through this when my first son was born, you've got to be strong, and you will find someone

Yeah its tough, and hurts like hell, but you will get there in the end. At least he's still wanting to spend time with Leah.