Feel like a bit of a recluse

[flexilexi394]

I think recluse is the right word...

I just don't really fancy doing anything social atthe moment. My ideal day is get out of bed whenever, eat, a bit of tv, decorate or tidy, take doggies for a walk, eat dinner and watch a film in bed. Then sleep.

Not too sure why but I just can't be bothered to see anyone! I've cancelled on a few friends over the past week, meant to be meeting another friend Monday and I just don't want to.

I love having my OH for company but no one else. It's so strange. I've become really clingy attached to him, and I really don't know why! He goes out and stuff, I used to go too but I am being a hermit and staying at home just counting the minutes that he gets back.

I don't particularly like this time of year at all, I don't feel depressed, I'm just quite enjoying stayin indoors. I have to go do the horses too but that's not a problem, such a normal thing in my daily routine I just go do them.

Not too sure why I'm telling everyone, just how I feel at this current moment in time. I used to be a mad party animal that couldn't get enough of clubbing and stuff, the thought of that now doesn't even cross my mind!

 

[kellylou]

I feel the same the thought of socialising makes me feel stressed! I spent today just on the couch watched 4 films and my bro popped round with the baby but that was it, and I am still shattered but had no sleep last night.

 

[mumofmany]

Is it that you just want your own company or just want to be at home, if you dont want to cancel friends wont they come to your house and have a cupa and a chat, just saying be careful you dont fob them off to much because believe me after the baby you will need your friends, not at first but life can be very boring and depressing spending time just you and baby sometimes you need adult conversation. But if your friends are understaning and you explain you are tired and just want to stay at home comfy, I'm sure if they are true friends they will understand and may even offer to come to you and make you a nice cup of tea and wont mind you sitting in your pj's. and one may even bring a nice chocy bar round lol

 

[flexilexi394]

Thanks, yeah a part of it is just I want to be at home.
The thing is, some people I haven't seen or spoken to for a few years have come out the woodwork and all of a sudden want to catch up and I know this sounds horrid but I can't be bothered with them... Only because they used to be friends but haven't been for ages and I just don't want to Mee up with them and tell them what I've been up to for the last 4 years, seems stupid. I know they are all only trying to help and be there for me but I don't really want them to be! My current friends are all awesome an ms they would totally just come round and chill with me, but when they are all like "let's go out" I just want to crawl under rock. Never felt like this before ... X

 

[mumofmany]

well what your explaining is totally normal, why would we want to go to the pub and watch people getting drunk etc when we cant. and its always best to do a catchup when you have the energy not when your pregnant. I rememeber last year when i was pregnant over xmas and all the mums from the school my friends arranged a xmas night out and said they would all go for a meal instead of the pub, which was lovely so we went for meal in a pub then i went home cause i just wanted to be at home but felt as it was xmas i made the effort i had him a week later a few days after xmas. there is plenty of time after baby when you can have nights out again and meet up with old friends and to be honest thats when you enjoy it more.

 

[flexilexi394]

I just went to my pals house over the road and that's made me feel better still not feeling going out in public though for some reason! X

 

[x.Lilly.x]

If I didnt already have demanding toddler then I would be doing exactly what your doing. Make the most of it I say, as when you have the baby everyone will want to come round and see her.
Im jelouse, I want to get up whenever I want haha x

 

[bidsy]

I know what you mean about being clingy I just want to be with OH at the mo although I have the feeling he is fed up now xx

 

[JJ Mum]

Ahh we are all feeling a bit different now Hun, baby time is coming round and you will feel not your normal self, your a skinny mini normally and now you bumpy, so going out is less attractive! It's nice not to have a diary thats choc full, as it justs adds to the stress , you do what feels right for you, baby and OH. get some quality time with OH now, to help you when baby comes X