Hi All, I had an awful 3 year relationship with a man that cheated on me every opportunity he had, but manipulated me so much that I stuck around.... Stupid I know. Anyway, unplanned, I found out I was pregnant with my little boy who will be 2 on the 23rd of this month. Upon finding out I was pregnant, the father became verbally abusive and his 6 year old daughter would hit me in the stomach, if I asked for support he would shout things such as "Throw yourself down the stairs and do us all a favour" I decided enough was enough and continued the pregnancy on my own. I had a very difficult pregnancy, lots of complications and in and out of hospital. If I sent him an email to keep him in the loop I would get a reply of "Attention Seeker" After the birth I allowed him to visit baby etc but on every visit he would be abusive, shouting, calling me a terrible mother, throwing things at me, refusing to leave etc.... The police got involved and told me I need to stop visits and it needs to go to court because as his name is on the birth certificate, if he takes my baby, there is nothing they can do unless there is a court order that says he lives with me & father only has access. Access now takes place once a fortnight on a Saturday and returns Sunday. (He is known for missing visits) and is still trying to be a control freak and verbally abusive on messages this far down the line. Only now it doesn't hurt me. I got with my new partner in August of last year. Low & behold he kicked off about that as I have another man around HIS son. Unexpectedly, we found out I was expecting baby 2 and I am about 7 weeks gone so far.... I am dreading the ex finding out as it's something else to kick off about. Anyway, my new partner is absolutely amazing, he & his whole family are so accepting of my toddler & his mum calls him her grandson. And I know we haven't been together long but he is a great father figure in his life. When the little one is at his real dads he always says he's missing him. I think my partner is feeling a little insecure though, he asked yesterday what our baby would call him? I said Daddy obviously! Then he said but Ryleigh calls me Malc, it'll be confusing for them both if they're both calling me something different. I never thought of it until now but he's right isn't he. What would you suggest in this situation?