Cats Pregnancy Diary

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    Hello and welcome to my pregnancy diary. I’m kinda starting it half way through but I guess its becoming more interesting now, and plans are being made for the birth, and things are being bought in preparation, and I suppose the fact I will be giving birth in just over three months is finally dawning on me! So I thought some of you girls might find it interesting to read about my experiences and share some of your thoughts and feelings and of course, if you have any further questions about anything I’m experiencing feel free to pop a reply on. I will update this thread every Monday with the ‘events’ of the previous week. But I thought Id best start with a little biog to tell you a bit about myself and my pregnancy so far . . . .

    My name is Cat, I’m 24 and a Sales Manager for a Software company and live with my partner Mark who is 34 and a Senior Designer for a Graphic Design Agency, we live in Beccles in Suffolk.

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    We are expecting our first child on the 3rd of Oct. We have only been together for a year and a half but both decided the time was right to start a family. My periods have always been very regular, so I calculated when I would be ovulating and we proceeded to shag like rabbits, on our third attempt we got lucky. Things have progressed steadily with no real complications so far. I had a little sickness between 12 and 16 weeks, both scans and blood tests have shown everything to be normal and I’m gradually expanding to the size of a small village! We have decided to keep the sex of the baby a surprise, despite being desperate to know! The only minor complication I have is I had an operation a few years back to correct a spinal curvature and now have metal rods in my back, as a result I’m more prone to back pain, I have been told by the obstetrician that I don’t have to have a c-section though hurrah! Other than that I have no real on going illness or genetic disorders but have been told that I have carpel tunnel syndrome as a result of the pregnancy which is very common and just means my wrists are swollen and I wake in the morning with pins and needles or numbness in my hands. I think that’s about it about me really so on with the diary :D
     
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    Week 24
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    So much for me thinking I’m no longer feeling hormonal! I feel like I’m spending most of my time sitting with a demented grin on my face stroking my bump and thinking how wonderful everything is, how much I love Mark, how my life is great and how much I can’t wait to see my little baby. I however soon forget all that when I’m fidgeting on the sofa unable to get comfortable cause my coccyx hurt, as do my hips and lower ribs. In the end I just burst into tears at the sheer frustration at being permanently uncomfortable and thinking about the fact this will no doubt only get worse as I get bigger. It seems that some times I love being pregnant and other times I hate it! One minute I’m proud of my lovely bump and other times, like on Tuesday night when I baby-sit my Boss’s kids and his wife and their friends all comment on how gigantic I look already, funny enough on nights like that I feel crap!
    Also I thought I had been doing really well on the stretch mark front. I had been carefully looking to see of they were appearing, and to date I only had a couple on the side of each thigh, very small and not really noticeable, so I was happy with this, that is until Saturday morning, lying in bed, post coital with Mark when he suddenly points out the fact that I actually have about a dozen in the back of each thigh just under my bum! I jumped out of bed, ran into the bathroom and picked up the hand held mirror to investigate immediately. Sure enough there are loads of them! All about a centimetre long each and bright purple! I look like an ant had wandered up my trouser leg and bitten the hell out of me. Of course upon making this discovery I promptly burst into tears again. Mark doesn’t seem to understand this, and just saying ‘don’t worry, they will fade’ doesn’t make me feel any better! I was always very happy with my figure before, at 5’8 I was a slim size 10-12, and I had nice curves, a nice arse and C cup boobs. Now its all been obliterated and my main worry is not being able to get it back again and ending up with a crêpe belly at only 24! I hate this out of control feeling when it comes to my figure and all the weird new things going on with my body that I seem to discover on an almost daily basis. At least I found a way to cope with the heat wave, at the weekend. I decided to invest £3.99 in a paddling pool from Argos, I changed into a slightly ill fitting bikini which really is not suitable for wearing anywhere outside of my back garden (note to self: buy maternity swimsuit) and spent Saturday afternoon sitting in my little pool reading a book with my factor 25. Fantastic!! (if a little hard on the arse). Looking forward now to my last week at work next week, as I hate my job. I then have 23 weeks of accrued holiday to take then my maternity leave starts, needless to say I will not be going back! Unfortunately I started there only 2 months before I became pregnant and so I couldn’t really leave after as I would have found it hard to get another job and wouldn’t have been entitled to full Maternity pay. Still, now I’m just wondering what I’m going to do in my spare time so I don’t just live in front of the TV other than Marks suggestion of house work. If anyone has any ideas please let me know!
     
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    Hi Cat, its Alsha here day off today yipee! really pleased you have started your pregnancy diary its nice i have someone to compare myself to. I must say you are looking so much smaller than me so don't worry that you are looking huge coz your not. The heat was just to much yesterday good idea about a pool i may have to invest in one. You are sooooo lucky that you are finishing work next week i am not finishing until the first wk in September and i am due at the end! Oh well we will have to see how i feel, keep up the good work with the diary. from chunky butt as my hubby calls me lol :lol:
     
