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I keep being invited to baby stuff, baby showers, christenings, birthday parties etc. I've avoided going since the second miscarriage but I think it's starting to get noticed.
My family isn't any help at all, they don't think I'm bothered by it because apparently 'I'm over it' ... I've been making excuses, and they just come back with stuff like ... 'ohhhh and why are you not going to this one' before i even know it's happening.
If i go I'll just be miserable, and if i don't people will just think I'm being a dick.
I have a christening in July, and there are going to be 2 new borns, 5 under 1s and a few toddlers, and ofc pregnant people. I know it's been a couple months, but when I see new borns or pregnant women i get upset and think why not me etc.
Also supposed to go to a baby shower the start to may, for my cousin (I've mentioned on here before) who has the same due date as I did with my first mc. How the fuck am i supposed to go to that and not get emotional?! People are just like ohh get over it, celebrate what's here and now. Fair enough but I was still pregnant, and I still lost something huge.
I guess people don't understand until they've been through it.
Anyone have any advice on how to handle starting to go to things like this again? xx
My family isn't any help at all, they don't think I'm bothered by it because apparently 'I'm over it' ... I've been making excuses, and they just come back with stuff like ... 'ohhhh and why are you not going to this one' before i even know it's happening.
If i go I'll just be miserable, and if i don't people will just think I'm being a dick.
I have a christening in July, and there are going to be 2 new borns, 5 under 1s and a few toddlers, and ofc pregnant people. I know it's been a couple months, but when I see new borns or pregnant women i get upset and think why not me etc.
Also supposed to go to a baby shower the start to may, for my cousin (I've mentioned on here before) who has the same due date as I did with my first mc. How the fuck am i supposed to go to that and not get emotional?! People are just like ohh get over it, celebrate what's here and now. Fair enough but I was still pregnant, and I still lost something huge.
I guess people don't understand until they've been through it.
Anyone have any advice on how to handle starting to go to things like this again? xx