A little bit scared!

[Babymakes5]

Hi everyone. I'm 31 and I've been single for almost a year now,since my husband of 10 years left me for my best friend. We have 4 children,age 9,7,5 & 3. I have been dating someone for a while but it's over as he didn't want anything serious,and I found out yesterday morning that I'm 4 weeks pregnant. He's refusing to speak to me about it,says he's too busy,but I think he's just in shock. My friends think I'm mad to keep the baby but I could never bring myself to have an abortion,and it may be my last chance to have a baby. We have recently found the cancer gene in our family,so I have to be tested soon. My mum is positive and is having a mastectomy and hysterectomy after Christmas,and this will be my option if I'm positive too. I am also moving house soon,and my divorce has just come through. I'm scared that I'm taking on a bit too much and that I'm not going to be able to cope as a single parent of 5. I also had SPD with my last two pregnancies and my children and I all have a connective tissue disorder,which makes our joints too bendy and at risk of dislocation. Am I absolutely stark raving bonkers?! And what do I do if I can't cope? I'm so confused right now as I'm also overjoyed at the thought of having another baby. Help!!

 

[Mum2betash]

I'm sorry I can't help, I just wanted to say sorry what you're going through. Im sure you will do just as fantastic job as your last 4 and will cope just fine. Do you have family or friends that could help out should you need it. I hope things get sorted for you soon and it's not too stressful xxx

 

[girly2007]

You can and will cope! From what I've read, terminating ths pregnancy isn't for you and you shouldn't be encouraged to do so by anyone!! Good luck hun xxx

 

[hayz21]

I've just read this post. I'm sorry that you are struggling with your situation. It sounds like you really want this baby. All may seem hard now but things always have a way of working themselves out. I understand you have a lot of genetic conditions u r worried about. Don't worry, same here. In my family we have clubbed feet, hip dislocation from birth, diabetes (just to name a few). I am pregnant with my 2nd child and am also single. If u ever fancy a chat about baby worries, or just to speak to another single mum, u know where i am x