Can anyone give me some hope!? 3 early losses back to back

[emma241179]

Hi everyone,

I'm going through what is likely to be my third early loss (between 5-6 weeks) in a matter of 5 months. Each loss follows the same pattern.. BFP around 10dpo and up until the time AF is due (yes I'm one of those that keeps testing to make sure), then the cramping starts, BFPs gradually fade and I get my 'period' around a week late. Right now I'm at the cramping/fading BFP stage with my 3rd successive pregnancy and although it's early (I can't imagine what it must be like to lose a baby later on in pregnancy ) I feel crushed.. I feel incredibly blessed to have a beautiful 2 year old son but I feel like I may never be able to complete my family..

GP is going to refer me for recurrent loss investigations if this one goes the way I suspect it will.. In the meantime can anyone give me any hope? Hearing your success stories after several losses is exactly what I need right now

Thank you..

Emma

 

[Bythesea]

Hi Emma, it is harsh to be going through this.
I have a (hopeful) success story for you, please don't lose hope.
After having 2 children without any experience of miscarriage, I had 4 miscarriages in a row in a year trying for number 3. Mine too were all in the first 6-7 weeks, and recurrent miscarriage clinic tests came back clear. I got pregnant in September after the last one in June, so my body had a few months to heal, and so far it's all going as it should. I'm almost 16 weeks, and all is looking good. Nobody really knows why it happened, the only thing they can think of is that I have an unfussy uterus..... maybe I did have a batch of bad eggs that implanted when the shouldn't have. Who knows....
keep going for as long as you can..... I'm sure it'll happen xxx

 

[emma241179]

Thank you! This is exactly what I need right now as am beginning to feel like it's never going to happen for us. My pain getting a lot more intense this evening so I think the third one is imminent..

I'm so sorry for your losses but also so pleased to hear that nothing was found to be wrong and that you've gone on to have sticky bean! It must have felt so good when you passed that dreaded 7 week mark! Wishing you lots of luck and love for this pregnancy.

Just out of interest, I see you're in S.Devon too.. Where were you referred? xxx

 

[Emily0505]

Hi hun.

I'm so sorry for your losses.

I have a son who has recently turned four. I'm currently pregnant but it was a tough journey to get here!

After I had my son, I suffered three consecutive losses the first a mmc at 6 weeks, the second a mmc at eight weeks and the third was a bit of a mystery all round really!

My husband and I were referred for recurrent miscarriage testing and all our results have come back clear and I'm now 22+5 with a baby girl.

I never dreamed we would reach this point and I'm still very anxious that things might still go wrong.

Fingers crossed that there's a rainbow in your future very soon


XX

 

[emma241179]

Thank you Emily, I'm so sorry to hear your journey has been a tough one but huge congratulations on expecting your baby girl! It really lifts my spirits hearing stories like yours and knowing that our happy ending might be around the corner..

Emily/ByTheSea.. Were you advised to wait to TTC after your referral/whilst you were undergoing investigations? I don't really know what to do from here. Husband doesn't want to wait (as long as I'm ready), and part of me thinks if I have a break from trying its going to feel like one massive leap of faith to throw myself back into it at a later date? Any advice very welcome..

xxx

 

[Emily0505]

I had my third mc at the end of May and we were seen for the tests at the beginning of August. We took a break from May to August but my AF arrived around 3 days after our appointment so we started TTC again from then and that's how this lil lady bumpy came about!! I never dreamed we'd catch first cycle but it was obviously meant to be!!

We were just using withdrawal though, so didn't stop properly. We told our consultant and said we wanted to start TTC again and she said that's fine just call them as soon as I knew I was pregnant and they would arrange an early scan.

XX

 

[Bythesea]

We weren't advised not to, just that we had to wait 8 weeks for the blood tests, so in order for them to do the tests we needed to not be pregnant. As it was, I was just pregnant when I had the tests but didn't know at the time.
I'm under Torbay hospital, found the staff at Epu very lovely. I live in the bay.

I also did a few things differently this time around. I cut out gluten and caffeine while ttc, and didn't have sex after I ovulated just in case the egg was lasting longer than it should. We also abstained from sex until after 12 weeks....who knows if any of it made a difference...

 

[emma241179]

Thank you both for being a source of encouragement

ByTheSea - I'm in the bay too. Had my little boy at Torbay but haven't had any dealings with the EPU as all of my losses so far have been before anything would be visible on a scan (for some reason this time round I seem not to have a problem with getting pregnant but with holding onto the pregnancy past 5-6 weeks).

I'm going to try and make some changes this month (mainly to give myself something else to focus on) and am planning on eating a bit healthier, doing some more exercise (not that I'm overweight just hoping that this might help in some way or at least release some stress) and taking some prenatal vitamins (that I've avoided so far as I don't tolerate iron very well).. I'm guessing none of this will magically give me a sticky bean but it can only help..

Wishing you both love and luck with your current pregnancies.. I really hope one day I will follow suit.

Emma xxx

 

[Bythesea]

Yes deffo take pre natal vits, I had been on them mostly for the whole time, as recommendations say to take them for a few months before you start trying.
Good luck, hope it happens for you soon xx

 

[Tonks82]

Emma I've been through this too. Was trying for my 2nd with no problems conceiving my first.
I had 3 early losses between 4-6weeks one after the other. I then had a 4th loss at 8weeks and I'd got my hopes up with that one as I'd got further a long. It's soul destroying and so frustrating as it's hard to get your head round what went wrong.

