Anyone else have unexplained? :(

[PeanutButter]

I've posed in my other thread about recurrent miscarriges about it, but thought I'd post in here to.

Yesterday i was diagnosed unexplained. I was hoping there was something wrong so they could fix it, but there isn't. Now i feel like I'm just going to miscarry everytime.
They told me to keep trying and eventually one will stick.. what? Well it's bloody easy for them to say that.. the heartache and disappointment after every one isn't enough, theyre just like yeah eventually one will stick just keep having them.

They're sending me to a more specialised clinic in Birmingham, they said they'd be able to run some extra tests. :/ which I guess I'm going to be waiting another 3+ months for an appointment.

Just feel like we should stop now, after I started bleeding with my second miscarriage i said to my husband, we're never going to have a baby are we... xx

 

[blacksnow]

I am sorry you are going through this. It is great you are moving to another clinic to have some additional tests done. It means you will be closer and closer to your dream. You should also keep in mind that positive attitude plays huge role and can't be ignored. So remain positive and yr dreams come true. All the best

 

[phonixgirl]

Honey could you have the tests my clinic do as well if you're coming to Birmingham? They're recurrent miscarriage specialists and are in Coventry xx

 

[FBTTN8079]

Hey hon sorry your having to go through this, I just wanted to say that our close friends were unexplained and went down the IVF route but now have 2 gorgeous girls (3 & 1) through their IVF cycles don't ever give up hope xxx

 

[PeanutButter]

Thanks for the replies

Phonix i live close to bham, I think that's why they're sending me to that one? X

FBTTN, I don't know whether they'd suggest it to me? Cos if i have ivf won't i just lose the baby again? They said they don't think it's chromosome issues :/ idk.

Think i might pay to have my nk cells tested. Xx

 

[FBTTN8079]

I'd definitely have testing for NK cells and have all the immune testing like the girls have said, they won't stop because of the losses but they should be investigating further for sure!
Our clinic is abroad but they offer all of the immune testing bloods etc and there should be places here that do the same. X

 

[phonixgirl]

People come from all over the country to have the tests I had and it includes uterine NK cell testing. It's only down the road from you really. I'll find a link...

 

[phonixgirl]

https://www2.warwick.ac.uk/fac/med/research/tsm/bru/clinic/

 

[PeanutButter]

I've herd of prof. Quenby alot! I want to go, but hubby thinks that nhs does all the tests I've tried telling him. He says he'll ask next appointment. Ugh.
I had a blood test for auto immune idk really know what that was? I've read there are loads of immune issues that could be wrong but they don't test? Xx

 

[Blackcat]

I was talking to a lady who had been told the same thing, and has a similar history to you. She went through IVF and is now 30+ weeks pregnant. She wonders if if was just having the progesterone pessaries that helped this one stick

 

[phonixgirl]

It's so frustrating that they don't look into things more and that men think the NHS do everything when they don't!

 

[phonixgirl]

Also although I have on/off pcos, ours is unexplained too

 

[Mar_15]

Men and their belief in doctors - that really resonates with me. We're about to start IUI, hopefully next week, so I've been googling like crazy and OH is not in anyway interested in possible side effects or anything because the doctor hasn't spoken to us about them. The doctors we've had have been lovely but we're clearly just a statistic for them and there's a definite one-size-fits-all approach.

I guess it is easier when you aren't the one who will actually be dealing with the side effects. When I think about the fuss he made when he cut his hand open last year... "If my hand doesn't heal, I won't be able to do my job!!" (he is a computer programmer) - where is the eye-rolling emoticon when you need it?

 

[phonixgirl]

Hahaha! Yep, that sounds like my husband (who is currently hungover in bed... he won't change anything since they basically told him he has perfect sperm!).

I wanted acupuncture with my IVF but he was very much against it until a consultant recommended it. As both cycles failed, he believes it's a waste of money again so I'm not doing it this time.

He won't take any vitamins and believes I shouldn't take any either. I tell him they make things better but he said I could make things "go the other way" and make things worse??? He says if I was meant to take them then the doctor would prescribe them. This has caused lots of arguments in the past, but he's not the one bleeding all the time.

I'm getting upset and angry now as he went out and got drunk last week as well so that's two weeks on the trot... Obviously in two or three weeks or so he will have to give a sample, and for all we know the problem could well be his sperm!!!