Being made to feel silly

[Bunny432]

I feel every time I speak to my GP about TTC she bypasses it, even the specialist I spoke to about the problems I had with an over active thyroid seemed to bypass the fact we are TTC. I feel it's because of my age? I'm 22 and OH is 23, feel the doctors deem me too young but we have been together 6 years and lived together for 2. Saving for a mortgage and both on decent wage. I feel if I was older they would be more concerned for me mainly due to my chance of conceiving.

Fact is I've always wanted a child, even very young, but knew I had a lot of growing up, getting to know myself me of course partying to do. We're both not big drinkers nor do we go out a lot and have both been mature for years and wanted a family but waited. I've always wanted to be around 40 when my first child is around 18 so who is the doctor to plan my life?

Sorry just needed a rant people that understand xxxx

 

[misssparkles]

Hi chick im 21 and my oh is 22 we live together planning to get married next year love each other dearly enough money to be happy anf the doctors did the same to me lovey and keep wanting to put me on mini pills and keep saying theres plenty of time its insensitive and rude and I tend to tell them so xxxx

 

[Bunny432]

It is insensitive isn't it Hun, just because we're young doesn't mean we're not ready. I knew this year I was ready as I travelled last year and feel content in my life and baby would just make our family perfect.

They say we have loads of time but that's not the point. I wanted a child at this age because I like the age gap between me and my mum as she is only 44 now xxx

 

[misssparkles]

I had a feeling somethig might have been wrong aftrer I came off the depo after being on it so long
I had to beg for tests only because I had been bleeding so long. The doctors kept patronising me asking if we where ready and one doctor even said she wanted to stop my bleeding with a tablet to helo turned out it was a mini pill so im glad I never took it. Recently I rang doctors again saying I wqs sick of t specially after my chemical last month the bleeding cant be natural its stoppin me concieveing once again got told I need mini pills etc so I refused.

Rediculous it's so horrible they supposed to be there for you xxx

 

[sunnyland27]

I'm 27, have our own house, car, lots of pets, OH has a good job and I have my own business (although I've given that up recently to care for my grandparents), and the doctor knows we've been trying for years, and they make me feel like that too, so it's not just your age! It's the fact most (not all) doctors have terrible social skills and no empathy. Mine almost laughs when I tell her I'm worried about infertility! I mean surely as a woman she understands how important that is to someone? Told her my mam tried for 10 yrs from age 19 and she said "well you're here aren't u?" (not in a nice way, in a raised eyebrowed way, like I was an idiot for even considering that an issue). They are supposed to reassure you, take you seriously and talk through any health worries. I have had so many rolling eyes

MissSparkles, they give the pill for everything by the sound of it, but they don't realise that to just prescribe it to someone ttc is so insanely insensitive. But, if you're having irregular bleeding and habe been trying for more than a year it could be your answer if u take it for just 2-3 cycles, then get back to babymaking full force. Bet you'd get your bfp 1st month back and itd be worth the wait. Think of it as a medicine to regulate your hormones, not a contraceptive.

 

[misssparkles]

Hi hun really its just a joke isnt it. Its so strange my bleeding has fully stopped for over two weeks now so im beginning to feel normal and I started dong quai today fx ay xxx

 

[Natalilly1288]

Me and my oh are both 25 and in same position been together 6 years own house car good job and when I had my mc the doctor wasn't very sympathetic just sed there's plenty of time your still young! That's not the point! Fed up of ppl patronising me! Xxx

 

[Bunny432]

I wish I could say I'm glad so many of you understand but I'm angry you've all been made to feel this way. I go see my specialist 6th June so I'm going to go on full force, may even cry see what they will do to help me.

My best friend said about going on Pill to regulate and I'll more then likely get pregnant as soon as I come off it. We will see xxxxx

 

[mrs nel]

Hi girls,
If it's any consolation in 29 and hubby is 30 and we are under referral to the infertility clinic at the mo. And we've been told not to worry as we r still very young! C'mon,I dunno about the very!
Sometimes it's as though the docs don't understand that allow we are just another patient to them it's everything to us!
Lynne,Xx

 

[misssparkles]

Hi girls thought id updat you all on this as its so relevent.
I went to urgent care after feeling really unwell and bad stabbin pain in my stomach. The first nurse said that if I was pregnant there is nothing she cud do andnshe wudnt do it anyway if she cud and then said I shud have gone to my doctor.
I then saw a doctor on shift who scoffed actually shud his head when I said I had a chemical pregnancy last month and said there is no such thing... told me to go to a surgical unit because it might be my appendix andncompletely ignored the fact I saidni might be pregnant...
I then waited two hours for blood results for anotuer jr doctor to say everything was finr and I wasnt! Pregnant ... after asking for the results and blood test. I was so upset by thid point to then be patronised again and told its all post depo problems and its probably painful ovulation. .. she thrn askes us our age and then laughed and said we where stikl far to young and not to worry. And to let my body continue its process after depo.

Ive felt so angry and upset and not to mention the sheer attitude of that first nurse.. and then the doctor laughin at me after that. It knocked me sick I was nearly sobbin and my oh was wiping tears from his own eyes in the discreet way he could.

Seems like doctors donr give a crap so much for patient care. Bloody laughin at us.

Then get told not to worry anyway xxx

 

[Natalilly1288]

I would def raise a complaint how bloody rude!! Take care hunny xxxxx

 

[misssparkles]

Sorry to read about your mc natalilly xxx

 

[jodie34]

Dr's in my opinion are useless a dr we saw me im 35 hubby is 41 basically said u only need one sperm to get pregnant hmmmm yeah i bloody know that but iwant to know why i could have 2 mc then 2 kids my dstook 5 years and now here i am 5 and a half years later and not a sniff off a bfp and the dr's are as much use as a chocolate fire guard xxxx

 

[CTD]

This is so true and same thing happened to me. I never stick up for myself but glad I did this time.

Been going to the doctors about trying for a baby for a while and she's nice but kept brushing it aside and telling me to come back when I've been trying for a year. So I went back this month cos it's now a year and she said I'm only 24 so why not wait a bit longer and see how you get on!? So I said to be honest I would rather do something now, I've been with my OH 9 years and are now married so its the right time. So she said ok and is referring me!

Why should age come into it!? Not all 20-something year olds are immature nowadays! xx

 

[misssparkles]

Couldn't agree with you more chick good on u for sticking up for yourself doctors always make u feel like ur going ott about things xxx

 

[Bunny432]

I'm going to my specialist on the 6th and going with the same attitude you have CTD. I'm only22 and OH 23 but were mature and stable and know what we want and I am actually sick to death and fed up with the eay I get treated by doctors. It's war now!!!!! I'm not leaving the hospital till plans are made.

Miss sparkles I am horrified to see you got treated that way. Are you going to complain?? Xxx

 

[misssparkles]

I would do but they wont listen anyway I work at the hospital too its shameful xxxxx