For some reason people in my life seem to think its ok to make plans for me like I'm somehow incapable of doing anything for myself, to me this is a massive deal as I'm fearcly independent. but knowing I'm probably bein over sensitive and stubborn I've been letting it go and being nice about it, untill today. In the past month the following has been arranged for me... attendance to 2 weddings where I've not met bride, groom or any member of the wedding party, on my own I'd like to add, to move house, without my knowledge, to a house I've not even seen, and I'll have to do all the packing and all the moving by myself while looking after a 4 month old baby, and for at least the first month of living there it'll be a building site, I and there's no contracts sorted yet so after moving it may still fall through! when moving to this new house I have no say in any of the new furniture we'll have to have (inbuilt wardrobes in current house for example) but I am expected to pay for it, out of my smp my own birthday, I have no say in any of it, who's there, where it is etc despite me protesting I don't want to celebrate this year having just lost my mum. a meeting to meet a vicar to discuss having my child christened despite stating on several occasions she will not be being christened, we will however be arranging a blessing of some kind Next year. and the highlight of the month... my holiday next year with oh, lo and the in laws to a child abusers house for a week I THINK NOT!!! I'm so far past fuming!!! normally I'm so laid back but I just yelled at oh for 20mins down the phone, and I will be again when he comes home from work. I had to let tht out, there is no way I'm letting anyone who has abused a child near my daughter! I should probably clarify the person that organised it didn't know this person is an abuser, but that's because they are a complete stranger and IMO they shouldn't be arranging for a child to stay with someone they don't know anyway, let alone without the parents knowledge or permission!