Doing my head in....

Discussion in 'Baby & Toddler' started by emilia, Feb 7, 2006.

  1. emilia

    emilia Well-Known Member

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    Sorry, but I'm having to have a damn good rant!!
    My mother lives with us and is driving me NUTS!! She has just returned from visiting my brother (because I wanted time alone with my family and Oscar). Since she's back, every time Oscar has a wee cry, she immediately views her opinion about the fact that my milk must be CRAP. Can you imagine how bloody annoying that is? With my first born (nearly 12 years ago) she did the same and I ended up bottle feeding after a couple of weeks). I found out some years later, that the only problem I had with my son, was incorrect latching which caused cracked nipples. I breastfed my daughter with no probs for 18 months, because my mother wasn't breathing down my neck.

    I'm sorry, just sooooo pissed off. When Oscar cries she wants to hold him. She thinks she's the only one that can get rid of winds, etc. She had 7 kids (including twins to start with) and thinks she knows it all. I'm sure she does have some good advice to pass on, but only if she does it without sounding like a "know-all". For goodness sake, I was her last born (only girl after 6 boys) in the 60's. We've changed our way of thinking ie. demand feeding. In her day you spiked the baby's milk with rusks and even brandy!!!
    I love my mother, but she's on bloody thin ice now. She speads alot of tension in my house amongst my kids and husband. Now that hubby is working away, it's like having another kid in the house. I have to take her food to her every evening whilst she's watching her soaps. Seldom a compliment arise.

    Oh dear, what do I sound like??? I'm such a placid person with a lot of patience, but this is taking the mickey!!!! I'm starting to get sooooooo stressed out and it's affecting my moods with my children. I've tried talking to her, but she just looks past me. In one ear, out the other. She has so little respect for me in my own house. I ask her not to do one thing.... turn my back.... and she does it anyway!!!

    So, what would you do when nothing you've tried to talk about, will work?
    HELP!!!!!!
    Emilia xx
     
  2. leanne

    leanne Well-Known Member

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    i sympathise, my mother is the same, highly opinionated and her way is the best way. me and my oh used to live in the same street until 2 months ago and she was constantly popping round for no reasron whatsoever. sometimes she used to just sit there and want a full on conversation with me after id been at work all day. i honestly think if she lived with us i would have moved myself out. im an only child so all the attention is on me. at the minute we only live a few more streets away but the change in day to day life is amazing. she hardly calls round and its bliss. i know this probably sounds harsh but my mother is intense. still got to inform her that i dont want her at the hospital when im in labour. she will only get to know once the baby has been born. ive decided that if she starts coming out with annicdotes (think thats how u spell it) and old wives tales i am gonna have to tell her to keep them to herself. people have to learn by their mistakes otherwise nobody would try anything new?! you must have the patience of a saint!
     
  3. Urchin

    Urchin Well-Known Member

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    Emila have you thought about showing your mom this thread?
    You managed to get you point across fine to us.. maybe it your mom read this she'll realise how she is affecting you.
     
  4. emilia

    emilia Well-Known Member

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    Thanks Urchin.... I'm sure I'll erode from guilt in the end. I already feel pooh that I just can't accept my mothers ways.
    I can't show her this..... My mother is old (78) which comes with bad memory, repetitive talk, etc. I don't know how to describe it to you.
    I just got so pissed off today and think it's time to find her a nursing home. At her age she should be enjoying her kids and grandchildren, instead, she rocks the boat where ever she goes.
    She's always been opinionated...... can't teach an old dog new tricks.

    She's in a huff with me now. I will have to ignore it - it's just so pointless!!!!
    :( :evil:
     
  5. Rosieroo

    Rosieroo Well-Known Member

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    No advice for you Emilia, just some {{{hugs}}}
     

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