Linzie2012
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So my mother is a regular drinker the past year but gets increasingly drunk. In all honesty growing up was difficult, I moved out at 15. She divorced from my dad last year after a 2 year affair.
She phoned me drunk a few months ago saying her current partner is beating her etc & misses my dad - following morning she texted that it was all lies. Over the years she also lied about having breast cancer & many other petty things that built over time. She always messed with mine & sisters heads. When I met my OH she was telling people he beats me & he has other women !! Telling us we were accidents etc when we were only children.
Anyway, she phones me tonight drunk. Wanting to know sex of baby. She's on the phone " tell your mummy babe" she's never called herself mummy or me babe before, we've never showed each other affection such as love you's or hugs - I now find I weird & strange to accept, she's acting like someone she has never been in the last 27 years I've known her.
Anyway back to it - she was constantly repeating herself & asking why in a horrible drunk tone.
I despise drunk people & cannot communicate to them never mind discussing my child to one.
I told her I had to go & hang up.
Question is:
1- is it bad what I have done in not talking to her about it whilst she's drunk ?
2- how do I gain trust of her having my child on her own ? So many what ifs? Is she drunk? Was she drunk ? My OH thinks he cannot do it without her being supervised at ours, but booze & fag breath on my baby
She is clearly a alcoholic, it's every night & it's not just one its until she's steaming. When she's visits you can see by looking at her, she's all greasy looking, pale, yellow eyed.
She doesn't want help & it's difficult when her current partner is exactly like it.
It seems as if my both sisters on give a damn, but why should I have to deal with her when I want a happy stress free pregnancy.
She phoned me drunk a few months ago saying her current partner is beating her etc & misses my dad - following morning she texted that it was all lies. Over the years she also lied about having breast cancer & many other petty things that built over time. She always messed with mine & sisters heads. When I met my OH she was telling people he beats me & he has other women !! Telling us we were accidents etc when we were only children.
Anyway, she phones me tonight drunk. Wanting to know sex of baby. She's on the phone " tell your mummy babe" she's never called herself mummy or me babe before, we've never showed each other affection such as love you's or hugs - I now find I weird & strange to accept, she's acting like someone she has never been in the last 27 years I've known her.
Anyway back to it - she was constantly repeating herself & asking why in a horrible drunk tone.
I despise drunk people & cannot communicate to them never mind discussing my child to one.
I told her I had to go & hang up.
Question is:
1- is it bad what I have done in not talking to her about it whilst she's drunk ?
2- how do I gain trust of her having my child on her own ? So many what ifs? Is she drunk? Was she drunk ? My OH thinks he cannot do it without her being supervised at ours, but booze & fag breath on my baby
She is clearly a alcoholic, it's every night & it's not just one its until she's steaming. When she's visits you can see by looking at her, she's all greasy looking, pale, yellow eyed.
She doesn't want help & it's difficult when her current partner is exactly like it.
It seems as if my both sisters on give a damn, but why should I have to deal with her when I want a happy stress free pregnancy.