claire_louise
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ok, i know they did know about their grandchild, but i get the feeling he may have told them i got rid of it (his wishful thinking) they have no way of contacting me, they dont know my address/phone number and my parents are ex-directory.
i refuse to cut them out of my LO's life if they genuinely want to be invloved. but i dont want to feel like theyre going behind his back. SO i had this idea ..
i will send them a christmas card, in it i will put a copy of the scan pic, and a letter, explaining that if they want to see their grand daughter, then i do not have a problem as long as its done on neutral space. i will also put something like,
'i do not know what chris has told you, but im sure you are clever people and realise there are two sides to every story, i do not want to speak badly of chris to you, however i would like to leave the door open if you wish to meet your grand daughter, if on the other hand you do not wish to be involved please do not respond to this, i have had enough upset and hurt regarding this, i am not looking for more'
basically the last thing i want is to get nasty calls/ letters from them (i dont think they would) but i want them to know i do consider them my LO's family. then i know i have done all i can to include all of my LO's closest relatives and if they chose not to be part of her life then that is them and not me deciding that
i refuse to cut them out of my LO's life if they genuinely want to be invloved. but i dont want to feel like theyre going behind his back. SO i had this idea ..
i will send them a christmas card, in it i will put a copy of the scan pic, and a letter, explaining that if they want to see their grand daughter, then i do not have a problem as long as its done on neutral space. i will also put something like,
'i do not know what chris has told you, but im sure you are clever people and realise there are two sides to every story, i do not want to speak badly of chris to you, however i would like to leave the door open if you wish to meet your grand daughter, if on the other hand you do not wish to be involved please do not respond to this, i have had enough upset and hurt regarding this, i am not looking for more'
basically the last thing i want is to get nasty calls/ letters from them (i dont think they would) but i want them to know i do consider them my LO's family. then i know i have done all i can to include all of my LO's closest relatives and if they chose not to be part of her life then that is them and not me deciding that