Hi, I'm new to the site. I have a little boy who is 30 months and we've been trying for #2 for a year. With our first I conceived within a week but this time despite getting the all clear from the gp it's not happening.
I have told no one we're trying other than my mum because we didn't want the pressure. My husband has occasional ED which complicates matters. Anyway I recently confided in who I thought was my most sensitive of friends. I've known her since uni. She told me they had just started trying and the whole saga came tumbling out.
Anyway turns out she is not sensitive at all. She recently visited me whilst my other half was away. She called before to say she suspected she was pregnant just to warn me. Anyway she spent the whole evening talking about babies and discussing what was going on with me. This included telling me about a magazine article she had read about a woman with secondary infertility who had been trying for 10 yrs for #2 only for it to not happen, break up her marriage and ruin relations with her only child!! Helpful not! She then told me to be honest with my other friends & just say "we've been trying for ages & it's not working", we'd been trying for 9 months at that point. When I said I was trying to stay positive because I have a lot to be grateful for, she said I shouldn't deny my true feelings!
But after a difficult night, the piece de resistance was when she announced in the morning that she had taken a pregnant test (in my home!) and it was positive!!!
I couldn't wait to get her out of the house. I was so upset that I threw up immediately after she left.
I now don't know what to do. She keeps texting with pregnancy updates & I am genuinely happy for her (if a bit envious) but I am so angry with her that I feel like its getting in the way of me conceiving. If I have it out with her though is it not going to look like its simply because I'm jealous. I don't want to stress her out but the extra stress she's piled on me is immense.
Any thoughts gratefully welcomed. Sorry this is so long!
I have told no one we're trying other than my mum because we didn't want the pressure. My husband has occasional ED which complicates matters. Anyway I recently confided in who I thought was my most sensitive of friends. I've known her since uni. She told me they had just started trying and the whole saga came tumbling out.
Anyway turns out she is not sensitive at all. She recently visited me whilst my other half was away. She called before to say she suspected she was pregnant just to warn me. Anyway she spent the whole evening talking about babies and discussing what was going on with me. This included telling me about a magazine article she had read about a woman with secondary infertility who had been trying for 10 yrs for #2 only for it to not happen, break up her marriage and ruin relations with her only child!! Helpful not! She then told me to be honest with my other friends & just say "we've been trying for ages & it's not working", we'd been trying for 9 months at that point. When I said I was trying to stay positive because I have a lot to be grateful for, she said I shouldn't deny my true feelings!
But after a difficult night, the piece de resistance was when she announced in the morning that she had taken a pregnant test (in my home!) and it was positive!!!
I couldn't wait to get her out of the house. I was so upset that I threw up immediately after she left.
I now don't know what to do. She keeps texting with pregnancy updates & I am genuinely happy for her (if a bit envious) but I am so angry with her that I feel like its getting in the way of me conceiving. If I have it out with her though is it not going to look like its simply because I'm jealous. I don't want to stress her out but the extra stress she's piled on me is immense.
Any thoughts gratefully welcomed. Sorry this is so long!