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    Week 25

    Well this week was my final week at work (hurrah) I was plesantly surprised that my all male office actually bothered to get me a leaving present (you know what men are like) and they got me a lovely card and Boots vouchers. Leaving couldn’t have come a moment to soon as my back is now playing me up on a daily basis, to the point where Tuesday evening and most of wednesday were spent lying in bed cause I could hardly walk. Oh yes the novelty of pregnancy is now very much wearing off. To top it off it apears in the last week my stretchmarks have increased, now it looks like the ‘ants’ that crawled up my trouser leg and bit the hell out of me have spread further up onto my bum.
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    My Bum! Mark’s favorate bit, now ruined, I never even thought of getting them on my bum. my whole lower body has expanded masively and is covered in cellulite and its making me really miserable. My sister in law gave birth three weeks ago and is already wearing hip fitting trousers and skimpy tops. Im now wondering whether to do aquanatal classes as people my point and stare at my freeky thighs! Even maternety swimwear cant hide that, perhaps I could wear a wet suit? I’m starting to wish I had waited till later in life to reproduce, I didn’t want to kiss goodbye to my young trim figure as early as 24. Banished to wearing frumpy mumsy clothes forever more.
    Still Im trying to take my mind off thinks and get into the excitment of having the baby more. I completed my winni the pooh cross stitch which I started at the begining of the pregnancy as a distraction from quiting smoking. Its now been framed and will be going in the nursary, which is next on the list to decorate.
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    Oh well at least I have a busy week ahead of me, I have my 26week appointment with my GP on Wednesday, so I will ask him about my back problems, and them Mark and I are staying with relatives in Yorkshire for the rest of the week for a little holiday. Do some baby shopping, visit the sculpture park and Marks going to have a go at climbing. (I think I had best skip that one and just watch this time).
    Ta for now!
     
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    Week 26
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    Morning all! Well its now a wet and miserable monday morning, but I have just had a really great week. Nothing of note for the first couple of days, then I had my 26wk GP appointment on Wednesday, did all the usuall checks and everything is fine, Blood work had come back, after having a second batch of blood taken to check, and I am A+, so no nasty injections for me! I do have Carple Tunnel Syndrome in my wrists though, and the doctor has warned me that some women find this becomes painfull so I will have to keep my eye on it. He did say they if that happens they can give me wrist splints, which it hopefully wont come to. He wasn’t of much help with my back though, he said the nerve pain was most likley due to the baby being on an akward position and I wouln’t be able to do anythig about it. However this last week baby must have shifted cause the pain seems to have gone. Anyway, after my Doc appointment I got on a bus to meet Mark from work in Norwich so we could go on our little break to Yorkshire. and have had a fabulous few days, getting home last night. Mark did some climbing, we all went for walks and bike rides, yes even me at 6 months pregnant! and I have never felt so good, it was really nice just getting some quality time together before the baby and brought us even closer together. I managed to get a bit of a shopping spree in though, and spent the vouchers I got from work on baby clothes, treated myself to some new make up and got some more bits for baby. Oh and if anyone is looking at getting any maternety swimwear, Mothercare have 50% off all theirs, so I got a two piece swim suit for £11 so I can start aquanatal classes this week. Still after several days of glorious weather and sunshine, we returned home last night briefly stopping off at my Mums for a visit on the way home, My brother was also visiting with family in toe including their 5week old daughter Savannah, who was a perfectly behaved little baby along with their other perfectly behaved 3 year old Kelly. My sister in law Ria was wearing a vest top and short skirt just 5 weeks after giving birth, and there I was like a beached whale wearing a tent. I cant help but think that I will have a screaming brat who will have Mark and I tearing our hair out, and me with a giant flabby belly, looking like the most rubbish parents in the world, compared to their model family. Its such an unknown that makes the whole thing so daunting. As excited as I am at having my baby I do wonder how I i’ll get on. I have tried reading everything I can lay my hands on to prepare myself but the fact is Mark and I have no experience of children and I worry sometimes, what if I cant cope, what if Im really under whelmed by the baby, what if Im just a rubbish mum. I dont want to be competative with my brother and sister and their family, but at the same time I dont want people talking about my mothering skill or lack of, behind my back. as it is, so many people seem to want to impart their advice and critizise our plans, especially parents who always think they know best, not understanding that things have changed since they had children. After all Im ‘not a grown woman’ how would I know how to raise a child when Im still a child to my mum? I do feel like shutting teh world out for a few weeks once the baby is born, so Mark and I can adjust and learn without the ever prying eyes of other people watching us for mistakes. Then emerge a few weeks later all confident with this amazing well behaved child, Im all organised and looking great so that no-one can believe that I have given birth as I have such an amazing washboard stomach! and we too are a picture perfect family. although the reality will be me showing up for family engagments with hair that needs washing, bags under my eyes from lack of sleep and some vomit on my shoulder . . . roll on motherhood![/b]
     
