Boy or Girl, to know or not to know

[nikkie88]

My parents have finally been told about my pregnancy and one of my mum's wishes for me to do is keep the sex of the baby a surprise until they arrive, so i was jus wondering who knew/knows what they;re having or if they waited... and how they felt about it....
I hate surprises and would like to know if a boy or gurl so i wud know what to buy, but if the excitement of naming a boy or girl when they arrive is that exciting i might change my mind! xx

 

[nik106]

We wanted to know, my sister didn't, personally couldn't understand why she wouldn't! My OH's nan didn't want to know, so we agreed we wouldn't say anything and spent many hours not referring to her as a girl, just as "the baby" and then my OH's 5 year old brother went in and told her all about our baby girl Not so much a surprise!!

 

[Lilelephant]

We chose to find out so we can prepare for him x

 

[Hope81]

i would like to know just because it will help me bond earlier with the baby. i would really want a little girl, though i should only pray fra healthy lo but knowing i have a boy it will help me bond with it earlier and prepare better. i think my excitement will be big enough when i will have to wait 20 w to find out lol. i wish we could know the same time with BFP or sth lol

 

[nikkie88]

hmmm, yeah ... that's what i thought, it would be a lot easier on the preperation side, but i just think it will be an extra thing to smile about, i don't mind what it would be as long as it's healthy...
Could just go neutral and leave the sex till the thing pops out!! ha

 

[l_maclean]

our health board refuses to tell you - some bright spark sued them for getting it wrong - so we'd have to pay for a private scan to find out. DH has suggested it, but im a bit of a cheap skate and think about all the other things we could spend the money on. lol

If i could know im not sure i'd want to - and i hate surprises as well, but i dont think anything would beat that moment after all that hard work to find out what you have. .

Nikkie - is this your first, would you be planning on having more. Im not all that concerned about being organised with what to buy cos we're hoping for at least one more - so i'd want all the major stuff to be neutral anyways.

xxx

 

[Lulabell]

I'm intrigued to find out but feel it would not make anything different for me. So have decided to stay team yellow. Be nice to get the surprise after all the pushing. xx

 

[CupcakeMummy]

I am 100% going to find out as early as possible! But then I'm the least patient (& most over excited) person I know!

I think we'll keep it to ourselves for a while once we do find out though.

 

[Bunnykins]

For me personally I loved having the 'present unwrapped' moment whilst at my 20 week scan where I was comfy, not tired and not in pain and could really enjoy and appreciate the news I was having a boy!! I'd still had to wait 20 weeks for it so it didn't feel like I'd lost any of the anticipation if u know what I mean. It's also made it so easy to buy all our stuff, and I've really been able to bond with him, me and oh have almost given him a personality so I already love him so much as his own little person, which I don't think I could have done if he was an 'it'!
Although everyone is different and my sil wanted the team yellow experience and that was right for her, so its very much a personal preference and I think you have to do what is right for you regardless of what your family want, you can always try keep it secret for them out of courtesy but ultimately do what you feel comfortable with xxx

 

[nikkie88]

Everyone's opinion is really good, and there are a lot of pro's either way. i shall just have to see how i feel at the 20 week scan when they ask.. "do u want to know".. i feel it may be hard to bite my tongue and i'll jus burst out with "YEh, what is it!!" lol.. the chances of me saying "nah, im ok" are slim!! lol.x

 

[Sarah13]

I'm firmly in the team yellow camp. When I had my daughter it was lovely finding out what sex she was after giving birth, I can't describe the feeling but I'm looking forward to it again. Boy or girl makes not odds but I would hate to know just now, the sex don't matter it's just baby for now, and I like everyone guessing! I hate the whole pink or blue nursery thing and i wouldnt buy a pink pram in a million years plus everyone buys stuff as soon as baby born so in my mind there's nothing to prepare! Guess it's a totally personal thing about when you want to know, there's no right or wrong, our friends found out but didn't tell anyone so you could always do that if you are good at keeping secrets!

 

[Stacey Marie]

Im due in 7 weeks and dont know the sex of the baby yet. I am so excited for that moment the baby is born and I find out what it is, It will be the best surprise. I think it will help me get through the labour knowing that It wont be long until I find out what I have.

I think if I had found out the sex I would have gone really overboard and bought way too much stuff in pink or blue but not knowing the sex means I have just bought the essentials in neutral and then when baby is here I get to go shopping for all the pink or blue stuff, cant wait!!!
Also all the stuff I have bought like Baby Bouncer, Baby Swing, Play Gym, Toys and Bath etc are all unisex colours which means I can use them next time round and not have to buy it all again!

I you really dont mind what your having the suprise will definatly be worth the wait!!

 

[jomc]

Im firmly team yellow! OH and I look at it as something to focus on during labour... the excitement of wondering what it is!

 

[EmmBee123]

We're firmly team yellow here.

We didn't want to know and are now pleased we didn't find out, the only reason we could think of to find out was for the what colour to buy thing. To us it didn't seem like a good enough reason, we both want the surprise when the midwife says congratulations, it's a xxxxx!

 

[EmmBee123]

We're firmly team yellow here.

We didn't want to know and are now pleased we didn't find out, the only reason we could think of to find out was for the what colour to buy thing. To us it didn't seem like a good enough reason, we both want the surprise when the midwife says congratulations, it's a xxxxx!

 

[MrsHakaxjdx]

we found out even though up to my scan date i was team yellow until walking in there, mainly because we have two boys and we wanted to share what the baby was with them. im glad we have found out now though. obviously having two boys everything is blue in our house so it has been nice to do the spare room pink.
one plus side is my friend who has two girls is now having a boy ive got two boys and having a girl we have just swapped clothes and accessories x

 

[JoJo79]

I found out with our girls and will do this time, like a lot of you say it really makes no odds but im impatient!

Will admit after 2 (rather stroppy lol) girls we would love a lil boy xx

 

[Jayceesmumma]

Im due in 7 weeks and dont know the sex of the baby yet. I am so excited for that moment the baby is born and I find out what it is, It will be the best surprise. I think it will help me get through the labour knowing that It wont be long until I find out what I have.

I think if I had found out the sex I would have gone really overboard and bought way too much stuff in pink or blue but not knowing the sex means I have just bought the essentials in neutral and then when baby is here I get to go shopping for all the pink or blue stuff, cant wait!!!
Also all the stuff I have bought like Baby Bouncer, Baby Swing, Play Gym, Toys and Bath etc are all unisex colours which means I can use them next time round and not have to buy it all again!

I you really dont mind what your having the suprise will definatly be worth the wait!!

Thats my point of view on it too
We are firm team yellow but MIL is bugging us at every opportunity to find out which i find bad coz she knows how much we dont want to know. I found out with both my girls coz thier dad wanted to know, and ive always regretted finding out..
got a 28w scan and a 4d scan at 30w so really gonna have to be strong to avoid the sex lol as i am impatient too and its killed me not finding out lol but i know deep down ill regret it..
Its each to their own really, depending on your situation and if u need to find out or not..
Either way, youll have a beautiful baby at the end of it no matter what gender it is

 

[lanny]

After finding out once and have had 2 team yellows I must say the not knowing is so much better, them few seconds after the baby comes out and you look to find out the sex are priceless,

 

[saraian26]

We have found out everytime! me and hubby have always wanted too and has never made meeting our baby any less exciting.

There is no reason why you cant find out yourselves and just keep it secret - its your pregnancy - dont let people dictate how you do things no matter how well they mean, and no matter who it is. You would be surprised how much more forceful a well meaning mum and dads opinion can get after baby arrives.