mollythemama
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First things first, I love my boyfriend. He is the loveliest, kindest man and he is so good to me, and is always so loving and forgiving of my bad moods during this pregnancy.
My problem is that he is so extremely disorganised. I am no clean freak, and have tendancies to be a bit messy myself so I am by no means calling myself perfect, but his disorganisation is really starting to stress me out:
Here are some examples of the things he does:
And to be honest, I'll be here all day if I continue. But, what bothers me the most is if at any time I try to talk to him about it, or tell him not to do this or that, he just accuses me of nagging him. I then get frustrated because I'm not nagging him, I'm just simply trying to make things work easier.
Does anyone have any suggestions on how to make things work? It really stresses me out, and I don't want to be a stressy pregnant lady. I can't imagine how difficult it'll be when baby arrives as well, what if I go into labour and his phone is off because he just 'forgot' to charge his phone?
My problem is that he is so extremely disorganised. I am no clean freak, and have tendancies to be a bit messy myself so I am by no means calling myself perfect, but his disorganisation is really starting to stress me out:
Here are some examples of the things he does:
- He'll come home and forget to put his phone on charge, and then the next day his phone will be dead so I can't get hold of him. Sometimes he'll take the charger to work with him, usually leaving it there.
- Instead of changing his alarm times on his phone, he just 'creates new', so he sometimes has alarms going off at all times of the morning and sometimes in the middle of the night. Last night, he set it for 7PM instead of 7AM so he woke up this morning far too late saying "ah my alarm didn't go off" and he was in such a stress because he would have been late for work. He then turned on the light (while I was sleeping), didn't switch it off and then walked out the room.
- He puts a drink down by his foot, I'll tell him to be careful with that (he says "I know! I know!") and minutes later, he will have knocked it over.
- He'll leave his phone, keys, wallet in his jeans pocket, and then wear a different pair the next day and spend ages searching the house trying to find them, getting in a such a stress.
- If there's something that he NEEDS to do, he'll just keep putting it off for the next day, week or month. Until eventually he gets himself into a really difficult situation and then suffer from anxiety over it. Biggest procrastinater ever - and I'm the total opposite.
- He'll take his shoes off as he gets home and just leave them on the living room floor rather than the designated shoe area. Sometimes there will be 3 pairs on the floor.
- He opens the cupboard and takes the last item out of a wrapper, and then leaves the wrapper in the cupboard rather than putting it in the bin.
- We'll finish dinner, he'll get up to go to the bathroom and while he's getting up anyway, he doesn't take our empty plates to the kitchen (which is en route).
And to be honest, I'll be here all day if I continue. But, what bothers me the most is if at any time I try to talk to him about it, or tell him not to do this or that, he just accuses me of nagging him. I then get frustrated because I'm not nagging him, I'm just simply trying to make things work easier.
Does anyone have any suggestions on how to make things work? It really stresses me out, and I don't want to be a stressy pregnant lady. I can't imagine how difficult it'll be when baby arrives as well, what if I go into labour and his phone is off because he just 'forgot' to charge his phone?