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    Week 27
    Well what a week! Its not gone exactly to plan! Many of you on this forum will know the story of what happened to me this week but here we go . . .
    To start with Tuesday was my appointment with my physio, we had a chat about my back and wrists and she sent me away with a support belt to wear and wrist splints to wear at night to help support my swollen wrists. (as if it wasnt hard enough to sleep at night I now have metal splints holding my wrists out straight). Any I really do now feel like Im falling apart and having to be help into place with lots of velcro.
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    Wedsday clicks round and Im here of course on the forum chatroom talking to the midwife and moaning about a pain in my right calf, presumed pulled muscle flom getting blasted cramp in my legs. Its pointed out to me that this could in fact be DVT and I ought to check with my GP. Cue lots of worry from hormonal me! Luckily that afternoon I have an appointment with the hospital anethatist to discuss pain relief options because of complications involving my old spine opperations. She goes in to detail about how they all work and gives me an examination. The good news is that my scar ends just before where they normally site an epidural. SO she says that should I want one they will give me one but to be warned that it may not work 100% as scar tissue around my spine may have obliterated the void where the drugs travel. Oh well at least they will do one if I really find the labour hard going. Also should labour go on for to long and an epi wont work they are prepared to do a cesarian, an option I dont want to take but at least the option is there. So on to the leg, the anethatist kindly offers to have a look at my sore leg, she said it didnt look good and if I was prepared to wait she would get an obstiatrition to see me. Okay I thought now getting even more worried. I sit in the waiting room trying not to think of possible blood clots killing me and phone OH to update him on the situation. Finally Im rushed through to the obstiatrition who feeld my legs and pluses in my feet and says yes its DVT and he is going to refer me to the specialist for imediate tratment with anti-coagulent drugs, my eyes are glazing over and my head is still spinning, not really knowing what to say other than will the drugs hurt my baby? to which the answer is no. Lots of forms are filled out and phone calls made and Im sent off to another part of the hospital for another hours wait. I wander round the hospital trying not to ball my eyes out feeling very lost and confused on my own. I find the department and wait. When a nurse finally aproches me and calls me into her office. She is very friendly and reassuring telling me that by no means is it confirmed DVT and they need to do an ultrasound on my leg to find out if it is. unfortunaly I have to wait untill Friday to have this so in the mean time I have to have daily anti-coagulaton drugs to be on the safe side, she shows me how to inject myself (Which Bloody Hurts!) and sends me away with a needle to do it myself the following day. So I drive back home, stopping of to buy myself a load of chocolate bars to comfort myself, OH gets home from work and speds the evening comforting me while I cry a lot. Family are contacted and filled in on the days events and I arrange for my mum to come with me for the scan on Friday.
    On the Thursday I skip the aqua-natal class not really feling in the mood and do a load of research on the internet about DVT to get me better prepared. If it is DVT I will have to have the injections every day till 6 weeks after the baby is born and throughout any subsequent pregnancies, also I wont be able to back on the pill. Mark does my injection for me in the evening as I cant stand the idea of sticking it in myself. Im impressed at him for doing such a good job as he is terrified of needles. but is still hurts loads.
    Friday clcks round and Im clock watching till my mum comes over and we go to the hospital. I go first for blood tests and then go to the waiting room awaiting my scan. A middle aged jolly nurse calls though and leads me into a darkened room with the ultrasound screen glowing in the corner. Mum sits next to the bed as I slip my trosers off and get on. The nurse sticks the freezing cold gel all down my leg and gets to work proding me with her probe and looking at all sorts of flashing lights in the screen in front of her. she is chatty and friendly which helps, says she hates it when they do find a clot as it makes her cry (Well its not that great for me either love!) I can hardly belive it when she finishes and says its all fine! Panic over, there is no clot, no more injections! hurrah. My mum gives me a hug and I can see her eyes are glazed over on the verge of tears. She tells me on the way back to the car that she to had looked up information about DVT on the internet, and she haddent wanted to tell me earlier but its apparently the biggist cause of death in pregnant women! Boh of us were shcked as well at how little information there is about it in pregnancy books and magazines. I mean we all know the signs for pre-ecampsia but would you know the signs of a DVT?

    Still panic over and I can go back to enjoying my pregnancy. Till next week . . .
     
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    Week 28

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    Well its not been a great week, what can I say! I think hot weather and pregnancy hormones do NOT go together! Mark and I spent a lot of this week rowing. Well not so much rowing as me taking everything the wrong way, getting upset over everything and nothing, and Mark feeling like he has been a complete arsehole and he cant seem to do a thing right! still the week has ended and we had a nice night out at a friends BBQ last night after having a big hug and a good chat. I dont know if its because everything is looming ever closer and Im feeling a little under prepared.
    I had an appointment with my obstiatrition on tuesday, a plesant man who did look a lot like Jimmy Carr. had a little chat asked how things were going, listened to babies heart, the usual. Decided to discuss birth options, told him my egarness to use the birthing pool only to discover its still in the process of being installed and that ‘hopefully’ it will be really in time for my baby! if not they have a lagoon bath wich I can use for the labour but its not an actuall birthing suite! So now Im somewhat concerned that all my plans are going to go horribly wrong. As I’m no way having pethadine and an epidural will have a limited success rate on me, so looks like its just gas and air! - Suddenly everything is looking a lot more shaky.
    We went out and bought the stuff for decorating the nursery and I ordered the furniture and decorating comenced at the weekend, anti natal classes start soon and Im aware that I will actually be having to push a baby out in the not to distant future. Being at home on my own now I have finished work has made me feel rather dependant on Mark and Im worried that he is not prepared for things, hence me having a go at him, I dont really feel like we have talked about the whole birth thing and Im worried the day will come and he will be panicking like hell and not have a clue whats going on and be completly useless to me, I will be screaming my head of and trying to explain to him at the same time what is going on! I feel like Im the one who has been making all the preperations for this baby and I feel very lonely. Mark apologised for everything, including being born and I did a lot of crying! still at least I got everything out of my system and we can move on. Just hoping this heat will lay off a bit (the one year I really didnt want a hot summer!) I can cope with the day times I just out my feet up and dont over do it, but the night times are awfull, its just muggy and sweaty, no cudling at night cause were both to hot and we just lie there in unbearable heat, plus manovering from one side to the other in the night has become a major feat that required the use of every single limb to roll and re position myself while Mark desperatly clings on to his postage stamp size side of the bed trying not to get pushed off.
    I havent yet had the courage to weigh myself this morning, worried that that big tub of Ben & jerrys has caught up with me! Plus Im vaguly aware that I have an extra large crunchie dairy milk in the fridge down stairs . . . . mmmmm
    Well nursery furniture arrived this morning so I have a week of flat pack assembly ahead of me, so I will have completed nursery pics on my diary next week for you all to have a look at. Have a good week ladies and bumps.
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    Week 29

    Well as planned most of this week was spent assembling flat pack furniture for the nursery and finally putting everything together. And here are the fruits of my labour . . .
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    As we dont know the sex of the baby we have gone for decorating with a soft yellow and classic whinni the pooh style. I love the room and keep wandering in and looking around, everything seems a lot more real now and we are entering the final 10 week count down!

    So that has been most of my week, as well as attending my first aquanatal class on Thursday, which I really enjoyed, I was surprised at the number of women there and it was nice to get a proper workout! I don’t know if anyoe here has been trying pregnancy exercise but for the most part I have found it rather tame and like it hasent actually been doing very much for me, as the risk of pulling ligaments and doing damage is high. However doing aquanatal the body is supported and cushioned by the water so you can do a lot more, a lot of the exercise is what you could expect from a normal aqua-aerobics class, so by the end of the session I felt I had had a really good workout!

