Loubalouba
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No real reason for post, just needed to get this out.. Just feel really low tonight, I think it is from a friend posting on fb about her baby shower.. My baby shower was supposed to be 2 days after Harrison was born sleeping., I never got to experience that happy day, that day just increased my grief and loss instead and hurt like hell.. Those early weeks felt like a physical pain.. I have never felt anything like it.. These days it's easier but then like a switch you are taken back to this dark depressing very lonely place like tonight... No one really knows what I am going through, I don't think even my hubby gets it and sometimes it makes me feel really lonely.
We are going for embryo transfer on Thursday and I just don't know how to feel about it., I think I am going to find it hard because I don't want to be back in this god damn awful world of TTC I want to be knee deep in nappies watching Harrison smile for the first time, seeing his little personality shining through.. I have wanted to be a mum for the last 20 years, I have had so much maternal feelings and longings and never did I think I would be a mummy to an angel.. It's the cruelest thing in the world to be a mummy and not have your baby with you.. I see his little face every day but I can't hold him or kiss him or see his eyes open, it's like torture. A nursery full and ready to go is torture.. My life is just awful, my hubby is struggling and we struggle on every day, nothing to be excited about or look forward to, he hates his job and so is miserable and grumpy which I find really hard as it brings me down too.
Sorry for the depressing post, I have been holding things back and just needed to get it out I think.. Grief is so hard and so complicated.. 4 months on and sometimes it does not feel any easier.
Lou xx
We are going for embryo transfer on Thursday and I just don't know how to feel about it., I think I am going to find it hard because I don't want to be back in this god damn awful world of TTC I want to be knee deep in nappies watching Harrison smile for the first time, seeing his little personality shining through.. I have wanted to be a mum for the last 20 years, I have had so much maternal feelings and longings and never did I think I would be a mummy to an angel.. It's the cruelest thing in the world to be a mummy and not have your baby with you.. I see his little face every day but I can't hold him or kiss him or see his eyes open, it's like torture. A nursery full and ready to go is torture.. My life is just awful, my hubby is struggling and we struggle on every day, nothing to be excited about or look forward to, he hates his job and so is miserable and grumpy which I find really hard as it brings me down too.
Sorry for the depressing post, I have been holding things back and just needed to get it out I think.. Grief is so hard and so complicated.. 4 months on and sometimes it does not feel any easier.
Lou xx