Habayadowa
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I'm new here but just wanted to vent and get some advice from people separated from the situation. I am a few days short of 12wks pregnant with my first child. EDD: March 7th.
Sorry this is a long one.
We told my brother and his wife basically as soon as we learned I was pregnant, since they have 3 children and I wanted advice. Big mistake. Since then they have spent every moment I've talked to them telling me what I'm doing wrong including diet/Dr appts/working/ect and how we need to grow up and be serious from now on. But also telling me to quit my job and get on wic/assistance... I could go on for days, but the biggest issue is our friend.
See, we own our own home and have a friend who needed somewhere to stay very short term, ~3 months because he's moving back from out of town and needed some time to settle in and find his own place. He is paying rent, as well as helping with things we need to fix around the house. But the only room we have spare is my office which will soon be the nursery. He will be gone by November, yet my brother and his wife have decided this is unacceptable, and threatened to come over and evict him themselves, as well as alluded to calling cps for the baby not having it's own room(who won't even be born yet). I told them firmly it's my husbands and my decision who stays in this home, and that it in no way changes or effects our love and concern for our child and was hung up on.
They are very firm in their beliefs and can not be convinced otherwise, and to them giving a helping hand to someone else takes it away from my own family. I'm concerned that they are serious about coming over and causing problems, and have no idea how to deal with this situation.
Thanks for reading and any advice on how to approach this situation is appreciated.
Sorry this is a long one.
We told my brother and his wife basically as soon as we learned I was pregnant, since they have 3 children and I wanted advice. Big mistake. Since then they have spent every moment I've talked to them telling me what I'm doing wrong including diet/Dr appts/working/ect and how we need to grow up and be serious from now on. But also telling me to quit my job and get on wic/assistance... I could go on for days, but the biggest issue is our friend.
See, we own our own home and have a friend who needed somewhere to stay very short term, ~3 months because he's moving back from out of town and needed some time to settle in and find his own place. He is paying rent, as well as helping with things we need to fix around the house. But the only room we have spare is my office which will soon be the nursery. He will be gone by November, yet my brother and his wife have decided this is unacceptable, and threatened to come over and evict him themselves, as well as alluded to calling cps for the baby not having it's own room(who won't even be born yet). I told them firmly it's my husbands and my decision who stays in this home, and that it in no way changes or effects our love and concern for our child and was hung up on.
They are very firm in their beliefs and can not be convinced otherwise, and to them giving a helping hand to someone else takes it away from my own family. I'm concerned that they are serious about coming over and causing problems, and have no idea how to deal with this situation.
Thanks for reading and any advice on how to approach this situation is appreciated.