Bloke cheated on me, would like some reassurance please xx

Discussion in 'Second Trimester' started by Amanda & Bump, Oct 27, 2005.

  1. Amanda & Bump

    Amanda & Bump Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Oct 26, 2005
    Messages:
    53
    Likes Received:
    0
    Im 26, we're expecting our first child. It happened abit soon in to relationship. he's been acting strange, needing space etc. Which i gave him,. We then decided to make another go of things and we really were getting on great, then i found out while he was having his space and i was upset, he met someone else....gutted!! trying to give it another go, he says he really wants to now and i want us to be a family etc. Need some friendly people to talk to really.
    thanks for reading.
    love Amanda & Bump

    xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

    P.s the relationship section is slow on replies and i'm new to this so thought i'd try this one too. xx
     
  2. Sarah W Baby Belly

    Sarah W Baby Belly Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Jun 14, 2005
    Messages:
    1,924
    Likes Received:
    0
    Hi Amanda

    So sorry to hear what you are going through.

    I don't know exactly how you are feeling because it hasn't happened to me but there are loads of us here to support you, so feel free to let it all out.

    Love and hugs to you
     
  3. Amanda & Bump

    Amanda & Bump Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Oct 26, 2005
    Messages:
    53
    Likes Received:
    0
    Thankyou so much, i am working in the offices now with another pregnant woman and she's got me started on this, it's so nice to have other pregnant women to talk to. Is it your first child and how far on are you??
    xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
     
  4. Amanda & Bump

    Amanda & Bump Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Oct 26, 2005
    Messages:
    53
    Likes Received:
    0
    Thankyou so much, i am working in the offices now with another pregnant woman and she's got me started on this, it's so nice to have other pregnant women to talk to. Is it your first child and how far on are you??
    xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
     
  5. Amanda & Bump

    Amanda & Bump Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Oct 26, 2005
    Messages:
    53
    Likes Received:
    0
    it's so nice to have other mums to be to talk to. My friend from work got me started on here, she's also pregnant which is really nice.
    How many weeks are you?? Is it your first??
    love Amanda & Bump
    xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
     
  6. Amanda & Bump

    Amanda & Bump Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Oct 26, 2005
    Messages:
    53
    Likes Received:
    0
    it's so nice to have other mums to be to talk to. My friend from work got me started on here, she's also pregnant which is really nice.
    How many weeks are you?? Is it your first??
    love Amanda & Bump
    xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
     
  7. Amanda & Bump

    Amanda & Bump Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Oct 26, 2005
    Messages:
    53
    Likes Received:
    0
    Sorry dont know whats going on, comp has gone mad, it's the works one of course and i'm still trying to get used to it, sorry girlies!!!

    :roll:

    xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
     
  8. Sarah W Baby Belly

    Sarah W Baby Belly Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Jun 14, 2005
    Messages:
    1,924
    Likes Received:
    0
    Yes, this is my first child and I am going into the third trimester on saturday!
     
  9. Amanda & Bump

    Amanda & Bump Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Oct 26, 2005
    Messages:
    53
    Likes Received:
    0
    oh cool. How are you feeling?? I'm due at the end of March.

    xx
     
  10. Sarah W Baby Belly

    Sarah W Baby Belly Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Jun 14, 2005
    Messages:
    1,924
    Likes Received:
    0
    I still feel really well and have been blooming (outwards) nicely!

    Which stage are you at and how are you feeling?
     
  11. Amanda & Bump

    Amanda & Bump Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Oct 26, 2005
    Messages:
    53
    Likes Received:
    0
    I'll be 20 wks on monday ( in 2nd tri) not quite blooming but feel better than i did, with all probs. I actually feel good at the moment, and i can feel my baby move but it's too small for anyone else to feel yet, think it will be soon tho. Are you scared?? I'm petrified!! I wanna look bigger tho, i'm tidy apparantly...haha!! I want a big bump!!

    xx
     
  12. Sarah W Baby Belly

    Sarah W Baby Belly Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Jun 14, 2005
    Messages:
    1,924
    Likes Received:
    0
    I'm 'tidy' as well apparently. Which has been a blessing actually and I'm not really looking forward to getting really big.