    The other exciting thing of note this week was that I changed my surname, although Mark and I do not plan to get married, we both decided that we would like to have a family name, as my surname was still that of my former marriage. As also when the baby is born its little wrist band has the mothers name on and I didnt want it to have my former husbands surname written on as I would like to keep the wrist band as a momento. So on Friday the Deed Poll forms arrived and I signed them and had them wittnessed and Im now officially a Scott! We celebrated by going out to dinner and went to the cinema. Dont think bub appreciated all of the sudden loud noises though and kept kicking me to let me know!
    So this coming week anyway I have the wonderfull task of contacting anyone and everyone to have my name changed ready for the arrival of baby Scott!
     
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    Week 30

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    This week started with me meeting another user ‘Alsha’ from this site. We met up in Norwich for the afternoon and sat back over lunch and drinks discussing our pregnancy experiences. Alsha is due a couple of days before me, so it was good to chat to someone who was going through the same stage as me. Plus it was nice to get out of the ouse and see another human being, as since I started maternety leave Mark and my family tend to be the only people I see. So Im rather hoping that once the baby is here I will be able to join mother and toddler groups and the like and meet other mums in my area!
    I decied to take on the task of striping wall paper from the cloakroom toilet this week, in an attempt to finish decorating the house before the baby arrives. I think however that I have misjudged how capable I now am! I keep thinking I can do things like this, and go to shows and festivals for the day like I tried to the previous weekend, just to find that my body lets me down and my legs and back ache etc. Must learn to relax more, its just it does get very boring sitting on my arse all day! Also I have found now that if im on my feet, I actually need to go to the loo about every half hour!
    On Wensday I had my Midwife appointment, and had a listen to the bubs heart rate, I asked about how acurate the tale is about heart rate relating to sex was, and she knew the theory but didnt like to say how acurate it was. still the heart rate was a speedy 158bpm so on that theory were having a girl. Which is strange as throughout the pregnancy Mark and I had both for some reason been convinced it was a boy, so we will have to see who is right, mothers intuition or foetal heart rate. Other than that the midwife took another couple of bottles of my blood (thats a total of 14 bottles so far . . ) and felt my bump. The baby is now aparently head down and she showed me where the rest of the limbs etc were, amazing how they can do that just by proding my tummy a bit.
    As my anti-natal classes start next tuesday we decided that the time was right to take a tour of the delivery suite at the hospital. So on Saturday Mark and I went to the James Paget Hospital for the tour. I was surprised at the number of couples there, all of them wandered round the tour without uttering a word or asking a single quesion, most of the partners looked more bewildered than anything else. I felt quite akward when at every given opportunity I was asking the midwife questions, still thats what these things are for as far as Im concerned and I would rather know everything than panic on the day, not knowing what to do. Anyway the place was really nice we saw the birthing pool and wandered into the low and high risk delivery rooms. As Im consultant led care, as opposed to midwife led care I have to initially go into one of the high risk rooms and lay on a bed for about 20 minutes, just while they do some tests and monitor my contractions and the babies heart rate, after that I can opt to use the birthing pool or one of the ‘active’ rooms where there are giant bean bag things and birthing balls etc. Each of the rooms is en-suite with its own bath, so even if someone is in the birthing pool, I can still labour in warm water should I choose. All rooms also have a CD player in them and the midwife suggested bringing in CD’s to help relax me, seing as I listen to heavy metal, I dont really know that that will work to well! Hospital stay for a strightforward delivery is a mere 6 hours before I can go home, which is quite nerve racking as its my first baby and I dont have a clue how to do anything! luckily the midwife said that can be extended to longer if I dont feel ready to go home and if Im having difficulty breast feeding they have a councelor there to help.
    I am now feeling that we really ought to get the rest of the things ready in preperation for the baby, I havent bought anything like baby care essentials, or things for me for that matter, I have no nighties to wear for the labour, no breast pads or maternety pads etc. So Mark and I compiled a final list of items we need in preperation. Mark thinks all this is a bit to previous as we still have two months to go, but I really dont think I will be to capable of wandering round the shops in search of it all for much longer, and I dont really see me sending him off with a shopping list for maternety pads and disposable knickers!
    So this coming week, I have to order our buggy/travel system for collection and do a bit of catalogue ordering, along with attending our first anti-natal class on ‘delivery, stages of and positions and preperations’ and them the weekends massive baby shop, oh and more wall paper stripping!
     
