Feel sooooo soooo confused and guilty:(

[xxsuzi23xx]

Hi all!Don't really know where to start but really need some advice,have been bangin my head against a brick wall and don't kno what to do

Firstly..please don't judge me as i'm not a bad person this just makes me seem like one...

Ok..I've been with my partner who i love very much for only a year,
Before I went to stay at home with my mum for christmas we had a bit of a fall out and I left on bad terms.
While at home one night I bumped into an old friend/lover who I ended up getting very drunk with and sleeping with!

I went to get morning after pill but they wouldn't give me it because there was already a chance I could be pregnant!To my partner

Anyway...Now I've had scans and dates worked out it seems more likely the child is not going to be my partners but the dates are very close..Feel like such an idiot!

He is so excited about pregnancy and so are all his family...really don't have the heart to tell him,If its not his at birth it will be obvious because my partner is black and the guy I slept with is white!!

Any help please..feel like I'm going mad and have no one to talk to about it....

Hope that all made sense.. xx

 

[Nic'n'Keeley]

i don't have much to experience on this but wanted to give you this

you are gonna have to tell you partner soon... its unfair on him for you to let him bond with a baby that mite not be he's and its unfair on he's family too...

does the other bloke now the baby could be he's? as he deserves to know too

hope that helps

 

[xxsuzi23xx]

Thankyou so much..Could do with a big hug

I know I have to tell him..He's just being so nice to me at the moment,we're getting on better then ever which is making it even harder..I'm going to break his heart

The other guy does know...someone told him..I don't know who but guess news travels fast!He called me and asked me if it was his,I said I was 99%sure it wasn't,because thats what I kinda thought and he sounded gutted and said he wouldn't be annoyed if it was and he'd be there for me..which is good to know.

Hmmph Could go on about this forever..I just have to face up to what I've done and tell my boyfriend...who will be here any minute!

Thank you x

 

[Nic'n'Keeley]

if the other bloke found out from some one else your partner could to hear from someone too and surley thats the worst thing...

i think you need to tell him before someone else does

 

[Penstraze]

Aww hun sounds like an awful situation to be in, you have to tell your partner it would be so much worse to wait til the birth and him to get the shock of his life then if its not his!!! Its going to be hard and he's going to be hurt but he would be so much more hurt if he found out from someone else or from the baby being white! I hope everything works out for you and that your partner is at least understanding!

 

[sophie-jordan]

aww this sounds awful 4 u hun hope everything gets sorted
but as all the other girls have said i think it would be best if your partner finds out from you and not from someone else, and hopefully before the baby is born and he bonds with it.
hope u sort things hun
x sophie x

 

[Alfiesmummy]

Suz hun we ll make mistakes and noone will judge you for this hun, mseems as if you could use one of these Listen hun i do undestand that you must be wracked with guilt and scared to tell the man you love that the baby may not be his but you really do have to tell him hunny otherwise if it gets to the birth and the baby ISNT his he is going to be devastated after all the months of excitement and waiting, it would be like him going through it all and coming out ith nothing. You need to tell him and maybe that way he will be willing to work things out with you i promise you he wont want to after being lied to on top of that and finding out the baby isnt his through the birth. We are all here for you darlin to chat to any time. if your feeling down/upset whatever drop me a pm im on here every day lol and for the next few days ... ALL DAY haha but ill do whatever i can to help! heres those hugs darlin

 

[Urchin]

I agree we all make mistakes, but I think you should sit him down and tell him asap.
It would be totally unfair on him to get all excited and spend loads of money on baby stuff only to come to the birth and see that the baby isn't his. Aside from all that you are obviously very stressed about it and you need to take the weight off your mind.

Be honest, it's alway the best option.

 

[xxsuzi23xx]

Thankyou all sooo much..ur all so nice..Think i'm going to talk to him tonight...Will prob be back later to tell you all how awful it was

xx

 

[Alfiesmummy]

good luck hunny

 

[Sabrina]

I think you are doing the right thing by telling your boyfriend. It will be tough but I bet you feel so much better when you get it over with.

Here are a few more hugs for you to help you get through this.

Take care
Sabrina
x

 

[happy-chick]

How are u hun? Did you tel ur fella?

I agree with the others than he needs to be told but its not an easy thing to do.