    When are you due for your 20 week scan and do you want to know what you are having?
     
  13. nicki

    nicki Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Jul 12, 2005
    Messages:
    3,356
    Likes Received:
    0
    Hi Amanda,

    I've replied to you on the relationship bit.

    Nicki.x :D
     
  14. *saulino*

    *saulino* Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Jul 10, 2005
    Messages:
    10,473
    Likes Received:
    0
    Hello

    Im sorry to hear that and i hope all works out for you and at least you have a whole lot of support here and girls who have gone through similar things. Well keep us up dated and agin so sorry.
    Katrina :D
     
  15. SarahB

    SarahB Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Jun 7, 2005
    Messages:
    1,815
    Likes Received:
    0
    Hi Amanda, thinking about you ((((()))))
     
  16. newbump

    newbump Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Mar 30, 2005
    Messages:
    568
    Likes Received:
    0
    Hi Amanda

    Sorry to hear about your upset, must be hard for you to deal with. Just make sure you want to give it another go for the right reasons, not just because you are carrying his baby, That will not make things ok between you. I really hope everything works out for and you can be the family you want to be, lifes to short to stay angry.

    Good luck hun xx
     
  17. emma1976

    emma1976 Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    May 13, 2005
    Messages:
    673
    Likes Received:
    0
    Hey hun, welcome to the forum, I am over in third trimester but still come on here to see what the other ladies are up to.

    I Have had loads of problems with the father of my baby. Got pregnant early with him I went hormonal and he went off for weekends and nights out and couldn't cope. I ended up leaving him on the day he decided a party in London was more important than saving what we had. I say go for it of you can make another go of it. He may have been scared but realises what he is losing. Shame mine wasn't like that really. I am sure he has cheated on me thats another reason why I can't be with him as I don't trust him one bit. A few things happened but I don't have 100% proof but he was a tart before I met him and will continue to be one. He's 39 going on 20 and afraid of commitment.

    If you can trust him and you feel that it's worth it then try to make it work. Some blokes get scared when a baby appears in the equasion, at least he told you as well, which is a good thing as he doesn;t want to hide anything (my ex denied it all - even lippy on his shirt and on the collar). You are his main priority by the sounds of it. Try to put that behind you and work on being a family, if it happens again then tell him where to go as you don't need that but sounds as though he regrets whats happened and wants to be with you and the baby :) Private Message me anytime if you like.

    I am alone and feel better without all the worry and I know I will be OK. I don't have his support but I have loads of other support and that's all I need. Don't feel you can't do it alone if it gets too much for you, you'll be OK.

    Keep us posted hun and good luck.

    Em xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
     
  18. Amanda & Bump

    Amanda & Bump Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Oct 26, 2005
    Messages:
    53
    Likes Received:
    0
    I'm there on wednesday morning. Don't want to know what sex it's going to be. He does but i'm not going to hopefully....really want a suprise after the horrible experience of labour, lol.

    You might not get big and if you do, it doesn't matter as long as your baby is happy and healthy etc.

    Thanks for everything xxx
     
  19. Amanda & Bump

    Amanda & Bump Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Oct 26, 2005
    Messages:
    53
    Likes Received:
    0
    Having a BAD day today. We decided to give it another go and now it's all a mess, don't know what he wants. Told him we both need space to decide what we really want. My head is a total mess.
    :(

    Thankyou for everything, your all great!! xx
     
  20. Amanda & Bump

    Amanda & Bump Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Oct 26, 2005
    Messages:
    53
    Likes Received:
    0
    Thankyou so much. Feeling so sad today!! xxx
     

Share This Page

  1. This site uses cookies to help personalise content, tailor your experience and to keep you logged in if you register.
    By continuing to use this site, you are consenting to our use of cookies.
    Dismiss Notice