heya, thanks for all your replies. i didnt know i had to make a thread all for me for becoming 24 weeks! lol i did celebrate though!
my dad isnt the type to expres his feelings and emotions, hell we hardly even talk somedays, i find it hard to talk to him, and my sister is a complete nightmare. every morning without fail my dad and sister are shouting at each other
it is so depressing. i did tell the council i would be homeless on the 1st April as this was my 'kicking out' date and i handed an eviction letter to them too. i wanted to be independant and have my own space, and feel comfortable about getting up in the night and having a cup of tea if i wanted. I feel uncomfortable enough as it is living here (when my dad wants to go to bed then we have to turn our tvs etc off, so that he doesnt get disturbed! were 20 and 18 ffs)
i feel like an utter faliure i really wanted to set up home on my own (even without OH) and do this. now im confined to one room where i wont be able to relax.
i think the thing that gets to my dad most, is that he feels my OH should be providing more for me and his future baby. My Oh has a one bedroom flat, but the walls are covered in mould, its absolutely tiny,no storage space at all. in the 3 years he has lived there he has never used the bath.its currently filled with clothes with 3 cockatiels in the bathroom.
there is no heating or hot water, the washing machine is broken, there is a tiny fridge which he doesnt use, he doesnt cook there or clean there or bath there or get his clothes washed there.and its just an utter mess if im honest. Simple things i ask him when the last time he cleaned the toilet was, and he says it was whenever i did it! which is usually about a month because i dont live there! his things stay wherever they drop. ( i should have known what he would be like really, his mums house is full of crap) he shared a flat with his brother and his brothers girlfriend when i met him, and the place was immaculate, but that was because the GF did it all! hes never had to look after himself, his excuse is that he doesnt feel like doing the washingup or tidying up. i say well no one ever feels like doing it! but it has to be done.
i feel that my Oh should be more motivated and determind to sort things out for me and his baby.seeing as i cant get anywhere to live alot more rests on his head.
he had to buy the lease on the flat and so got into a bit of debt about £8000 i think and he has been struggling to pay things, he went to court last month about reposession of the flat, but they agreed that he can pay the mortgage with £100 extra on top. he was in £2000 of arrears and hadnt paid the mortgage since july last year! i didnt know!
Hes so laid back,( i had to tell him today not to bother coming over and that he should stay at the flat and tidy up instead) the least he could do is keep the place tidy and then start thinking about getting the problems solved. i called him and he has been shredding letters all evening! the kitchen is a tip as he uses things and cooks but cant wash up without boiling the kettle! so he doesnt bother. the mould is that bad that i came back from work one day last year and the unit had fallen off the wall because the bracket rusted away!
i dont think he realises that when the baby is here, it will be even harder to sort it out! as it wont be his priority. i just dont know how to get that through to him! i was thinking today, what do i do? give him a time limit? i feel like im doing this on my own. Im living at my dads sleeping in a single bed, he comes over every evening but doesnt really talk much, its me doing all the talking and worrying. i wouldnt say what we have at the moment constitutes a relationship, we havent spent any proper time alone in ages, as his flat is so gross im not going round there for some 'intimate time' and my dad or my sister is always in here.
i lay in the bath and feel Sophie kick and i feel so lucky that this is my first pregnancy and everything is going well and baby is fine and healthy, and then i start to worry about the mess im in and think i shouldnt even be having a baby, when i dont have anywhere to live and my OH doesnt realise im trying to do this on my own.
i want your honest opinions about what to do because im stuck and im fed up and im lonely.
im going to shut up now. because ive written loads.
i dont know where to start!
Wahey!! Congratulations!!
You really deserve a lovely little home to set up with your OH ready for her arrival. xx
what a twat
I thought he looked quite clean on your facebook pic to not have had a bath for months! 
