Do I expect too much? *epic rant*

Discussion in 'Third Trimester' started by CarlyD, Jan 27, 2012.

  1. CarlyD

    CarlyD Well-Known Member

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    I know we're pregnant, not sick, but sometimes I feel a little more consideration is needed! I don't have the best track record with working well with others anyway lol, but I'm helping out my mums friends business by doing a bit of office work for them but they've unloaded quite a lot on me, considering I wasn't really planning on helping our for *that* long with my due date looming. DH wants me at home because if I go into labour over there I'd have the car and he'd have no way of coming to get me! (He works a 20min walk from our house whereas this office is a 20min drive and we only have one car!)

    So they've given me a big project which wasn't really what I wanted to do, and then I couldn't go in most of this week due to appointments for me and DH (I had physio, midwife etc etc, he has to see a specialist about an hour away once every 3 months. Each appointment fell on a different day) so yeah I couldn't go in any day except today, and I even really forced myself to go in today because I feel so drained with the anaemia, the infection and my teeth and gums KILLING after having an emergency dentist appointment yesterday, having a filling and being told I need root canal and my wisdom tooth removed.

    So anyway I dosed up on prescription painkillers and somehow drove in, just to get snidy comments from the other 3 people in the office about how certain things they'd laid on me "WE had to do, it couldn't wait"... Even after I'd told them all the problems! They're alwaysss sending me downstairs to fetch things for them even though I have my own work to do and even though I'm 33 weeks pregnant and the physio said to avoid stairs wherever possible. They get me to post big batches of things and buy shit from the post office 'on your way home', even though there isn't a post office on my way home, I have to go out of my way to do it! And last time that happened the post office short changed me, and so when the money came back short they watched as I emptied my pockets, car, everything, gathering my coppers to try and make up the difference for them. I mean me and DH literally don't have much to spare, and it just felt so unfair that it actually cost me money to do them a favour, and they never say thank you or seem to appreciate it :(

    One of the girls is constantly doing things wrong and trying to blame me for it. She paid this local paper for an ad this week, and they can't seem to chase up a reciept or get a copy of the paper, she'd taken the number for this company off of my notepad while I was away so when people questioned whether is was legit she turned to me and was like "where did YOU get that number from?" I was like "their website" and she shut up. So much more she's done to try and pin her mistakes on me but I won't bore you anymore!

    I know I'm sounding like a whiney brat but I'm just so unhappy, especially as I'm supposed to be on maternity leave and I'm just feeling stressed and used because of all of this :( Normally there wouldn't be a discussion, I'd give the middle finger and walk away because I HATE people treating me like dirt just because I'm quiet and don't stand up for myself. But I really don't want to let my mum down and I think she'd think I was overreacting and be disappointed with me. I feel like crying. Sorry for the rant xxx
     
  2. hugsy

    hugsy Well-Known Member

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    oh hun thats discrasefull

    feeling to pants to give any decent advice but id just speak to ur mams friend and say your sorry but your just not able to help due to the stresses of you pregnancy and given that it was voluntary you were discusted with how the other girls in the office treated dyou

    hope u get it sorted xxx
     
  3. leannesxb

    leannesxb Well-Known Member

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    poor you hun. I would just say to your mum first about how it is effecting you and then tell them to stick it. Think of no-one but yourself and babe. xxxx
     
  4. pinkyprincess

    pinkyprincess Well-Known Member

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    Can ur mum speak to them on your behalf?


     
  5. CarlyD

    CarlyD Well-Known Member

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    Thank you ladies, I was hoping this would be the general feeling and am glad I don't sound like I'm overreacting! DH is happy for me to leave and his opinion is pretty much the only one that's gonna affect me so I'm glad he sympathises! I just feel awkward letting people down (especially my mum because it's a good friends company so the fact I've left when they gave me a huge project might make *her* feel bad) but I suppose if I ever have an excuse not to allow myself to get stressed then being pregnant is it! And I don't feel guilty when I think about the fact the horrible girl will have to go fetch her own things and won't have anyone to blame her mistakes on (although I'm sure where possible she'll put any further errors that crop up down to my short time there lol)

    Thank you all for the support xxx
     

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