Fuming with my mum!

[nmurr021]

As a wee treat, Mum and I went to look around a Nursery shop and to price nursery furniture...just to give us an idea of how much it would cost! We really enjoyed ourselves and when we got back to the car...I explained that I would need to start ordering stuff around November time and have the nursery finished by the start of Feb as I'm due in March.

She was adamant that I would not buy anything for this baby until after it was born, in case there was something wrong with the baby....I thought it was an insensitive comment to make, and I was near in tears when she said that. I can understand where she was coming from, but the doctor has been quite pleased with me and the scans came back perfect i.e. baby's heartbeat is beating away!

Am I being too sensitive? Am I being silly by having the nursery all ready before the baby comes? or Is my mum right?

Rant over...... x x

 

[nikki8092]

With my first i had the nursery all done by the time i was 8 months pregnant. I wouldnt have had the time or the energy to do it after she was born x

 

[x_larlybelle_x]

i want it all sorted before baby arrives! gonna order our furniture after our 22 week scan and start buying!

hopefully gonna order my travel system in 2 weeks, and have already started clearing out my spare room so i can get baby stuff in there!

i agree with you, and i understand why it upset you

 

[nmurr021]

That was the point I was trying to make to my mum...I cant imagine my OH running around the shops buying everything whilst im in the hospital with the baby!

 

[Sully2012]

Mum's will always be just that...mum's. I am going into my 11th week and like you priced up stuff with my partner and my mum said 'bit early to be doing that isn't it' she didn't mean anything by it just think she misunderstood what we were doing. We are hormonal and things seem 10 times worse than what they are. My partner's mum says we shouldn't have anything in the house until the baby is born as it is bad luck so store it at their house, but I want my baby's stuff ready for when I take it home. It's your baby so do what you think is best and I would say that Feb is the best time to get everything sorted. Chill out and remember she is just being a mum and would probably kick herself if she thought she had upset you that much. Hormones have a big role to play in our rows over the next 6 months

 

[charlie26]

Sorry if this sounds harse hun but i think your mum is out of order. Why should something go wrong?? If you buy after your 20 week scan (which i am doing) theres surely no reason for anything to go wrong. She is proberley looking out for your best intrests but that would have really hurt me. Do what you want to hun xxxx

 

[nmurr021]

My OH and I are just going to do our own thing, I am so annoyed that my mum came out with that statement

 

[x_larlybelle_x]

That was the point I was trying to make to my mum...I cant imagine my OH running around the shops buying everything whilst im in the hospital with the baby!

he probably wouldn't get what you wanted anyway! even if you gave him pictures he would still come home with the wrong stuff!

 

[nmurr021]

That was the point I was trying to make to my mum...I cant imagine my OH running around the shops buying everything whilst im in the hospital with the baby!

he probably wouldn't get what you wanted anyway! even if you gave him pictures he would still come home with the wrong stuff!

He would indeed...the poor man would be crying in the shops looking for help!!

 

[nmurr021]

Mum's will always be just that...mum's. I am going into my 11th week and like you priced up stuff with my partner and my mum said 'bit early to be doing that isn't it' she didn't mean anything by it just think she misunderstood what we were doing. We are hormonal and things seem 10 times worse than what they are. My partner's mum says we shouldn't have anything in the house until the baby is born as it is bad luck so store it at their house, but I want my baby's stuff ready for when I take it home. It's your baby so do what you think is best and I would say that Feb is the best time to get everything sorted. Chill out and remember she is just being a mum and would probably kick herself if she thought she had upset you that much. Hormones have a big role to play in our rows over the next 6 months

A very wise answer Sully...thanx you! Damn you hormones!!!

 

[hellywelly]

What a pile of crap!! Miscarriage or pregnancy related problems are not related to who you tell, when you tell them or what you buy!! They are down to mother nature pure and simple and will either occur or not - and for the vast majority of pregnancies they will NOT occur!
Is your mum honestly expecting you to ignore the fact you are pregnant until it pops out??!! And then your OH will go on a supermarket sweep style run around mothercare throwing all and sundry into the trolley!!!???
You go for it - it sounds like you are extremely sensible in planning for your little one financially - all this stuff costs money and time to sort out and I for one will not be waiting to do it all the week I finish work - I plan to spend my maternity leave pre-baby sitting on my ass doing nothing - it'll be the last time I ever get the chance!!!

 

[hellywelly]

I have just re-read what I have written - I also think I might be slightly hormonal.... lol

 

[nmurr021]

I have just re-read what I have written - I also think I might be slightly hormonal.... lol

Join the club lol!!!

 

[l_maclean]

Mothers!! lol.

Dunno about you guys - but I know when my mum had us - that scans were quite new, so i think their generation still thinks about how things used to be - like with the superstitions and stuff.

A lot of my closest friends are in their late 50s and 60s - and some of the things they've said have made me understand my mum's comments a bit more.

One of them told me after my mc (in a nice way - i wasnt remotely offended) - that when she had her kids 40years ago - you didnt consider yourself pregnant till you had missed 2 periods.

I guess when you're still kinda unfamiliar with the accuracy of ultra sounds its hard to be sure everythings going to be ok.

xxx

 

[Sleepy sue]

Hi Hun there was probably no malice in it, she is prob thinking god forbid anything going wrong having items around would make it worse. Tbh I don't think items would make a difference.
Moms are precious as much as they can get your nerves will silly comments I bet she'll have many words of wisdom when lo is here x x x

 

[Hope81]

I would be having most o f the things done close to viability day...

 

[littlemuffin]

My mum has said that it would be best to not put the cot up until the baby is here, and when I am in the hospital it is something they will do for me. Truthfully, I don't really care. As long as I pick what I want in the room.