I had my first midwife appointment today and it was awful. After all the usual LMP and stuff I explained to her that I thought I had some spotting early on and at 5 weeks 2 days I went to the AE and they scanned and found an empty pregnancy sac. I told her that they wanted me to come back to the EPU for a scan the following week, but that I left for America the next day and I wasn't able to have a follow up appointment. (I did have a private scan in America at 7 weeks which showed a little bean with a HB, but I didn't tell her about this as I was afraid they wouldn't give me another scan)
So she says... You know you shouldn't have flown right? I told her that no I didn't know....no one had told me that. She then said...Your baby is most likely dead. WTF! She said that air travel during the first trimester ALMOST ALWAYS ends in miscarriage! Then she proceeded to make a racist comment about a certain ethnic group, their insistence to fly during the first tri, and their babies having no heartbeat when they get back. It wasn't my ethnic group, but I found it quite offensive and I am shocked that a professional would say such a thing.
The consultant at the AE knew that I was flying to America for 3 weeks and she didn't say anything about this resulting in a miscarriage. I also did some research before the trip and I never saw anything that said what she told me. I think this woman is insane, but it's still got me worried.
Even if what she says is true....what kind of person says point blank "your baby is most likely dead" with no proof? There was also a few other things that happened during the visit that weren't quite right, but this post would be way too long. I guess I'll have to wait and see what happens at my next scan.
So she says... You know you shouldn't have flown right? I told her that no I didn't know....no one had told me that. She then said...Your baby is most likely dead. WTF! She said that air travel during the first trimester ALMOST ALWAYS ends in miscarriage! Then she proceeded to make a racist comment about a certain ethnic group, their insistence to fly during the first tri, and their babies having no heartbeat when they get back. It wasn't my ethnic group, but I found it quite offensive and I am shocked that a professional would say such a thing.
The consultant at the AE knew that I was flying to America for 3 weeks and she didn't say anything about this resulting in a miscarriage. I also did some research before the trip and I never saw anything that said what she told me. I think this woman is insane, but it's still got me worried.
Even if what she says is true....what kind of person says point blank "your baby is most likely dead" with no proof? There was also a few other things that happened during the visit that weren't quite right, but this post would be way too long. I guess I'll have to wait and see what happens at my next scan.
Really sorry to hear you've had to go through such an awful experience!!!
Is she going to be your midwife all the way through your pregnancy? If so I would request someone else 
How on earth did I and my thousands of air travelling work colleagues ever manage to give birth to healthy babies then! I'm a pilot with a baby, I know hundreds of cabin crew and pilots who have babies, and do you know what - all of them are at work until they find out they are pregnant. It stands to reason, if you fly for a living you continue to fly until you find out you are pregnant, which means that usually 4-5 weeks of the first trimester is spent flying round the world.
and I am still very much pregnant.... 