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    Week 31

    Well this week saw the start of my anti-natal classes, being held at the local doctors surgery. there was a huge turn out for such a small village with nearly 30 couples. showing up, so we had to split the group into two and a second midwife was called to take the other half. The class was great though, the topic for the evening was the labour itself, and dispite my huge wealth of reading on the topic I still learnt some new things. I found the class particularly usefull for Mark, as dispite him also doing a lot of reading, I dont think most men really know wats going to happen, other than you are going to push out a baby and its probably going to hurt a bit! The class was really aimed at the birthing partner, explaining all the stages of labour and the important role they play in getting you through it all as your birthing partner, as lets be honest no matter how prepared us girls are on the day we will probably find everything we learnt goes straight out the window as we just scream our heads off just trying to get the whole thing over with! Our partners on the other hand can help guide us through each stage, reassure us and massage us etc. I think Mark became a little scared when the midwife explained about the ‘transition’ phase of the labour when women adopt ‘flight or fight’ and do one of two things, either they cray, say they are going to die and they want their mummy or two, they punch their birthing partner unconscious. ‘Oh yes Ive seen it all, from women hitting, ripping out the front forelock of hair of their partner and one woman who gave her partner a chinese burn with finger nails, cutting all his wrist open!’ to which Mark went a little pale and was wondering if perhaps he wasnt the best person to be my birthing partner afterall!
    still I think Mark will be good at his role, as like a lot of blokes he isnt always so good a the emotional side of things, but is very good at the practical side, and will be fine in telling me what to do and when, and keeping me focused.
    I feel aswell after the class that I’ve changed my mind on some of the plans I had for my birth, and have decided against the birthing pool, as the problem with the pool is, is its in a room on its own so, if i want to get out to change position (recomended to move to another position every couple of hours) I will have to get dresses and go into another room all the time, plus as Im consultant led care I will have to have regular monitoring of my contractions and the babys heart rate. Where as the ‘active birth’ rooms have en-suites with a bath in, and birth balls, and giant bean bags and chairs etc, so I can move aroubd lots in the privacy of my own room. So it just goes to show, don’t get your heart set on one specific plan of action, as sometimes the more you learn the more your plans can change.
    As for the rest of the week, I have been taking it pretty easy, as I have a tendancy now to wake up at 4/5 in the morning to go to the loo and then thats it Im wide awake and unable to get back to sleep for the rest of the night, so Im getting by on very little sleep at the moment, probably my bodies way of getting me prepared for the sleepless nights ahead once its born!
    Still Saturday was good as it was our expedition into Norwich to buy the last of the baby stuff, and belive me expedition is the right word when were talking a hot days trudging round the citys cobbled streets during school summer holidays with bags of shopping when your 7 months pregnant. A word of advice, do not leave it to late to do this sort of thing as its a lot easier before your bump gets to big to walk down asles without knocking everyone else sideways!
    At least now I feel a bit more relaxed as we have all the baby essentials to get us through the first few days of baby. everything from bedding, to nappies and disposable knickers (nice!).
     
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    Week 32
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    Anti-natal again this week, this time discussing pain relief for labour. Discussed the usual drug options etc and how they work along with how to help ourselves before we get to te hospital, in the early stages of labour. The general recomendation here seems to be to get as much rest as possible, as you will want to conserve energy for when it really gets hard going! Recomendations inculde trying to have a little something to eat, and have plently to drink including sports drinks which can be drunk throughout labour to keep energy levels up. have a warm bath or shower but not hot, as this can actually stop or slow down contractions. use a birth ball to rock your hips and get the baby in a favorable position, try and get some sleep if possible, or put a heat pack or hot water bottle on your lower back or abdomen to help with pain relief. The midwife also showed us breathing techniques to help with the contractions and we were all given information sheets with lovely pictures of different labour positions to try, including swinging on a door handle! What was particularly interesting was a talk we had from a local accupuncture practitioner. Accupuncture can be used successfully to help an all manor of pregnancy problems, including carpel tunnel syndrome and morning sickness but can also be used to unduce labour. aparently 70% of women that use this technique go into labour with 2 days of a single treatment. Now I have never fancied the idea of needles being stuck into me, but this is sounding pretty good If I get to 40 weeks and no sign of baby! the midwives were very supportive of this technique as its a lot less invasive than having a hospital induction. They went so far as to say that even those women who it didnt work for, it still made a significant difference and made the cervix a lot softer and the hospital induction a lot quicker and easier. I have already decied that at 38 weeks I will be trying all the other ‘home’ methods, like sex, curries, long walks, rasberry leaf tea etc, but now if I hit 40 weeks without any sign, I will be giving this man a call!
    Other than that this week has been pretty quiet, my hormones have been going a bit mad and I have found myself getting tearfull a lot and had a few arguements with Mark, but hopefully we have now resolved them, and I will try not to take everything he says the wrong way! I dont think my lack of sleep has helped, it would seem I have been suffering from insomnia for the last few weeks, but Im now making up for it by trying to get a couple of hours kip in the afternoons. Im now definatly at the point where my body is failing me but im still in denial. I still think Im capable of decorating, and going shopping for the day or a major blitz on housework, but the reality is, almost as soon as I start something I fel achy and out of breath, so I must learn to take things a little easier! still determided not to give into day time TV Im reading loads and of course spending a lot of time on this site.
    Stretch marks are now popping up on my stomach on a daily basis, so far mainly just under my belly button. surprisingly even though these were the ones I dreading getting the most, I havent cried my eyes out about them. Even though they are bright purple, they dont appear to be very deep, so once they fade (on my alrady very pale skin) I dont really think they will be visible, but hey Im sure they will get worse before the end, I think that somehow Im accepting these changes more.
    something else I have been looking into this week, is the option of working part time from home, once my maternety leave ends. I really want to work and have my own money, but because Mark dosent get home from work till about 7 during the week, Im very limited on what hours Im avaliable to work, plus I only live in a small village so work oportunities are even smaller. I wonder what the chances were of finding a job working from home, copy writing or data entry or something but unfortunalt everywhere I look, its only setting up your own business, and selling proucts to your local area or organising parties, not really what Im looking for! If anyone has any ideas of knows of something I could do I would love to hear from you so perhaps PM me?
     
