Feeling hopeful....

[Laura78]

Hi ladies,Happy New Year to you all.
I'm a relatively new member to the forum. I've posted a few times but have been reading intently over the past few months and have loved sharing all of your experiences so far.
Now I feel would be a good time to share my story,and welcome your views,opinions and suggestions of things that might help.
We have been actively TTC for 3 months now,with no success. We are slightly different from other couples in the respect that my OH suffers from performance anxiety,making intercourse virtually impossible. He is desperate TP conceive tho and we have therefore resorted to the turkey baster method. TMI - this involves the use of a syringe around the time of ovulation.
Anyway,we've been unsuccessful so far. I'm not actually too sure what the success rate of this method is likely to be but at the minute it's our only option.
I'm due AF on 8th Jan but have been experiencing the following symptoms:
- feeling on my right side,neary ovaries, like I've got a stitch. This has been coming and going for a few days now
- mega sore boobs
- crying for nothin one minute,fine the next and feeling like I want to kill my OH in between times

I was just wondering if anyone had any advice to offer or had any experience in my sort of situation. Probably doesn't help matters that my cycle is very irregular but given my symptoms,I am (perhaps naively) being hopeful this month.
I look forward to hearin from you.
Baby dust to all!!!!!

 

[ceebee]

Welcome Laura Sounds like you're having a challenging ttc journey, but I don't see why you can't get a BFP in the same timespan as the rest of us... Don't really know much about the turnkey baster method tbh - have you done much research on the subject. I always find the more knowledge I have, the better I feel... As for your symptoms, well, you never know. I promised myself I wouldn't symptom spot as a couple of months ago I convinced myself I was pg, but was very dissapointed when I wasn't... At least you haven't got long to wait now if your af is due soon... How many dpo ov are you? Are you doing anything else to maximise your chances of conceiving? There is another girl, Daisy2011 who is using AI (for different reasons tho)- check out her journal in the journals section - perhaps you can chat with her... Just wondering if your OH has tried counselling or anything to help with his issues...

Wishing you lots of luck and look forward to getting to know you more... xx

 

[PINK BUTTERFLY]

Just like Ceebee I was going to suggest that you spoke to Daisy2001 - she is really nice as im sure she will have some good advise and helpful info for you!

Good luck hun! x

 

[EmmaN27]

Hi Laura, if you are due AF in 3 days you could try testing using a First Response Early Response test or if you have any internet cheapy tests you could try them? Your symptoms sound good but can also be symptoms of AF, only real way of knowing is to test. Good luck x

 

[hayes]

Hi Laura, just wanted to say fx for you and as the others have said the only way to really know is to test although im a fine one to talk as i put it off for as long as poss!!

Michelle. x

 

[Carr87]

hi and welcome to the forum lovely bunch here! just want to wish you lots of luck this cycle, will be stalking to see if you have bfp! xxx

 

[Laura78]

Thanks ladies,your thoughtful responses mean a lot!
I've done quite a bit of reading re the turkey baster method,everythin from when to do it,how to do and what position to use. Some articles say that it's just as effective as the natural method but seeing as doing it at home yourself is an almost taboo subject,there's little evidence to back it up.
My OH did muster the courage to speak with his GP about what's been happening. His advice was to prescribe Viagra,which did help, but isn't really a long term solution. I have tried to encourage him to speak with a counsellor about it but understandably hes more than a little bit embarrassed about it....in fact,he'd kill me if he knew I was on here sharing it with you guys! Lol!
We're both taking extra vitamins too and trying to eat a little healthier. I've been having some mid cycle bleeding around the time of ovulation which coincidentally started soon after we started TTC. I've today made an appt with my doc to get this checked out. Not sure what it could be?
Will keep you all posted with how it is going. Trying soooooo hard not to symptom spot or POAS until AF is officially late,but as you lot know,that's a whole lot easier said than done!

Thanks again girls, your responses fair cheered me up today xx

 

[mrspc]

Hey Laura78,

Not much advice really as I've been ttc for ages with no success!!! Are you using opks etc to pinpoint ov?

Also should say to prepare yourself that it takes time and try not to drive yourself crazy symptom spotting in the 2ww. I have had different 'symptoms' nearly every 2ww and no pg. Saying that, we should always hope because it's most likely that one day we will get our BFP. It's just that if you convince yourself too much it can be upsetting when the witch arrives!

You're in with a good chance and I am crossing my fingers for you, hun. Dust!


xxxxxxxxx

 

[Laura78]

Morning ladies. Update from me....been up since 3am,the witch got me 2 days early.
Have just driven to work in floods of tears. For the first month ever,I'd convinced myself I'd be lucky enough to get a BFP. Silly I know,but feeling very sorry for myself this morning. Need to give myself a good shake,pick myself up and remember I've not really been trying got that long....easier said than done right enough.
Meantime,I'm off to make a fully caffeinated coffee and eat the stash of chocolate currently hidden in my desk drawer.
Happy Friday to you all,have a lovely day

 

[hayes]

Oh sweetie its so upseting when that awful witch flies in isnt it, ive been tring for 7 cycles now and every month i tell myself not to get my hopes up but every time im gutted. Hope you have a good friday and try to stay positive that your bfp is just round the corner.

Michelle. x

 

[cosmicgirl]

so sorry she got you, fx for next month xx

 

[Laura78]

Thanks ladies. Just feeling sorry for myself today. Not sure why but I'd really convinced myself this was my lucky month.
Got my doc appt on 16th to query my new and v random mid cycle bleeding so will focus on getting to that.
Meantime....more coffee!

 

[ceebee]

Aww - that sucks It's horrible when you're ttc and your body does things you weren't expecting it to... I've had spotting on and off over the months - actually have some today, 2dpo, so it always leaves me wondering what's going on. Am trying not to get my hopes up, but there's a little voice at the back of my head which is saying, what if...?? Anyway, be kind to yourself today (chocolate and coffee sounds like a good start!) and hope you feel a bit happier soon... xx

 

[mrs v]

Hey laura, sorry to hear af got you, its a crap journey bit will be worth it all in the end. I hope you get your bfp soon xx

 

[EmmaN27]

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