given up

Discussion in 'Breastfeeding' started by lucylu87, Aug 3, 2016.

  1. lucylu87

    lucylu87 Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Apr 18, 2010
    Messages:
    1,775
    Likes Received:
    0
    Baby is 11 days old today and I have just now given up breastfeeding. I am so sore from it and every time she needs a feed she has a full blown hour long crying episode before she will latch on. It is so hard to watch and it is breaking me down. I don't want my baby to scream and get that inconsolable all the time all for the sake of my milk. I don't feel like my emotional well-being is manage g with it either as I end up in just as many tears as she is. It is so hard cos I had dreams of everything being different to last time when I couldnt bf and I so wanted to do it for her. I feel like I have totally let her down km everything I didn't get the birth I hoped for didn't get the recovery I hoped for and now not getting the feeding experience I hoped for. I am doing everything wrong and I don't feel like I can do anything right for her. I don't even feel like I have a place now. Feel like I can just leave her dad to it. Cos the only thing she needed me for was feeding.
     
  2. flexilexi394

    flexilexi394 Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Jun 29, 2010
    Messages:
    7,045
    Likes Received:
    5
    Honey don't beat yourself up so much about it, it's so sad that you feel this way. Did you get help with latching etc??? Because that isn't a normal pattern for breastfeeding and with help that could be improved unless you really are done with it.

    Have you spoken to your health visitor or anyone that might be a little more specialist for breast feeding? I really feel for you, it can't be nice to feel that way.

    Do you think it would benefit you to discuss it with someone before you do stop all together, as you don't want to lose your bond with your baby and just hand over to Dad all the time? Have you tried expressing?

    Sorry for all the questions I just feel like this sort of thing is solvable xxx
     
  3. lucylu87

    lucylu87 Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Apr 18, 2010
    Messages:
    1,775
    Likes Received:
    0
    I had a breastfeeding specialist out to me last week but she is really screaming at every feed it's heartbreaking. I feel really bad about it. I have tried hand expressing in between feeds but don't know how ppl can exclusively express X
     
  4. flexilexi394

    flexilexi394 Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Jun 29, 2010
    Messages:
    7,045
    Likes Received:
    5
    No no I just thought maybe a little break and just express for a few days or something, what about using nipple shields or something? Of course if you really need to just switch then go for it if you think it will help the whole situation, it is hard to know what to do for the best. Have you got an electric breast pump? When I breastfed my daughter I managed to get 9oz a time from expressing it was incredible and helped out a few feeds a day so I could rest from feeding.

    I really wish I could offer you more support as I know what breastfeeding can be like, and I really got the hang of it after a couple of months and I ended up completely loving it, so if there's anything you want to try just ask, I am no expert but I would try and help as much as possible especially when it was a really important choice for you to go with breast feeding xxx
     

Share This Page

  1. This site uses cookies to help personalise content, tailor your experience and to keep you logged in if you register.
    By continuing to use this site, you are consenting to our use of cookies.
    Dismiss Notice