Sorry it's took a while for a reply. My husband has never been any good at being there for me or understanding me. He actually becomes more needy himself when i'm pregnant or unwell! Reading your post was like reading what my hubby was like in my first pregnancy. I practically had to force him to the appointments and explain why I needed him there. I used to say to him I didn't think he was bothered about this pregnancy / baby but he would always say he was excited and he did enjoy the scans/ felt emotional.
Honestly, with my hubby he just doesn't know how to sympathise with other people and he doesn't know how to show he cares. But I know he does! I'm pregnant again now and he's the same again
so this time i'm going to all the midwife/hosp appts alone and just including him in the scans.
Men can't see what's going on inside us, and a lot of men can only relate to it if it's visual. I found my hubby felt more connected after seeing a scan, or seeing my belly move. But again I had to prompt him to put his hands on my bump or talk to my belly, he never took the initiative.
Also, during labour, he kept leaving the room and swapping with my mum, which I thought was because he was getting fed up. But turns out he couldn't bare to see me in pain and kept going outside to cry (my dad told me)
I think your boyfriend cares, he might just be struggling to show it in the way you think he should. Do you get to speak to your family on the phone? I made a point of talking to my mum every day about my worries etc. and it helped me a lot x