BabyBrain
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He's normally very good but this weekend he's really pissed me off! The arrival of our new bottles on Friday was a big deal for me, the trauma of having one of the tommee tippee ones explode and soak me, Bertie, the sofa and the cushion in milk was the final straw. The very first feed was going brilliantly, Bertie was a lot happier and not gasping for breath or swallowing loads of air. I commented on how much calmer he was and OH said "well make sure you still wind him"....no babe I was just going to leave him 
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Then last night I was preparing the bottles for overnight. Baring in mind I had to wash them, boil the kettle and wait for it to cool, sterilise the bottles and make them up I was in the kitchen for about 20 minutes. Bertie was a bit unsettled and grizzling, not full on crying, in the lounge so OH picked him up for a cuddle....he held him for all of 5 minutes then put him back in his bouncer, came into the kitchen and said "I take it you can hear that!". What really annoys me is he has this sarcastic little laugh when he makes shitty comments thinking I will think he's being helpful when really he's being a twat.
I was really annoyed. Yes I'm Bertie's mummy and every time he cries or seems upset it breaks my heart. I would love to be able to sit on the sofa all day and cuddle my boy but I have other things to do for his care too. And when his daddy is home I should be able to do them knowing he's there to help me out. Not once in 6 weeks have I asked my OH to help me over night with feeding, even when he was on paternity leave and I was recovering from the c-section. I do all the feeding, 99% of the nappy changes, I do all the washing and getting dressed, all the activities and play time. I don't always get it right and yes sometimes I do have to leave the baby to cry a bit but I'm doing my best and that's all I can do. A bit more recognition and less stupid comments would be very much appreciated!
. Then last night I was preparing the bottles for overnight. Baring in mind I had to wash them, boil the kettle and wait for it to cool, sterilise the bottles and make them up I was in the kitchen for about 20 minutes. Bertie was a bit unsettled and grizzling, not full on crying, in the lounge so OH picked him up for a cuddle....he held him for all of 5 minutes then put him back in his bouncer, came into the kitchen and said "I take it you can hear that!". What really annoys me is he has this sarcastic little laugh when he makes shitty comments thinking I will think he's being helpful when really he's being a twat.
I was really annoyed. Yes I'm Bertie's mummy and every time he cries or seems upset it breaks my heart. I would love to be able to sit on the sofa all day and cuddle my boy but I have other things to do for his care too. And when his daddy is home I should be able to do them knowing he's there to help me out. Not once in 6 weeks have I asked my OH to help me over night with feeding, even when he was on paternity leave and I was recovering from the c-section. I do all the feeding, 99% of the nappy changes, I do all the washing and getting dressed, all the activities and play time. I don't always get it right and yes sometimes I do have to leave the baby to cry a bit but I'm doing my best and that's all I can do. A bit more recognition and less stupid comments would be very much appreciated!
So I replied, "do u not think I know that. I deal with him all day every day, what do u know? How on earth do I cope when ur at work?". The look he gave me was priceless but it shut him up 