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    Week 33

    The week kicked off again with our anti-natal class. This time covering post birth baby care. we were given a couple of sheets to fill out, the first had a list of daily activities like cooking, cleanig, watching TV etc and we had to put what was and wasnt a priority to us now, and what we thought would and wouldnt be a priorty to us with a three week old baby. needless to say the list of things that were a priority became greatly reduced post baby. When about the only things that were important were getting some form of food inside us and enough sleep to function in the vaguest sense. Th second sheet was a 24 hour clock, again firstly we had to reak it down into what we did and when in a typical day and again what we think it will be once the baby is born, which looked for us much like a spoked bike wheel, of catcing up with lost sleep, broken up ever few hours with feeding, oh and if were were lucky we might get a chance to eat and wash ourselves.
    The whole point of the exercise being really to show us just how much our lives will be taken over by the arrival of the little one. Im making sure that I dont put too many demands on myslef once this baby is born, apparently the biggest cause of post natal depression is women not living up to their own expectations and feeling like a bad mum cause they struggle more than they expected. If your a cleanliness freak who has a lot of commitments and likes to keep busy, its going to hit you harder if you really think you can keep any sort of shedule with a new born baby. It seems that previous personal history of depression is irrelevent. So I know Im just going to slob my way through it all. I will no doubt live in my nighty and spend most of my time kipping on the sofa, with a large selection of easy cook dinners! If OH expects to come home to a clean house with dinner on the table in the evenings I will train the baby to projectile vomit over him!
    Also at our class we had a couple with a month old daughter come in to answer our questions. They were both beaming with pride over their little girl and preceeded to regail us with stories about her birth and how they had been getting on with caring for her. No major horror stories, they just seemed so happy and were loving every minute of it. well Id like to see them say the same after a few sleepless nights, but I think we caught them on a good day.

    Wednesday was my GP 34 week appointment, I was hoping to be told something fantastic like the head was engaging or something but its a bit to early, so it was just a blood pressure check and measurring the fudus height etc which was all spot on, nice to know Im not expecting any sort of giant baby! I asked about my recent hormonal out bursts as they have been getting a bit extreme recently. He asked how much sugar (of the chocolate veriety) and caffine I had in my diet, of which there is next to none and asked how I was sleeping (ah that will be the culprit then) said they are the most common causes but at teh end of the day if those are all good there isnt a lot else that can be done, other than letting OH run away somewhere when nessasary! So now when I feel like Im getting all cross and weepy like I want to bite Marks head off I just go to bed and have a little nap. Seems to be helping so far.

    Other than that I have been having a pretty poor week of dealing with car troubles and decorating (finally finished yeah) oh and my word of advice, I dont recomend laying carpet at 34 weeks!
     
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    This week was my final anti-natal class, the subject for discussion this week was breast feeding. We watched a rather cheesy Norwegian video and then had a talk from our midwife with questions and answers. It certainly seems that there is more to this breast feeding lark that meats the eye, as so many women seem to have difficulty with it and give up. Two of the women on the class are already mothers and have come to the class cause now they are expecing there second children they want to get it right this time after failing first time round. At least knowing that it can be so difficult puts my mind at ease so if it dosent work out for me I know this is normal and I must persevere. something I didnt think about was that during breast feeding its perfectly common to deelop stretch marks on your breasts! Damn, so much for thinking no more once the babys born, I will probably end up developing a whole new set from feeding! But on the good side, the Midwife enquired if we had put on fat/cellulite on our hips and thighs during pregnancy, hell this is the one place I put on weight really early on. apparenyl our bodys put on extra fat stores here in preperation for breast feeding and it disapears quickly once we start feeding! Hurrah! Its a diffucult decision this breast feeding and I can really understand why many women chouse to bottle feed. As much as it may be good for the baby giving it anti bodies and all round better health and mental development and it helps us mums get into shape quicker, and protect us against things like osteoperosis and some cancers, and sure it saves making up bottle feeds in the night. At the same time, its very demanding and something only the mum can do so no help from dads if were tired. Im not relishing the idea of wacking out my bosoms in public either, I dont care how normal and natural it may be, Im just not very comfortable with it. Plus I so want my body back to myself, not having to be draged around everywere as the milk machine. I’m hoping that expressing milk works out for me as that way at least if I want to I can get out of the house for a bit and leave Mark in charge. My origional plan was to try to breast feed for 6 months, but the midwife said that although the breast feeding association people say feed for one year !!! (no way) if you can at least hang on for 15 weeks it makes all the difference to your little one. So if I dont get on with it and I want to stop I will try to hang on in there at least for those first 15 weeks.
    On the whole the pregnancy is still going fine and Im not suffering to badly. Im sure nearer the time I will just be sreaming for some one to get the bloody thing out but I cant help but think that In ways I will miss my bump. Its low maintenance at the moment and its nice to feel it moving around inside me all to myself. No feeding, no nappy changing, just fondy stroking my time and Mark with his hands on my tum in the morning having a little family cuddle![/b]
     
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    Not much on this week, seems to be the first week in ages that I didnt have some sort of class or midwife/hospital appointment. Just been left to relax about the house, and just as well as the weather has been unbarably hot! I spend most of the time sitting inthe house in just my knickers, with a wet flannel drapped over myself. I dont dare go outside for fear of just passing out, and Im muching myway through at least 2 ice lollies a day. Mark and I were discussing the other day how we have reached that stage in the pregnancy where its like ‘enough already’. now the nursery is done and we have everything ready, we have gone to all the classes, had all the scans, flet the babys movements and hiccups etc, we are all just geared up for the birth now. I think Mark is bricking it about the whole birth thing more than I am! I asked him what was the scariest bit for him was, the pregnancy, the birth, or looking after the newborn and for him its definatly the birth bit, hes worried about seeing me in lots of pain, and just of everything going okay and no problems developing for me and baby. When I ask the same question to myself I find the pregnancy thing hasnt really worried me, as (touch wood) I have had a pretty straightfrward pregnancy, and I have never suffered fom a previous misscarrage or anything to make the whole experience more of a worry. again the birth dosent worry me either as Im well read up on it and trying to remain as relaxed as possible about the whole thing, I understand a lot of the posible compications that can arise and all about emergency c-sections, so I feel prepared for most eventualities and that many ‘problems’ that can occure in labour are perfectly common and I will be in the hands of professionals. The biggest worry for me is actually the whole looking after the newborn. The idea of caring fo this tiny little being. With no experience of children its a bit daunting the idea of coming home with this little bundle, setting it down and thinking ‘what now!’ Will I know when its nappy needs changing, will I be able to get on with breast feeding, what if I cant get it to stop crying, how will we cope with sleep deprevation, what if something goes wrong, how will I deel with bosybody family members telling me what to do?!?!?!?! Imconsoling myself with the fact that for a first time mum these questions probably go through everyones mind. I will just be sure not to put to much expectation on myself and will just muddle through till I get the hang of things. Just hoping everything will come naturally like everyone says they will!

