Feeling very nervous...

[Steelgoddess]

I feel so nervous about the immenent birth of baby i don't feel scared anymore just extremly nervous, I dont understand why??

maybe its because i don't know what to expect? How can i get rid of this feeling or calm it down???!!!

 

[fran_23]

hi hun, its natural to feel nervous its the fear of the unknown-different things help for different people, for some knowledge is power in which case i would be reading all the birth stories on here and reading your pregnancy books etc to learn as much as you can about possible situations etc. This would scare the bejeesus out of others who prefer to push it to the back of their minds and cross that bridge when they come to it.
The one thing i can say is that every birth story ends with..but he/she was so worth it and i would do it again a million times over! this is so true..focus yourself on the fact that it is one day out of your life and it means you get to meet your amazing little baby, every contraction will bring you a step nearer and the calmer you remain and breathe through them the more beneficial. please don't be nervous birthing is an amazing experience and you'll be so proud of yourself when its over and i bet you say it wasn't as bad as i thought


love the new avatar btw..

 

[newmum]

I think once everything kicks off then the nerves disappear. It's just the waiting part, not knowing what to expect and whether your labour will follow a normal pattern or not. Once it starts you just get on with it and you don't really have time to think too much!!

 

[Fly]

Sharne I'm starting to feel really nervous too... I keep reading the birth stories at the front of Ina May Gaskin's two books and they calm me down and keep me focussed love Sarah xxxx

 

[*Star*]

I am always nervous awaiting labour. Even though I know what to expect, I think it's the fear of the unexpected that does it!

You never actually know how much pain you will have, if baby will cope with labour alright, if you will be alright. How much pain you can cope with without feeling you need pain relief, and if you will get that relief as soon as you ask for it. etc.

The best thing I can advise is to go with the flow, and just remember, that at the end of it all, you will be holding your baby in your arms, and then I promise you, EVERYTHING you just went through will have been forgotten and you would go through it 100 times over just to get to where you are then!!!

It's a cliche, but it is SO true!

 

[HideiLu]

I think once everything kicks off then the nerves disappear. It's just the waiting part, not knowing what to expect and whether your labour will follow a normal pattern or not. Once it starts you just get on with it and you don't really have time to think too much!!

I agree with this.

I was getting nervous and worried about how I would cope.

Once my waters broke, I was just excited and started gathering my things to go to hospital like a kid on the way the Disneyland! I had a huge grin on my face and was telling OH we would be meeting our little man soon!

 

[LisaJ1986]

I completely ignored everything to do with labour, coz the most terrifying bit for me was the next bit! I was scared coz i was solely responsible for this little life. As i was going overdue i began to get excited as it is an individual experience. No matter how many birth stories you read, yours is going to be different and unique.
It is a wonderful experience that you'll never forget, and you will have the most beautiful little baby out of it! Looking back now i panicked, but i miss the experience, and it was actually quite enjoyable.

 

[BabyMagic]

It is a positive thing to feel nervous - you are about to experience something special and amazing!

For once in your life you cannot control what will happen - you just have to drive along. Before the birth I kept myself busy (seeing friends and family, going out to cinema or theatre). I also prepared for a birth. Repeating positive affirmations helped to keep focused. My favourite was: 'I trust my body and follow it's lead' or 'I will be strong and confident when my child is born'. I repeated these particularly when swimming and walking in nature where I felt in peace and calm.

When I then repeated these during labour I got to the same calm state of mind. Remember fear can cause more tention so more relaxed you are the better (may be easier said than done).

Good luck

 

[Kylie1007]

When I got to about 37 weeks I think I suddenly felt very calm and ready to have this baby (and he then came 2 days later!) so maybe my body knew that the baby was on the way. It's not as bad as you think though.

 

[trixipaws]

i kno what u mean, during the first half of my pregnancy i was just absolutely petrified, but that gave way to like an excitement kind of nervousness. i dont have any tips for making the feeling go away coz i never tried to make it go away i kinda liked it lol. u will be fine, like others said just go with the flow and u will be so proud of urself afterwards. xx

 

[DebbieM]

Yeah, totally fear of the unknown Sharne. Once it all kicks off your body will take over and you will be fine hun xxxxxxx

 

[Sylvie]

maybe its because i don't know what to expect?

Exactly! I was feeling very nervous in the last weeks, forgetting all the good advice I had heard or read... but as soon as my waters broke in the middle of the night I surprisingly became very calm and reasonable

 

[Lola's Mummy]

You'll be fine once it all starts, Your body will show you what to do