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Hi all.
This thread was so helpful during the time I was pregnant and although I wanted to delete my account and never come here again I decided against it. I have never been through this before and figure hopefully writing this all down might help, along with other ladies thoughts.
My last period was 25th November and we found out I was pregnant on 29th December. That was our second month TTC so it happened quite quickly. I was really impatient so we booked an early scan which we had on 27th January. They put my dates back by 11 days compared to what we thought. Didn't really think much of it, as we saw the heartbeat on the scan and assumed all was well. I was never sick once and felt generally well apart from being tired with sore boobs and bad skin. We had what was supposed to be our dating scan yesterday. I knew straight away. Abdominal scan showed something very small, smaller than it should have been. Internal scan confirmed baby had not grown and there was no heartbeat.
I am utterly devastated and so is my husband. The usual questions like why us, it's not fair, why has this happened have all been asked and obviously there are no answers. I chose to take the drugs to start the process - I didn't want to just wait for it to happen, not knowing how long it would take. And surgery seemed so drastic. Last night was just awful, the pain was horrible, I was upset and tired and just wanted to wake up from a bad dream. This morning when I got up and went to the loo I passed something like a clot but not sure exactly what it was, I was too upset to think about it too much.
I just feel empty. How am I not pregnant anymore.. why does this happen? I know it's nature doing what it should do, but it's so cruel and traumatic. I can't even bear the thought of having to go through it again. But I want to try to stay positive. We will definitely try again once I have my first period. And we just have to hope and trust it will happen for us when the time is right and the baby will be a healthy happy one.
To any other ladies out there going through this - we are strong. We can get through it. It doesn't matter what people say 'it's common, happens all the time' etc.. It doesn't help. But, know that you can do it. I can. I know I can. It will take time but I can be happy again and one day I'll have my little baby. X
This thread was so helpful during the time I was pregnant and although I wanted to delete my account and never come here again I decided against it. I have never been through this before and figure hopefully writing this all down might help, along with other ladies thoughts.
My last period was 25th November and we found out I was pregnant on 29th December. That was our second month TTC so it happened quite quickly. I was really impatient so we booked an early scan which we had on 27th January. They put my dates back by 11 days compared to what we thought. Didn't really think much of it, as we saw the heartbeat on the scan and assumed all was well. I was never sick once and felt generally well apart from being tired with sore boobs and bad skin. We had what was supposed to be our dating scan yesterday. I knew straight away. Abdominal scan showed something very small, smaller than it should have been. Internal scan confirmed baby had not grown and there was no heartbeat.
I am utterly devastated and so is my husband. The usual questions like why us, it's not fair, why has this happened have all been asked and obviously there are no answers. I chose to take the drugs to start the process - I didn't want to just wait for it to happen, not knowing how long it would take. And surgery seemed so drastic. Last night was just awful, the pain was horrible, I was upset and tired and just wanted to wake up from a bad dream. This morning when I got up and went to the loo I passed something like a clot but not sure exactly what it was, I was too upset to think about it too much.
I just feel empty. How am I not pregnant anymore.. why does this happen? I know it's nature doing what it should do, but it's so cruel and traumatic. I can't even bear the thought of having to go through it again. But I want to try to stay positive. We will definitely try again once I have my first period. And we just have to hope and trust it will happen for us when the time is right and the baby will be a healthy happy one.
To any other ladies out there going through this - we are strong. We can get through it. It doesn't matter what people say 'it's common, happens all the time' etc.. It doesn't help. But, know that you can do it. I can. I know I can. It will take time but I can be happy again and one day I'll have my little baby. X