    Still its the final month count down now, and Im ready armed with my rasperry leaf tablets!
     
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    Hi Cat

    I know I'm not technically supposed to write in this bit, but what you said reminded me of something I read the other day.

    Apparently the biggest cause of the blues amongst new mums is expecting too much from yourself and then getting disappointed.

    The biggest advise they give is to take each day as it comes, not thinking too far ahead and to not load big expectations on yourself.

    Examples they give of this are to not expect that you will be super-funky-mum straight away. There will be days when you do remain unwashed and undressed and the washing will build up, there will be the odd really bad day etc.... and the more you are able to just let the small stuff like dust and greasy hair blow over your head, the more happy you will be.

    Reading this has certainly helped me feel a lot more informed and realistic about the whole newborn thing.

    I love reading your diary it is fab! :D
     
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    Hi Sarah,
    Thanks for your feedback, glad you like the diary. I was told much the same thing about this being a common cause of PND. Lukily Im not a madly house proud person so I have no problems with lounging about in my nighty and just talking things as they come. As for baby care, although I feel I don't have a clue, its going to be fun learning and just taking things as they come, knowing that if I do really get stuck trying to do something or the baby just wont stop crying, there is hlp avaliable. And Im not to proud to ask!
     
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    Well more plodding/waddling along this week. I have started smearing Bio-oil on my tum this week, in a vain attempt to combat my stretch marks, and I have also started on the raspberry leaf tablets, definatly glad I opted for tablets as they smeel bad enough on there own in a capsule, let alone having to drink it as a tea eugh!
    On Thursday I had my 26week check up with the obstiatrition. The good news is that thay think that there is no reason why I cant have a straightforward delivery, and in that respect my back shouldnt become a problem. What is a problem is if I have to be induced. Unduction can involve up to 3 stages. Firstly they will will insert prostagladins in the form of a pessery or gel, this will be done every six to eight hours to try to ripen the cervix and get contractions to start and can take up to two to three days to get labour to start. If that dosent work, then the next stage is to rupture the membranes, hoping this will get things going, then finally the third stage is to have a ‘Syntocinon drip’ which is where the problems ocure, the drip is designed to cause your uterus to contract, but inlike normal contractions where you get a few minutes breather in between, the drip causes you to have more like one continuous contraction, making labour a lot more painfull, there for women in the drip are far more likely to have an epidural, which is where I hit problems in that an epidural will have a very limited success rate on me. If it comes to thins I will really need to seriously consider having an elective c-section. If I knew that the drip stage whould be over quickly then it wouldnt be so bad, but it could last ages of extreme pain. but a c-section whould be over a lot quicker but then I have recouperation time after major abominal surgery to deal with. So fingers crossed this little one will make an appearance on its own! I know I will certainly be trying to do what ever I can to ge it out!
    Well after my hospital appintment, I had a visit from my health visitor, just t introduce herself and tell me about what she does and see if I have any problems or questions. She gave me some leaflets and another NHS book, like I got in my pregnancy pack at the start called Birth to Five. giving all sorts of advice of how to care for new born and myself, going right through childhood development and how to perform first aid. with lots of information on support groups and advice phone lines should I get really stuck. In my area that also run a post-natal group that runs for 6 weeks, where you get the chance to meet other new mums, and hopefully make some new friends, exchange phone numbers etc, which Im looking forward to. at six weeks you also do a questionaire which is scored between 0-30 where they test you for signs of post natal illness, which I think is a great idea, as I would imagine a lot of sufferers would not nessasarily think there was a problem and seek help on their own.
    Other than that I have been trying to just keep myself busy this week,to the point of sorting out christmas presents for family. I have decided in a bid to keep the costs down, I will make hampers for people, with all sorts of home made food stuff, x-mas cake, sweets, jams etc and I have found a site that sell the supplies to make bath bombs and home made soaps etc, so I have ordered the stuff so I can start getting busy, so it will also give me something fun to do during the day, while Im waiting for the baby to arrive. I called my mum asking her if she had any jam jars, and so as not to arouse suspicion to my plans, told her I had loads of blackberry growing in the barden, and just wanted to make use of them. However she has taken this to be a sign that the baby is now iminent, as when she was pregnant with my older brother, she went into mad baking mode like some sort of food stock piling nesting instinct, so she is now determined that the baby wil arrive within the next couple of weeks! Also she is convinced Im having a boy, to the point where she nearly bought a ‘blue’ outfit for the baby, as she saw 4 magpies the other day and remembered the old rhyme. Oh Dear! It seems all the family are getting eager now, as we also got a random phone call from Mark’s dad’s Partner asking if everything was okay, as we only have 3 weeks to go and she just wanted to check all was well!!! nice that she needed to remind us of the due date, as if we might have forgotten!
     
