teachermummy
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I'm full on waddling already. If people can't already tell by the belly they can certainly tell by the pregnancy waddle!
Haha I was thinking it’s a bit quiet but I thought that maybe because Tri2 is meant to be the ‘best one’ so we have nothing to moan about haha.
Yesterday I started to get pain in/above my left hip. It was like a stabbing pain that happened only for a short while but happened a few times throughout the evening. It’s not even like a stretching pain. I really hope I’m not getting problems with my hips!! I’m going to have to start to sleep with a cushion in between my legs I think x
Thread hopping but i couldn't read and run.
Your SIL sounds like a vile person (sorry)
I would absolutely be cutting her out of my life if i was in your situation.
She sounds like a very nasty horrible person and you don't need that kind of negativity in your life especially when your pregnant and your hormones are flying all over the place.
Just remember your an amazing mum to your son and don't let anyone tell you different x
Hey. Just jumping in as often check on the dec mummies page. I’m so sorry this is happening to you. Sounds as though as others have said she is very jealous of you. Probably stemming from being a single parent, she’s worrying that no one will accept her and her children and she will be all alone. She sees you in a steady happy, relationship with another baby on the way. Her brother has accepted your DS as his own which is lovely.I posted before about comments made by SIL but the situation has got worse unfortunately:
2 nights ago we had a bust up. We went out with DH’s family for a meal for my stepdaughter’s birthday. Once again.. the critical comments started. This time it was to do with my son’s diet. DS (dear son) is a nightmare with food and he’s been like this since he was a baby. He’s never had an interest in eating bizarrely.
I’ve tried to get support with him for years. He was under an infant feeding specialist previously, I’ve spoken to health visitors, his nursery, school.. everyone. We’ve tried a variety of different techniques but to no avail. I had to battle to get him a further referral to the feeding clinic at the hospital and we’re seeing a paediatrician this week.
Tonight, DS (dear son) was eating chicken strips. He did not complain and he was eating nicely. Despite this, SIL (sister-in-law) was saying that I should have cracked the eating issues years ago, that his behaviour with food is appalling and that if he can eat chicken strips tonight then why don’t I make him eat regular chicken in a chicken dinner.
I explained that I’m sure I’ve made a lot of mistakes with DS, but DH (dear husband) and I really do try. She started shouting at me and waving her finger in my face saying he’s my child, my responsibility and I should have sorted things out years and years ago. When I said that I have been trying to get support with him, she said that I’m passing the buck on to other people. I explained that’s not the case - clearly whatever I’m doing is not working and I’m just looking for guidance from professionals.
She complained that I’m not sending him to school with a healthy packed lunch. Again, we have tried packing nutritious meals in the hope that he’d be so hungry he’d try the food. He went all day at school without touching a single thing and started falling asleep in lessons. He had infant school meals with the other kids up until this year.. but just survived on a plain jacket potato (no butter).
DH (dear husband) told her firmly that the way she’d spoken to me these past few weeks was completely unacceptable, he’d had enough and that this criticism of me has to stop.
He pointed out that no child is perfect and that perhaps she should look closer to home before calling me out on my parenting. He pointed out that our niece (same age as DS) can be very rude at times and that tonight SIL (sister-in-law) had not called her up on getting out of her chair every few mins and messing about.
Even MIL (mother-in-law) got involved at that point to say that DS (dear son) had sat and eaten really nicely tonight and that our niece had just messed around and barely touched her food.
She stood up and shouted that no one had the right to criticise her parenting like this. Then she told me that I need to get a grip, sort my child out and that DS’ behaviour is the most disgusting behaviour she’d ever seen in a child.
MIL asked what had got in to her and that she’d ruined stepdaughter’s birthday. She pointed at DS and said ‘no, he had with his eating issues’. DS was still sitting there quietly and eating his chicken fingers without a fuss it was the best way he could undermine her point and show who was really behaving badly that evening - the 39 year old adult and not the 8 year old child.
She then took her kids, stormed out and didn’t bother paying for the meals they’d just eaten.
Other than with his eating, we have no other behavioural issues with DS (dear son)fortunately. In fact, whilst she was venting about him, DS (dear son) (who was sitting next to her) just quietly ate his chicken fingers without a fuss.
The criticism was targeted solely at me because DS (dear son) is not DH’s biological child (even though DH (dear husband) has been there since DS (dear son) was 2 and raised him as his own). She just kept saying how this was all my fault.
She’s a primary school teacher and so I can’t believe her complete lack of empathy. I have no idea where to go with her from here but I feel like I can’t have her in mine or DS’ lives until I’m sure this sort of incident won’t be repeated. It’s so unfair to say all this when sitting right next to him.
Had a discussion with MIL afterwards who has also picked up that SIL seems to keep deliberately raising stories about stillbirth, miscarriage and pregnancy complications in front of me. I hate to say it but it feels like she’s wishing that something will go wrong.
I don’t get it because we’ve always been friendly towards her, see her every weekend and she would always stay for hours chatting to me on a Saturday evening whilst I cooked dinner for us all. We’ve been on holidays together and looked after each other’s kids. I can be civil with her for DH’s sake but she has effectively ruined our friendship. I feel that there are jealousy issues because she’s a single parent. That is the only thing I can think of.
Hey. Just jumping in as often check on the dec mummies page. I’m so sorry this is happening to you. Sounds as though as others have said she is very jealous of you. Probably stemming from being a single parent, she’s worrying that no one will accept her and her children and she will be all alone. She sees you in a steady happy, relationship with another baby on the way. Her brother has accepted your DS as his own which is lovely.
This is coming out in the nasty things she is saying about your son and problems in pregnancy. If I was you I’d keep her at arms length. At end of day it’s her problem. You sound like an amazing mother to your son. Very hard dealing with excessive eating issues and More hard to get the support at times so good for you for sticking to your guns.
I had a friend who was a single mother at same time I was. When I met my now fiancé she would say some horrendous Things and put me down constantly. I felt it was jealousy and funnily enough once she met someone she totally changed her attitude towards me. Good luck x