My baby will be the first on both sides of the family, so obviously everyone is excited. I was chatting to one of my older sisters before, and she said I'd have to give a commentary on the pain and how it is. I completely understand why she's interested, but I basically told her I'd be telling no one when I went into labour. This triggered a bit of an argument. She said they wanted to go through it with me and that everyone would be disappointed in us if we didn't tell. I mean she was really trying to guilt me in to it. I know what they're like and if I told them they'd be asking for 10 minute updates, trying to call and would worry if we hadn't replied or it was taking too long. This sister even tried to invite herself to the labour. My opinion is that I want it to just be me and my husband. I want that special bonding time as a new family and I don't want phones as a distraction. I want to rest after the birth and breast feed in peace. I would be very upset if my husband was forced to sit in a corner replying to everyone. We could tell them when labour starts and then turn our phones off, but if it was then a long labour they would most likely worry and send out a search party. I'm a home birth too so not easy to deny visitors. I just wondered how many other people didn't tell their family until after the birth?