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    Week 37
    Well technically as of this week the baby can be born without the need for any medical intervention as its full term. A bit scarey to think it could be any time from now on. Also very fraustrating as although I could go into labour at any point, it also might not be for another month! we feel kind of in limbo at the moment, and even though we are at this final stage somehow it still doesn’t feel real. I am not nervous about the birth, but I think its cause I’m not really thinking about it to be scared. Im prepared as I can be, having read up on just about verything birth related and all the things that cn go wrong etc, but Im not really focusing on it or working myself up about it. For me its sort of ‘when it happens it happens’. I think my biggest worry is not making it to the hospital in time. As I will not be opting for any pain relief other than gas and air, Im following the midwifes advice and Im going to try and stay at home for as long as possible. Its a more relaxing environment at home hence home births generally being less painfull and quicker. At home I can have more distractions to take my mind off things, lie in my own bed, take a bath, watch some TV, potter about doing things etc, where as at the hospital your stuck in a clinical room, and well basically clock watching, a lot more difficult to take my mind off contractions when there is nothing else to do, especially if its a long labour. But on the other hand the drive to the hospital is about 1/2 hour. So Im slightly worried in case I stay at home so long that when I finally decide, ‘lets go’ its to late and I need to push, or worse still, I have the baby in the car and ruin Marks upholstery!
    Its hard to know when its your first time wha the signs are as to when you should be doing what, and at what stage your really at. After all some women find it painfull and go in to hospital straight away when they are only 1cm dialated, just to be sent home again, and others never make it to the hospital and end up being instructed by NHS direct over the phone!

    In other preperations this week, we also got the hospital bag stuff together. Its unbelievable the amount of stuff you need to take! I like to travel light and I have visions of them seeing me come in with a suitcase thinking ‘bloody hell, is she staying the week!’
    Its hard to full pack the bag as well, as Im still using a lot of the stuff, like toiletries and nighties etc. So what we have done is, I have printed off a list of everything that is to go in the bag, and briefed Mark as to what is what and where he can find it. I have then put as much of the stuff as I can in the cot and left the printed list on top. So on the day Mark can use it as a check list and grap any missing bits and stick it all in the case.
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    I must admit I have packed some biscuits in case I get the munchies on the Maternety ward when breast feeding in the night, but I wonder if they will last that long without me opening them before hand!

    Last night I also discovered that it looks like I have been having Braxton Hicks contractions after all! Mark and I went to my mums for diner along with my brother and sister in law, who commeted when my stomach went really hard and it went sort of flat at the front. now I often have this happen and thought nothing of it, as I didn’t feel any pain from it. My sister in law Ria, then pointed out thats exactly wht her braxton hicks were like! So after that I noticed it happened a few more times and Mark timed them, and sure enough a had a little succession of them eaach one 12 mins apart! So hurrah it seems like my body is finally starting to do stuf and I just didn’t realise!

    I have also decided to try to help things along further now by taking evening primrose oil capsules each day as apparently they contain Prostaglandins which ripen the cervix. You can actually take the capsules as a pessery before going to bed, but Im not sure on that one and may just stick to taking them orally. still this wednesday I have a home visit from my Midwife so fingers crosse she will give me some good news and tell me the babies head is engaged, or my cervix is dialating or something, and I wont have much longer to go!
     
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    Well bub is due a week today! although I wonder if it will make an apperance that soon. I had my midwife appintment on Thursday and she had a good feel around of my tum. The good news is that the head is 2/5th engaged (1/5th is fully engaged) which made me feel all positive that baby was at least thinking of making an entranceuntill the midwife said that she didn’t think the baby would make an apperance within the next 2 weeks!!! Nooooooo, why why why? A question she couldn’t really answer, Just saying that my tum wasn’t responding to touch in the same way that someone about to ‘pop’ would. ‘But then again’ she said ‘I could be completly wrong and you could have it tomorrow!’ well lets just hope you are wrong! I was also slightly concerned after her feel about when she said it was quite a small baby, although this is every womans dream to have a nice petite baby to puch out, considering the babies measurements have been spot on untill now, Im worried incase the little bean has stopped growing. Still they have booked me for another appointment next wednesday so I will ask about it then, and see if its worth having a growth scan to check all is okay!
    I also explained my worries about being induced, it seems that there policy is one of ‘tough, were not letting you go on longer!’ but she was up for the option of having regular sweeps to try to aviod it getting to that. we also discussed the idea of reflexology or acupuncture to try to get things moving she she thinks is a good idea but not worth trying before 40weeks as it would be a waste of money as the body isn’t ready anyway. So I have made some preliminary enquiries into the cost of these treatments and its between £20 - £30 for an hour treatment. I must admit the reflexology appeals the most as at least if it dosent work I will still have had a nice foot massage, where as I dont really want to pay out £30 for some bloke to stick needles in me for nothing!
    Still I have been finding this week I have had spells of cramping and lower back pain which I know can be signs of early labour, Saturdays food shop was particularly unplesent as walking around really did make me feel rough, I know its a good idea to stay mobile to help get things going but walking around is such hard work now and makes me hurt a lot. So Imjust trying to use my birth ball instead which is a little god send. Its so exciting yet fraustrating now as every time I feel pains or anything I start wondering ‘is this it’ You never know when I go to write my diary update next monday thats my due date! will I be writing about another week of fatty hell or will I be posting baby pics?!?!
     
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    ARGHHH DUE TODAY, so fraustrating, have donw nothing all week, had midwife appointment on Wednesday and was told nothing new. Still have had no internal so dont know if anything is even starting to happen so Im just waiting. Strangely im not so fraustated at being pregnant cause I want the baby now but its more the inconvenience of it. I cant seem to make any plans for even like a day in advance just in case. Im trying to sell my car and some other bits an pieces now, but its akward to advertise stuff when I dont know if Im going to be about to get calls or arrange for people to come over and look at things. I feel like everythng is on hold just waiting.

    Have been having lots of family members call over the last few days too asking if there is any news, like 'oh yeah Ive had the baby, we just havent told anyone!' And I feel bad phoning anyone cause as soon as anyone picks up the phone to me they are expecting a big announcement! Felt guilty calling my brother yesterday to ask if he could get me some cardboard boxes from work, I think he was expecting a far more exciting phone call!

    Still, tomorrow I will be booking for my midwife to come over and give me a sweep, so atleast I will know if things are progressing and it might kick things off (fingers crossed) if not I will see about booking in for some reflexology at the end of the week.

    Fingers crossed for me girls!!!![/b]
     

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