I was referred to recurrent miscarriage testing and was told to carry on trying in the mean time. I did fall quickly again after the fourth loss and had another little boy on the 6th December so didn't even have my miscarriage appointment in the end. Try not to worry I know it's hard but I've read so many stories of miscarriages happening when ttcing after the first baby. I feel if a woman doesn't experience even 1 MC she is extremely lucky.

Xx

 

[emma241179]

Emma I've been through this too. Was trying for my 2nd with no problems conceiving my first.
I had 3 early losses between 4-6weeks one after the other. I then had a 4th loss at 8weeks and I'd got my hopes up with that one as I'd got further a long. It's soul destroying and so frustrating as it's hard to get your head round what went wrong.

I was referred to recurrent miscarriage testing and was told to carry on trying in the mean time. I did fall quickly again after the fourth loss and had another little boy on the 6th December so didn't even have my miscarriage appointment in the end. Try not to worry I know it's hard but I've read so many stories of miscarriages happening when ttcing after the first baby. I feel if a woman doesn't experience even 1 MC she is extremely lucky.

Xx

Thank you.. It does amaze me the number of women with stories like this where they get their referral and then fall pregnant with a sticky bean before any of the investigations are even complete! I really hope I have a similar outcome. You're right- it is soul destroying and you convince yourself there must be something wrong and that it's never going to happen. I think I built up an unrealistic expectation of how 'easy' TTC number two would be as with my DS it all happened so quickly..

I'm so sorry to hear of your losses but thank you so much for sharing your story and massive congratulations on the safe arrival of your baby boy

xxx

 

[PeanutButter]

Ahh it's nice to see success stories, I'm also seeing a specialist for recurrent miscarriges. I've had 6 so far, currently preg with 7th, but I'm also cramping very badly and expecting this one to end soon to. I've lost mine around 8 weeks. I'm 7 weeks tomorrow with this one x

 

[emma241179]

Hi PeanutButter.. I'm really sorry to hear what a diffficult time you've been having but pleased that this thread is helping you too. Speaking to people that have come out of the other side of this dark hole gives me some hope for a brighter future!

If you don't mind me asking over what time period have your losses been? 6 must have been so hard to endure. I really, really hope this little one sticks for you.

I'm cramping too but still nothing- the waiting game is just the worst.

Keeping everything crossed for you xxx

 

[Bythesea]

Aw p.butter, I keep dipping into the ttc/first tri forum to see how you are doing. I have everything crossed for you, you must be so fed up.
What's the next step for you if it is bad news Hun, has the recurrent miscarriage specialist suggested any ideas? I so, so hope it's just the bean getting comfy into a bruised uterus or something that's causing you the discomfort.
Sending hugs xxxxxx

Emma, I hope you get some answers soon too. I found Torbay quick with getting me into testing and the team really are lovely. I only moved here a year ago so hadn't had any dealings with them before, but I think they've been excellent.

Keep us posted xx

 

[emma241179]

Emma, I hope you get some answers soon too. I found Torbay quick with getting me into testing and the team really are lovely. I only moved here a year ago so hadn't had any dealings with them before, but I think they've been excellent.

Keep us posted xx

Thank you so much, please let us know how this pregnancy progresses too.. Are you having more frequent follow ups under Torbay because of your history?

It's great to hear they've been so helpful, I'll keep you posted with any updates

xxx

 

[Bythesea]

Yes I was scanned every 2 weeks from 6 weeks until the 12wk scan. I also saw a consultant due to the miscarriage history. The day assessment unit has said for me to call whenever I have any concerns, As they understand that I'm much more anxious!
Feel free to pm me anytime Hun

Xx

 

[Emily0505]

I had extra scans with this pregnancy- one at eight weeks, one at ten weeks and then it was the normal 12 + 20 week ones.

XX

 

[emma241179]

Yes I was scanned every 2 weeks from 6 weeks until the 12wk scan. I also saw a consultant due to the miscarriage history. The day assessment unit has said for me to call whenever I have any concerns, As they understand that I'm much more anxious!
Feel free to pm me anytime Hun

Xx

Thank you. It would be good to keep in touch xxx

 

[PeanutButter]

Emma, over 14 months it's all happened, been trying for 20.

By the sea, i haven't even seen the specialist yet! My gp fucked up and forgot to send letter to refer me in october.. so had to wait another 2 months, my first appointment is on the 18th Jan.
I've put myself on aspirin and progesterone pessaries this time, my gp said no but I'd probably miscarry anyway, so whats the harm, fk him. Cramping so badly today though. x

Emma, have you tested anymore? X

 

[emma241179]

If you don't mind me asking where do you get the progesterone from and how do you know in terms of timing and doses for that and the aspirin? It seems crazy that these things aren't made more accessible and transparent if they can do no harm? I did test again today.. I'm on day 35 of a normally 30 day cycle.. I think I'm going crazy with line spotting.. there's the faintest of lines there.. but sometimes I think I look so damn hard I can practically see the antigen strip! In any case it's a lot fainter than my original BFP and I'm cramping quite badly still so I'm not hopeful.. How about you, are you testing regularly too? Xxx